Dera says:
Wed, 22nd Aug 20076:52 am 

Wow. Ive read quite a few of your articles now…Are you trying to make the entire female population hate you?

Andrew - University says:
Wed, 22nd Aug 20077:46 am 

LOL! Not remotely… Just drawing on my experiences and those of people I know. But I guess eliciting a hateful response from my readers is better not eliciting a response at all!

michelle says:
Thu, 23rd Aug 200712:57 pm 

i agree that going into college in a relationship is a bad idea and that the relationship should be ended before college starts. but i have to argue with your belief that college relationships should remain in college. if a relationship isn't ever challenged, whether by distance right after graduation or by the possibility that your significant other might glare at a member of the opposite sex in a more than friendly manner, then something else is going to blow up in the end. i think learning HOW TO and being ABLE to resolve issues in any relationship is important and will most likely make that relationship stronger. no, it doesn't always work out, but i wouldn't say it's a right off the bat no-no to carry a college relationship out of college. i'd rather learn from my mistakes and better my relationship in the end, leaving both it and me stronger.

Antigone says:
Thu, 7th Feb 20082:46 pm 

I'm basically offended by this post. I went into my first year of college with a long distance relationship, and I have no desire for freedom. I would rather have someone who loves me that lives far away than some stupid available douce bag that's just trying to use me. LDR's are best going into college because you can't be distracted by idiots wasting your time. I've been in my relationship for 2 years. I see my boyfriend a couple times a year and we talk on the phone 2-3 times a day. We

we're fine. so suck on that!

Leslie says:
Sun, 17th Feb 20081:10 pm 

Ok… I agree this post offends me as well. My boyfriend of two years is about to graduate from college, and yes I'm scared of the uncertainty of the future but I will be damned if we both aren't willing to try to make it work! And I'm not saying it will… but hell, some things in life are worth the risk… especially if you truly believe it's worth it. Otherwise you'll go through life always wondering… what if? Honestly I don't think I could ever get over that… I could get over a breakup if I believed we both gave it everything we've got.

Sarah says:
Mon, 17th Mar 200812:11 pm 

Ok… this article pisses me off so much because you imply that men will always be tempted to cheat on their girlfriends in a LDR… what the hell is that nonsense? Some men actually have self control and love their women too much to even consider such betrayal… really…COME ON… not all men are dogs.

Sandra says:
Sat, 5th Apr 20082:09 pm 

"You’ve probably tired of going home with the best-looking, sloppy drunk that gives you the most attention at Last Call."

Not only do you obviously not understand what love is with your opinion on the subject but you are assuming we are all horndogs who need to have sex as much as we breathe. I really resent this particular quote because single or not I can tell you with all the honesty in the world that that would never be me or a number of girls that I know.

The reason you probably dont support long distance relationships, or long term relationships for that matter is because youre not looking at relationships as anything more than sex and youre not looking at the PEOPLE in the relationships.

Anyone who thinks relationships are not deeper than constant sex could obviously not understand the intricacies of love.

mirka says:
Sat, 12th Apr 20085:43 pm 

i totally agree. i was in a 4 yr relationship when i got in college, and it didn't get passed the first semester, and he left me. I'm so glad he did! i got to meet so many people, do some many things for myself for a change. and 3 years later, i met the REAL guy i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. It takes time and experience to understand why ppl say what they do about these things. and right now, im on a long-distance relationship (for the 2nd time. the first didn't work) and i've never felt more loved and appreciated.

Nicole says:
Wed, 11th Jun 20086:39 am 

"Think about this way. If you guys are really that much in love, you wouldn’t be moving to different places to begin with. One of you would be willing to make the geographical sacrifice"

That right there is just so wrong in many ways. I'm greatly offended by this post. Are you really that pessimistic? People can stay in love! They won't stray off with another person just because their far away. Couples need to go through challenges and distance is one of those things. I'm in a long distance relationship right now, and it's fine! I trust my boyfriend and I've never been happier and plan to keep it going in college as does he. Your ridiculous! Try giving something a chance for once instead of doubting it all. You have no idea. Some people last forever and I'm sure their a hell happier then you ever would be hooking up with random guys in college. This article is basically telling girls to give up their boyfriends and turn into sluts. I don't want 20 STDS thanks. Well I'll tell you what, I'm going to proove you wrong. I'll come back here in 5 years when I'm married to my true love and show you it can work! You'll see. Try being a little more positive in life it'll make living a little bit easier.

