The Attention Grabber

By Candy

Every guy I know — every guy EVER for that matter — loves my best friend. She’s a nice girl, but she’s not even that cute, yet they come right up to her whenever we’re out. What’s up with this?

We all have a different attitude we put off. To pin-point why she comes off the way she does and what it is that seemingly makes guys drawn to that would be to make the unexplained art of relationships a math none of us could solve. There could be any number of reasons guys approach her – from the way she dresses (trendy? slutty?) to her attitude (is she eye molesting every guy in a bar?).

Bottom line is, watch the kind of guys that approach her and how they interact. Where does it go? Chances are the guys that talk to her aren&#8217t talking to her because she has a kind, warm heart. They don’t want to talk because she’s great with kids, helps old people, can explain the history of Van Gogh’s impressionistic paintings, or knows the quadratic equation by heart. In other words, the real things that matter in a relationship can’t be communicated by a flick of the eyelashes, a twist of the hair or a giddy laugh.

Who knows what she does. But is what she has really something you want? Do you want to be mobbed by insincere, unintelligent, superficial guys? Most of us would rather go out with our friends and spend time with them, not countless strangers. Let’s be honest – how many of those random guys will play any significant role in her life? Most likely none. Keep doing what you are – be yourself, go out and have fun. You’re getting looks from guys too, the difference is the ones looking your way care more about just your clothes or your vibe; they care about your heart. And in the end, that’s what we all fall in love with anyway.