Solo Sex

By Candy

What a sad state of affairs we are living in these days: 58 percent of women don’t masturbate! And of the sexually savvy ladies that do, 47 percent feel guilty about it.

What’s there to be ashamed of? In order to have great sex and teach your partner what will get you to “the promise land” you need to do a little self-exploration.

First, get comfortable. Make the area you choose free of interruptions. Turn your phone off, maybe even light some candles and play your favorite tunes to set the mood. If that doesn’t work for you, try the bathtub. The warm water will relax your muscles and ease tension, allowing you to focus on yourself.

Allow your fingers to wander and test out a variety of speeds and strokes on your nether region. Hey, trial and error is the only way to really figure out what makes you orgasm. Also, don’t be unrealistic about your expectations at first; this takes time, not ten minutes. Just let yourself go and enjoy.

If you find yourself continually not getting it right, toys can be a fun alternative. A vibrator can help beginners discover “the Big O” zone. When it comes to vibrators, moderation is key. You can actually use a vibrator too much and desensitize the clitoral region. Yikes!

Once you become familiar with your sex spot, share the new-found knowledge with your man so that he can finally do you right.