My boyfriend wants to have a threesome with me and one of my female friends. But he knew from the beginning that I didn’t want to do this and neither does my friend. But he won’t stop talking about it and now he is mad at me, because I don’t want to do it. What do I do now?

Threesome rule #1: Never do it with a friend! You’re asking for trouble. So I’m glad you’re deciding against it. If you want to avoid the awkwardness or intense jealousy, don’t involve your circle of friends in your sexual endeavors. Your boyfriend is selfish. If he can’t get over your negative feelings on the subject, he obviously doesn&#8217t care about your comfort. He clearly isn’t listening to the fact that neither you nor your friend wants to participate. But then again, are you not interested in doing it with her or just completely not into it? If you’re thinking about a threesome with a random chick, tell him that to buy some time. But there’s no sense in bringing him false hope, if you&#8217re totally not interested. Threesomes are fun, but comfort is key. If the comfort level isn’t there, the satisfaction won’t be there either.

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So your style sensibilities are a bit hard to track down. One day you’re going nautical, the next you’re a plaid-clad prepster with all of the underpinnings. With so many personalities … er, fashionalities … what’s a well-dressed girl to do?

Lucky for you, Nadia Tarr has created the Butter By Nadia line of separates that will have you flippin’ and reversin’ your way to great style. All of the Butter goodies are cleverly constructed in the spirit of versatility and can be flipped and twisted to achieve a multitude of looks.

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You’ve seen them out: The sex-pots wearing short skirts and killer heels, never failing to entertain the men in the crowd with some girl-on-girl action.

Guys cheer them on. Girls look away in disgust.

One might consider such behavior a bit distasteful, no?

But according to Lauren Levin and Lauren Blitzer in their new book, Same Sex in the City, those seemingly attention-hungry girls may be on to something. Levin and Blitzer call their work a “coming out guide” of sorts for lesbian, bisexual and bi-curious women everywhere.

You’ve heard the myths of women who experiment with their sexuality in college. Maybe you think it’s taboo. Maybe you wonder what it would be like to kiss a girl. Or maybe you’re just afraid of being branded with a scarlet “L” by your peers. Well, newsflash ladies: New statistics show that there has been a 10-percent increase in college women experimenting with their sexuality over the last 10 years. Whether it be that drunken kiss at the bar or more, women are becoming more curious … bi-curious, that is.

So … if it’s true that, as Levin and Blitzer put it, “the difference between a straight girl and a gay girl is 4 beers,” get out there and see what all the fuss is about.

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My boyfriend and I used to have sex all the time. We were like rabbits! But not anymore. Now, we don’t do anything sexual. What is wrong with him, and why won’t he have sex with me? He says that it’s not me, but I don’t know what the problem is.

The sudden halt to your sex life could be attributed to a number of different things, but rather than making assumptions, talk to him about it. There’s obviously something blocking your boyfriend’s desire to sleep with you. Yet he does mean it when he says, “it’s not you.” The problem with that statement is that it tells you nothing. So have a talk. You may simply need to spice things up a bit. Get some sexy lingerie or suggest a new position in bed. “Sex like rabbits” seems to indicate that your sex life may just have been quantity rather than quality. Granted, sex is sex, but after a while we all need a change, something to switch it up. Don’t attack him with your concern, because it may be a sensitive subject. Approach with caution but get some answers!

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