Keeping Some Booty
It’s a new year, you’re newly single … and you’d like to keep it that way. After all, there are many-a-man-scape to explore. So the time has come to tap into your black book of booty call potentials (oh, the possibilities).
We all know how booty calls normally end, somewhere between, “Do I actually want to be with him?” or “What the hell have I done?” Let’s not go there this time; instead of trying to make sense of what’s going on, just accept it for what it is: no-strings-attached ass.
Just to make sure you know what you’re getting into, remember what a booty call is: someone you keep around for sex but don’t want a relationship with. He’s fun. You’re fun. Who doesn’t like fun?
So keep these tidbits in mind and you’ll be on your way to maintaining your beloved singlehood:
Be honest with yourself. If you know you’re gonna fall for this guy no matter what, you can’t have a booty call with him. They’ll be all those mushy feelings, and that’s just disastrous. From the beginning, know what you want out of any booty call and what the limitations are, both emotional and physical. No one gets hurt this way.
Discuss sex now. Whether he’s a friend you think is hot or a guy you just started dating, talk about sex as soon as possible. Make sure you’re both clear about not wanting a relationship and talk about where you both stand concerning sex. Think of this stage as a business deal.
Call him. Not in the crazy stalker way, but call once a week to check up on the comfort factor of your situation. After you’ve ensure that this can last for the long haul, call him at least once or twice a month. After all, no one wants to burn their sex bridges. And do drop hints about how busy you are – he doesn’t know who else is lined up for a fling!
You’re in control. You have the power to start or end these booty calls. This means you still need to treat the boy like a human, listening to his stories or any other details he cares to divulge. For proper insurance, make him think he’s in control (since most guys like to be), and we all know who actually is in charge of this situation: you.
Friends forever. No one should be treating the other person like a piece of meat under these circumstances. You’re friends, which is why you’re able to keep the sex fun and casual. But if he meets someone and wants to be in a relationship with her, you need to let him go, just as he would have to do for you. You can still chat as friends, just no sex. Besides, who knows how long his new relationship will last? At least keep him on speed dial.