Same Old Sex

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over two years now. The sex is all right, but it’s pretty much the same old, same old every time. I used to do some crazier stuff in bed with my ex-boyfriends. We’d use sex toys or play sex games to spice things up. How can I have this conversation with my boyfriend without it completely changing the way he sees or feels about me? I don’t want him to think I’m a slut. If he doesn’t throw down soon, I may have to throw him to the curb!

By Candy

Sometimes, guys need a bit of encouragement … or a smack in the face to realize their girl isn’t satisfied. Tell him (indirectly) how you’ve been fantasizing about getting a little kinky in bed. Bring him to a sex shop with you. You may have to push him, but it’ll be worth it. If you don’t speak up, things will never change. People stress the importance of chemistry within a relationship, but we forget that it must continue under the sheets. If you’re compatible and can talk for hours, but sex puts you to sleep, it’s not going to work. Though sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship, it’ll enhance or deflate other aspects that are stable. If he thinks poorly of you, because you want to experiment with new “activities,” dump him. Never settle for mediocre sex, because, eventually, you’ll fantasize about mind-blowing sex. And then you’ll probably have it with someone else.

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