Out of Sight, Out of Mind?

The other night, one of my friends asked me a startling question: “Can I kiss you?”

By CC Staff

Caught way, way off – guard, I stammered and sputtered and eventually mustered out a meek “no,” and offered to let him walk me home as a consolation prize.

Truthfully, I was intrigued. And tempted. Very tempted. But it’s complicated, because I like someone else. And I am “dating” him. But he lives in another country. At first it was romantic, but now it just kinda blows. I’m finding it hard to maintain my loyalty. The truth is, although I like the guy, I’m easily distracted by what’s going on right in front of me. Which includes cute guys asking permission to make out.

So, um, if a tree falls in a forest and no one hears it, does it actually happen? Where is the loyalty clause in the relationship contract? How do you cope with these moral quandaries?

My friend Damien has been with his boyfriend for about nine months now, and they are in l – o – v – e. But today he told me that in a few weeks he’ll be going to Seattle for an internship, and during his stay he wants to be “a total slut.” For the second time in a week, I was rendered speechless. “What about your boyfriend??” I asked.

“What he doesn’t know can’t hurt him, right?” Damien replied with an obligatory wink.

Ugh. Never have I been more confused. First of all, if I’m thinking of straying, that means that my significant other, halfway around the world, probably is as well. The thought of which makes me absolutely crazy. Second of all, is there some kind of liminal – limbo world (read: summer) where relationship boundaries don’t apply? It’s just summer, right? What happens in summer, stays in summer.

For now — I’m seriously reconsidering the nunnery.