Making the First Move

By CC Staff

Let’s just say I don’t qualify as a shy person. I’m gregarious, loud and completely immodest. The other day my sister called me a force and whether that’s a force of nature or a force to be reckoned with, I’m not sure. What I do know is I pretty much do, say and act how I want, even when the opposite sex is involved.

Sometimes though, you just lose your mojo and the sexy confidence you once had peaces out — leaving you feeling like a totally undesirable specimen. There have been times (much to my chagrin) when I have neither the confidence nor the ability to just approach a guy in a bar.

If you’ve never been one to make the first move or you’re just feeling a bit out of sync in playing the game, these are a few helpful hints to get you out in the scene and back on track. According to Heather Hunter, the lovely lady who consulted a few dating gurus in order to make the first move herself, this is what you need to know:

1. We have the upper hand for two reasons

1) Breasts. 2) We smell good. Easy enough!

2. Have something to say when you approach him. Make something up; ask him for his opinion, anything to get the ball rolling.

That’s it. Pretty easy, eh? Sometimes, hitting the bar with a wing woman (especially if she’s taken) can help. Not only do they provide an extra boost of confidence, but they also give you a reason to use the opening line “My friend and I were debating on topic X… What is your opinion?”

In my own experience, you just have to keep at it and brush up with a little practice. It’s a total myth that guys don’t want to be asked out or approached. And in your favor, if you do the asking out, you never have to worry about going out with a guy you don’t really like.

But if the lad is a total tool, move on. There are always boys at the bar (or the bookstore) looking for a lady to make the first move.