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Hi Ryan,

I have been with this guy for a while now, and we have gotten to the point of having sex, but he refuses to wear a condom. I told him it will not happen unless he does wear a condom. He said it doesn’t feel the same, neither of us will enjoy it and he swears he is super clean. Do I have sex with him anyway, even though I feel he should definitely wear a condom? He said he can’t stay with me if we don’t start having sex soon. I am so hurt.

-xoxo dani

Your guy is an embarrassment to the male gender. And before you go blaming yourself, remember that there’s a reason you’ve waited to have sex with him. If he leaves you because of this, he doesn’t deserve you, anyway. You shouldn’t let his comment “I swear I’m super clean” make you rethink your thoughts. Plus, how much enjoyment could you possibly have if your sexcapade is spent debating whether it was a good idea to do it without a condom. Remember that the situations we truly enjoy the most are the ones where we feel most comfortable. Sex without a condom is obviously unsettling. So, to be honest, you won’t take pleasure in it, anyway. And to say that neither of you will enjoy sex with a condom is an ignorant and immature statement. He may have a sensation problem, but, hey, that’s not your problem. The lack of sex has definitely gotten him frustrated, but everyone moves at his or her own pace; he should respect yours. If he goes along with your feelings, once you actually start having sex with him, you may feel comfortable enough to remove the condom. But, just to be on the safe side, maybe he should get tested first. You don’t want to have these consistent thoughts and then be correct later on.

Dear Ryan,

Why is it that guys expect us to wax all our hair off &#8217 even in very sensitive, private areas &#8217 and yet they refuse to even TRIM or shave any of their whiskers? That includes but is not limited to: nose whiskers, back whiskers, foot whiskers, ball whiskers, butt whiskers. What’s up with this?

&#8217 Love, Whisker Hata

Guys may not “expect” you to, but we’d definitely prefer waxing entirely, especially, in those private areas. And, to be honest, there’s nothing sexier. Anyway, today, a guy must be knowledgeable about keeping himself maintained. I’m sorry that the men you’ve been involved with are a bit unfamiliar with male grooming, but if you’re close to him, a suggestion wouldn’t hurt. I understand the pain you girls go through to keep everything looking prim and proper, so it’s only fair that we do our part, too. The hair on his back or nose may not be a problem to bring up in conversation, but the unkempt forest below the belt may require a different approach. Each guy is different, but since your guys are clueless about the topic, letting them know that a simple task like trimming could make you more eager to please him should make him jump to the buzzer. But, sorry, we’re not waxing down there!

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