Michelle says:
Mon, 23rd Jun 20085:35 am 

I came across this article today, and couldn't believe that someone would actually write this. You should leave your college relationship behind when college is over??? Long distance relationships only work out in the "rarest of cases?" You obviously have no idea what love is. Long distance relationships can and do work. Yes, some fail, but short distance relationships fail as well. Visit my website: http://www.lovingfromadistance.com

Laura says:
Tue, 19th Aug 200811:37 am 

this article is terrible.

i agree with the above comments, what you are describing is a sexually based relationship involving very immature people. my best friend has just graduated from college and is marrying the man she has been dating since her junior year of high school, while i'm involved in a ld myself.

some people get tired of the superficial party scene earlier than others and dont consider turning down sloppy lushes to be much of a sacrifice. you have a lot of growing up to do.

Liz says:
Sun, 26th Oct 200811:41 pm 

This is the most nauseating content I've read on the Internet in a long time.

Let me tell you something–my boyfriend and I made it through a 4-year-long LDR during college. That's right, FOUR years.

Out of all of what you wrote, this is probably the worst: "I just don't see how it behooves anyone to spend their college years not maximizing their fun because they're too busy longing for a loved one who is hundreds of miles away." You seem to prefer having FUN to having LOVE. I entirely agree with Laura; you have no maturity whatsoever. Most mature people would prefer to have a significant, passionate relationship for their entire lives than a few stupid drunken parties and cheap screws at college. As far as I'm concerned, I gave up a bunch of meaningless crap to be with the person I love and I don't regret it for a minute.

Alicia says:
Tue, 27th Jan 20097:57 pm 

Wow, people are really getting fired up over this. Let me just say this- I am in a long-distance relationship, I have been in one for about 5 months now, ever since my boyfriend and I both started college. Has it been hard? Yes. Impossible? No. Worth it? Most definitely. I don't think that long-distance relationships are right for every couple, and I think that once you get into one, you quickly realize what type of couple you are. If two people are so in love, they don't see it as 'wasting time' or anything like that. They see it as a challenge, and if they are in it for the long haul, they see it as a challenge that will only strengthen their relationship.

A long-distance relationship is not right for everyone, BUT it has been right for me.

Long Distance says:
Sat, 14th Feb 20097:33 pm 

Great article. College and university is a time of major change for those who only recently were pondering what life would be like outside of their high school walls. Expectations run high, and many previous familiarities will be left behind for new experiences. This may or may not include high school sweethearts. For those who decide to stay together even though they must say goodbye and begin long distance relationships (LDRs), the time ahead will put their relationship to the test.

I suggest you check another article dedicated to the topic @ http://www.waiit.com/article-details.php/Long+Dis…

sarah says:
Tue, 24th Mar 20098:22 pm 

you don't know what romance or true love is, do you? you don't know that love can exist despite the distance?

jenny says:
Thu, 11th Jun 20096:19 pm 

i actually think this was a very good article. me and my guy have been dating since sophomore year, but i'm afraid of the challenge that distance will be. i think this was very forward and truthful. for anyone who actually thinks that their relationship will continue as healthy and fun as it is, power to them. when reality hits, i hope they can handle it. again, i enjoyed this article.

Shaun says:
Fri, 26th Jun 20092:39 am 

Wow, the females in this forum are really going way too far with this.

"Oh my God!! You're saying that you don't think that long-distance relationships are good!!! I'm in a long-distance relationship so you must be talking about my situation individally!!! I am like SOOO offended!!! AAAGGGHHH!!!"

Come on, really? It's pretty bad if someone can get "really offended" by someone talking about their personal experiences. Andrew just wrote an article on the internet about what his views on LDR's are. Thats it. He's not trying to impose his will upon you.

Im not saying that I agree completely with what he's saying, but he does have many good points. Isn't college supposed to be about building YOUR life and YOUR career? You should be focusing on yourself and your work, not spending hours worrying about if you will talk to your sweetie later that night.

Sd says:
Sun, 26th Jul 20097:10 pm 

I completely agree. Let the LDR go before you start hating each other. I went through a lot of crap for lack if a better word because of that. It's better to be single and loving life than dreading the phone or declining plans because of the "Other". From military to civilian we all go through it. Cut the lines and be happy you did.

