Giving It Up Too Soon: Should You Wait to Have Sex?
Listen up!
A self-described “Relationship expert” (I mean, honestly, how do you become known as a relationship expert? I find that title retardulous) in this article wants you to wait 1 MONTH before you sleep with a dude you’re dating.
Uh. Really?
I’m not sure I have the willpower for that. In fact, I’m almost positive I don’t have the strength to withhold for 30 days from a hot someone. I don’t use sex like a handshake, and it takes time to decide if someone is bed-worthy, but a whole month? How do you do that? Do you take tranquilizers before you go out? Take your date to a library or a slaughter house or something? Wear contacts that make you go blind?
Maybe I’m being dramatic, but I mean, hot guys aren’t put on this earth to be merely looked at.
Mr. “Relationship expert” claims that if you give in to a guy too early, he’ll get bored and move on. The longer you withhold sex, the longer the guy will stick around.
Really?
I mean, I guess. If the guy was only hanging around you for sex. What articles like this seem to discount is that sometimes, just sometimes, a guy dates a girl because he actually likes her. He thinks she’s cool, and when she sleeps with him before a month is up, he doesn’t stop thinking she’s cool, he just thinks she’s cooler, ‘cause she’s not only smart but fantastic in the sack.
Ultimately, it comes down to your own personal comfort level. Does it serve you better to get to know a guy before picking out flavored condoms with him? Of course. Does making them chase you a little add suspense to a budding relationship? Yup. But having someone put a redonkulous time limit on how long you should go before sleeping with an awesome person is just plain stupid. I don’t tell him how to cook his eggs, so he really has no place telling me when I can break out the lingerie.
What about it, sweethearts?
Is 1 month too long to wait? Or just right?
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anonymous says:
Mon, 7th May 20072:12 am
i ended up just doing it when the time was right. it was my first time, and it just so happens we had sex exactly one day short of being together for a month. hah.
Frederique says:
Thu, 25th Aug 201112:58 pm
Wow. So we should all have sex on the first or second date then? Classy. But seriously, that sounds pretty slutty to me. I mean, you barely know the guy and you already get in bed with him, just because he has a pretty face? Yeah, that's got slutty written all over it. In my opinion, it's really soon to have sex with someone within one month. I've been with my boyfriend almost 9 months, and we haven't had sex yet. Maybe it's because we're both virgins, and maybe it would be different if we weren't. But still, I'd never have sex with someone if I don't love them and I definitely don't get to the point where I love someone in a month.