Physical vs. Emotional
So I’ve had this thing for a guy for a while, a year to be exact. It’s been a relationship fueled by text messages at 2am… “Hey, what’s up. Wanna come over?” And I always say yes! When we got back to school this fall, we started hooking up again and I can’t kick him. Thing is, I like him. A lot. And by a lot I mean I want to be in a relationship with him. We can’t keep our hands off of each other but I definitely want something more and DO NOT know how to go about it. HELP!!!!
As a rule of thumb, anytime you have a sexual relationship before the actual, emotional one, you can’t count on much more in the future. No matter how regular or random the sex, it’s simply an equation that doesn’t add up to much. Physical affection is an outward expression of an inward feeling, and expressing yourself physically before he sees your true feelings sends a confusing message. It’s like a friend who promises a lot but never makes follows through — you’ve said you feel strongly about him but never said anything until now.
I’d move on and learn from the lesson. Chances are he won’t take you seriously when you tell him how you feel. And, if he does decide to date you, he’ll feel the relationship has a gaping hole after the first date since nothing will be new – after all, you’ve been doing it for a year already. Next time, don’t put the cart before the horse. You’ll find the road you travel to be a much, much easier one.