Sasha says:
Fri, 31st Jul 20095:47 pm 

" Isn’t college supposed to be about building YOUR life and YOUR career? You should be focusing on yourself and your work, not spending hours worrying about if you will talk to your sweetie later that night. "

Shaun…I agree that college should be about building your life, your career, your future…but life is not about college. Life is not only about your career. Life is beyond all of this. To me, you should be working on being happy throughout your whole life and if that includes a significant other, then so be it. If that means that you have to spend time in your dorm room, pondering about the love of your life, then so be it. What is money, what is a career, what is anything for that matter…if you do not have someone extraordinary special to share it with?

I too, was offended by this post and it wasn't because I viewed it as being personally about me, but because it brings my hopes down about my own soon to become long distance relationship. What if all that is true? But then again what if it isn't? My love for my man is beyond distance, beyond time, and I can feel that he sees it this way too. If it doesn't work, then at least we tried. At least we didn't just throw it all away.

However, I am aware that not everyone feels like we do. So as I write this, I am no longer offended by this post. But I refuse to be what this post describes. I hope some people will come to the realization that life is not all about money, careers, and fun parties. It has a meaning to it, and if you can't find it yet…that's too bad. But let other people feel what they feel. Let other people enjoy it. Just as this person expressed his thoughts on LDRs, so did I and the rest of the people who commented it. So respect it.

Melissa says:
Mon, 10th Aug 20094:14 pm 

It feels like you're definitely trying to draw a negative reaction in this article and trying to offend people. Maybe you've had bad experiences in LDR, but saying it never works is going a bit far. LDR can work in college, but it's not easy. Also, if going into a LDR in college is a "well-documented fact," I would like some documentation, aka PROOF. If you plan on writing in the future, you might want to back up your opinions with evidence and not be so black-and-white with these types of issues.

Lindsay - University says:
Mon, 10th Aug 20094:57 pm 

"if you guys were so much in love, you wouldn't be moving to different places". Wow. My fiance joined the marines to help his parents pay for his first year of college and to get his brother and sister through college as well. It wasn't a choice, it was a necessity. And we're STILL together after two years of an LDR, and getting married this summer. Have you ever even experienced love? It doesn't sound like it.

Lindsay - University says:
Mon, 10th Aug 20095:22 pm 

I'm sorry, it's unfair of me to think that you've never experienced love, but you make it sound as though it's the worst thing in the world to attempt to maintain a long distance relationship. I've known many couples who have done it, including my parents who were countries away for five years. I stayed in college to finish my degree so I didn't run away to be a military wife right away, and my fiance and I are both allowed to have our own agendas but we still want to have each other. It's really about the people in the relationship. If they can't handle not having the physical element of a relationship or handle being alone then no, LDR probably isn't good for them. But to say that it is a "well-documented fact" that LDRs are bad in college is unfair. When you only want to be with one person, then it's worth the challenge of an LDR. I would have enjoyed a discussion of an LDR rather than an outright bashing.

Bethany says:
Sat, 15th Aug 200911:47 am 

I completely agree with this article! I am a huge believer in love and romance but college is for you to find out who you are as an individual. It is crucial that you take this time to establish you're own indepence as you discover what you want for your future.

Although I would never say a relationship is a waste of time, being single in college definately presents you with more opportunities and can push you to do more with your life. You have the rest of your life to love another, so use this time for you .

Stu says:
Tue, 13th Oct 20098:30 pm 

It seems like each relationship is different, and it's hard to give advice in a general sense. I think for the most part though, long distance relationships in college generally don't work, just because there's so much change going on in the first years of college. If you really want to make it work, here's an article on making long distance relationships work

Tel says:
Wed, 19th May 201012:07 pm 

How can I make this work?

http://www.thegreatestlovestoryevertold.com

My head is messed up now….

sarah says:
Sun, 30th May 20107:50 pm 

that just really pissed me off not going to lie. and im not going to say any more because i just might blow up.

ali says:
Mon, 27th Sep 20107:00 pm 

haha damn! most of these comments were so hateful. andrew i think your article rocked. i especially liked that you said at least you are eliciting some sort of response. way to stay postive! haha

i would ignore all the girls who got all defensive.

