The Quick Cummer

When my boyfriend and I have sex, he only lasts about five minutes. I never have an orgasm and he doesn’t seem to care. How can I bring up the problem without angering him?

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- Jess

Unfortunately, you’re dealing with the type of guy who doesn’t understand your needs, let alone how to fulfill them. This type of behavior isn’t about coming too quickly or you not having an orgasm but about his lack of concern for your satisfaction. Though sex can be rough and animalistic, the feelings shouldn’t. He may just be embarassed about his stamina problem and feels that ignoring it will make him not have to worry about it. You must talk through this problem with him; keeping silent will only make things worse, along with the sex. Sex may not be the most important part of a relationship, but lack of communication in the bedroom will affect other aspects of your relationship. If he doesn’t care about you, ditch him. There are plenty of other guys out there who’ll get you off at least once before bed, maybe even multiple times if you’re lucky. Some may even care enough to get you off again in the morning.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year and he hasn’t introduced me to his parents. Is that weird?

- Jamie

College guys can be really strange about the parent-girlfriend introduction. Some guys don’t even think about it, and others feel their parents won’t approve. Okay, don’t freak out. Chances are he probably doesn’t think it’s necessary right now. Then again, there may be a reason for his hesitation, so I’d approach the subject nonchalantly. Bring it up in passing, mentioning how you’d like to meet his parents and that it’s important to you. I assume he’s met your parents, so tell him it’s only fair that you meet his. But most likely, it’s not a big deal, and he will eventually do it when it’s the right time.

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