Who’s That Crushin’?
Ever find yourself a little too attached to E! when Lindsay Lohan appears? Her latest frock is so freakin’ adorable, no matter what words come out of her mouth. Or there’s your best friend with the perfect hair. Every time you see her, you wonder: how the hell can I make my hair like that instead of a Texas-sized frizz ball?
Before attacking your mane, sit back for a sec and ponder your slight obsession. You may just have a “girl crush.”
A girl crush, you say? No, not in a sexual way like your everyday, and ever pertinent, boy crush. A girl crush is just a feeling you have for another chick who you really admire, maybe even secretly worship, for her personality and style. There tend to be three steps that lead to its development:
Initializing: Most of these girl crushes start off based on looks because (who are we kidding?) most girls are jealous of funny, good-looking people. You develop the girl crush because you look up to the person as a role model, which is totally okay. So is fantasizing that you’re shopping on Rodeo Drive with them. Especially if they’re famous.
Friending: Unless the person is a celeb, there’s a good chance that friendship is possible. Just remember that, like any relationship, a friendship has to be worked on. And if it’s only based on sheer admiration or liking each other for the sake of convenience, (like you’re both dating roommates yet have little else in common), the friending may take a sour turn. Hence …
Breaking Up: If your girl crush is famous, don’t worry – the fantasizing is clearly harmless. If you don’t examine your real-life friendship, however, it may end in a harsh break up because you had little in common aside from the admiration or … boys. Examine the flaws before doing anything drastic and, say, junior high-ish.
Just remember that girl crushes are totally normal and probably not such a bad thing. It’s just easier if the other girl is famous and will never know you’re jealous of her new Birkin bag.