going into my freshmen year of college i moved six hours away from home and cut off my 2 year high school relationship and i don't regret it at all – freshmen year was full of lots of new experiences and crazy times and being tied down to a ldr would have definitely made me miss out on all that. and now sophomore year i have been able to learn what im really looking for in a relationship – you made me laugh when you said we will get tired of going home with the best lookin drunkie at last call haha! ya hit the nail on the head! i've done that and now i found someone i care about this summer but he's going to school 10 hours away. we've been sort of having a long distance open relationship but i think we realize how much we want to be together so i'm looking to transfer schools. because like you said if you really care that much about someone you would learn to be geographically close too.

sorry for the long post but i just really wanted to say i totally related and agreed with this article even though i am a girl and am in a semi ldr situation.

so keep up the good work andrew!!! seriously great great article.

Nicolette says:
Sat, 20th Aug 20112:43 pm 

I wouldn't agree that "if you were that much in love, you would move". Why should I give up a better university to put me in a better position for my career, and why should he do the same? Careers and love are not mutually exclusive, especially in this day and age – an age where we are diving headfirst into globalization and technology. Don't make it sound as if a woman who is in love should just give up her high heels and get back in the kitchen, ready to follow her man at a moment's notice. You can still go out and get sloshed and silly with your girlfriends and have fun – again, that isn't mutually exclusive with having a relationship. It's all about trust and frankly, being honest. My boyfriend doesn't whine and cry when I want to go out and have a drink because he deals with it, just like I deal with him *gasp* being around other people! God forbid people be social.

Painting adolescents with extreme stereotypes and choices just gives more and more growing children the impression that those are the only labels that can define us. Life is beautiful, full of color and wonder and growth, and college will show you the best and the worst of life. It has punches, though – roll with them and clink your glasses.

jayjay26 says:
Sat, 20th Aug 20113:55 pm 

Have any of you had a relationship with military men? I don't think so!

Emily says:
Sun, 28th Aug 20112:52 am 

I was browsing the internet for LDR advice, because I just spent the last hour crying over my situation. Instead of helpful advice, I read this article. I am not one to be offended by written work, but this article truly angered and offended me. It seems to me like you haven’t even experienced a long distance relationship, or if you did, you were hurt by it, using your writing to vent. My reasoning for choosing a different school was simply because I didn’t like the school my boyfriend is attending. You suggest that students should choose the school their signifigant other is attending, just because they are a couple? That is the absolute worst reason to choose a college. I don’t think you should be allowed to write articles about situations that you have no idea about. Obviously, you don’t have a clue about choosing colleges, relationships in general and long distance relationships.

Stacy says:
Tue, 30th Aug 20114:46 pm 

Wow. Just wow. This pissed me off so bad like… Obviously you've either had a bad experience with LDRs or you've just never experienced love. Seriously like this is ridiculous.

Klaudia says:
Sun, 2nd Oct 20112:56 pm 

Wow this article is literally so ignorant. I don't even know where to begin with for WRONG you are. Obviously your bitter, whored around during your freshman year, or are just plain stupid.
I'm a freshman and have been with my boyfriend for over a year and what your saying is plain ridiculous. I love him with all my heart but just that doesn't mean i will sacrifice my future career. He lives an hour and a half away and we make it a point to see each other every weekend. You can still study, go out, and have fun.
If two people love each other it will work… i don't know if your trying to make people feel bad about their long distance relationships and if you are thats just wrong
look for that "hot older guy" ? your literally sound like a plain slut who's obviously never been in love…
and for everyone who is in a long distance relationship thats working keep it that way and if its mean to be it will be.

Kyla says:
Sun, 22nd Jan 20129:36 pm 

I am going to be a freshman in college next year and me and my boyfriend of two years are trying to make it work. i love him with all my heart, and when trying to find something to do for him on valentine’s i come across this load of shit. I am issed and almost hurt by the fact that someone could say something like this, in fact i truly feel sorry for you. maybe you need a special someone or were hurt in the past but spilling out your anger and bitterness on the rest of the world is completely uncalled for. I plan on having an amazing night skyping my boyfriend watching him open up his care package and talking about how amazing the last two year,eight months and four days of our life has been. and praying for people like you who contribute to the hurt and shallow-mess of this society. I hope you find peace one day, and in a few weeks i will celebrate mine. This is sad and quite upsetting!

Kyla says:
Sun, 22nd Jan 20129:38 pm 

*pissed

*shallow-ness

sorry i tend to spell things wrong when im angry