dili says:
Fri, 7th Sep 200711:16 pm 

I feel for you hun. Guys can be such jerks sometimes. It hurts when you get dumped even by a guy you didnt really like. We all know how horrible it is when your crush has the talk too. You keep thinking what did I do and whats wrong with me. Anyways keep up the good spirit and I wish you all the luck.

aReader says:
Sat, 8th Sep 20076:07 pm 

I've been down that road myself – though it was the other way around in my case.

Hope you feel better after the weekend.

Brimstone says:
Thu, 20th Sep 200711:13 am 

Amy it's just the way things go. NOBODY likes it. Don't be too hard on yourself- or on him. Probably someone ripped out the "How to properly end the thing" chapter of his Love Manual. If it was ever even written. Someday the shoe will be on the other foot, remember how you feel and be kind. But be firm, because even worse than the sudden dump is the slow, painful, never ending downward slide.

Four Whistles says:
Sat, 22nd Sep 200710:41 am 

This totally sucks and the same thing happened to me last night when I got dumped! I googled "got dumped" and it took me to your story. We were together for 2.5 months, and everything (in my eyes) was going well. We were having great dates, great conversations, committed, sleeping together, he was kind and loving and caring, and then BAM! yesterday I get the call that I'm getting dumped. Felt like my heart was crushed. It also felt horribly sudden, and like there were no warning signs. UGH!

Krist2 says:
Sat, 22nd Dec 20076:10 pm 

After being dumped last week, I googled "breakups" and landed here. Although relieved (and a little astonished to see my own story written here- down to the two month timeline EXACTLY), I'm sorry to say this may still be happening in your late 20's (and in his case, early 30's).

My girlfriends have been great- I wouldn't have survived this week without them.

Wendy says:
Sat, 8th Mar 200810:41 am 

WOW! I just had the exact same thing happen…You guys ready? This guy was my neighbor. Heavy and not attractive..(not my type at all) I am not 21 anymore, but I have taken good care of myself. We were all friends in a group and would go out sometimes..He has like me for awhile and I have never saw him in "that way" He and I start spending time together and I really start to like him..Despite my friends constant teasing and harrassing. Two of my gf's actually cried tears and told me how much better I could do…I did not care..I really opened up to him and things were great! I would sleep over at his house and he would rub my hair and face..He was such a doll to me..I would do everything for him..We were having the best time..We were chessy goofy..texting, "I miss you so much already, blah blah blah b.s." The last night we spent together was great..We just held each other all night and slept..Next morning I go to work…He text me right away.."i did not want you to go, i miss you so much, I cant wait to see you". He just disappears for a few days and I text..He tells me something happened and he would explain later..He misses me..When we finally talk 5 days later..he tells me, "we are just at different places" and he only wants good things for me..And that I should find someone to make me happy..I told him I thought I had…It was over..It hurt my heart like a bitch..I cried and begged and made a fool of myself..To make matters worse..I found out I was pregnant on Valentines Day..God I was so scared to tell him..He was really supportive and we talked..He wanted me to have a abortion..It is not something I believe in..But what was I to do? I have 3 children from a previous marriage..I am financially dependant…But after a 15 year marriage…I raise my kids with no help from their dad. He was a abusive asshole and addicted to drugs..I have had to overcome so much…This guy was so NICE..Not attractive..But my GOD..How could he be like this? He went with me to the Dr and paid for it…He cried and said if it were a different time..It would be a good thing…I am heartbroken..I have to work, be a mom..And pretend to everyone like nothing happened..I have not called for 5 days..I miss his fat ass so much…LOL..I am sorry..I am trying to be angry at him..I want to call so bad…Why do they do this?

Zoe says:
Wed, 23rd Apr 20086:29 am 

God I am feeling terribe myself after been dumped by someone I REALLY like 3 days ago.

It also came from no where, everything was going perfect, got sent a slushy text then next time we speak Im dumped cos'its not the right time for him'. I feel gutted but that aside Wendy, you must be feeling awful. It's alot to go through for anyone, the abortion alone without losing a guy you love but give yourself some time. I dont know why guys do this, I dont get it and prob never will but concentrate on you and your kids as hard as that will be right now.

Maybe you could write him aletter then burn it to get your feelings out. Cheesy I know but it works.

My thoughts are with you hun xxx

jae says:
Wed, 21st May 200812:54 pm 

ive been official with my boyfriend for a month now and we were talking for like 4 months….it was awesome and we started hanging out more…then all of the sudden my jealous side popped out..i felt horrible..kind of still do. i didnt feel wanted for a little bit..so yea.

it sucks i need beer and ben and jerrys lol

Meagan - Mizzou says:
Wed, 21st May 200811:20 pm 

Your article is my story, too. Sounds like it is quite common.

Met him in early December on a marching band bus, found him through a friend's facebook during accidentally clicking two weeks later, talked for hours on end for about a month, started dating, and three months and a week later, we were over.

And you know what? I keep finding closure in little things, like your article. It helped me close this up a little more, because now I realize that it just moved too fast and it should have been WAY slower.

Thanks!

Mary says:
Mon, 16th Jun 200810:25 am 

Same thing here. I saw a guy for about two and a half months, things were AMAZING for first three weeks. he told me he loved me, wanted to be with me, wake up beside me in the mornings. Then it just sort of . . . went away. Slowly but surely it turned into him only having time for me to have sex with me. I kept getting angry but then he'd be sweet again and I'd take him back. I feel like such a jackass.

Then the other night, a day after he says he'll take me out, I see him driving around with a blonde in his car. Yeah, I went totally psycho. i followed them adn pulled over and got into a huge fight and then I sent him texts for two days threatening to stalk him if he wouldn't see me. He didn't even have the balls to break up with me. He just avoided me and ignored me.

How can somebody say they love you and then just move on and start screwing someone else? I don't understand. I feel horrible. I'm beautiful and smart and funny and I've never been dumped before. I don't get it. I'm just a total wreck.

Nikki says:
Sat, 6th Sep 20082:00 am 

Wow I saw when you posted this and almost a year later it is still helping people!

I was dumped last week by a guy I had been seeing for almost 4 months. I was completely heartbroken! How can someone who promised you the moon and talked abouthow it was fate we met just suddenly up and leave? Things were great. We never fought and things were 50/50 in the relationship. But suddenly I don't hear from him for a week and then BAM I get this voicemail (not even a real conversation) saying he lost his job down here and moved back up there and we were over. Even after he swore that he wanted nothing more to don with "up there."

I cried about it until someone told me "there is no sense in crying for someone that won't cry for you."

Nikki says:
Sat, 6th Sep 20082:02 am 

Wow I saw when you posted this and almost a year later it is still helping people!

I was dumped last week by a guy I had been seeing for almost 4 months. I was completely heartbroken! How can someone who promised you the moon and talked abouthow it was fate we met just suddenly up and leave? Things were great. We never fought and things were 50/50 in the relationship. Not to mention the sex was great! But suddenly I don't hear from him for a week and then BAM I get this voicemail (not even a real conversation) saying he lost his job down here and moved back up there and we were over. Even after he swore that he wanted nothing more to don with "up there."

I cried about it until someone told me "there is no sense in crying for someone that won't cry for you."

jennifer says:
Tue, 30th Sep 200811:42 am 

i got dumped 5 weeks after our baby girl was born, i never expected to happen, he was such a jerk he left me for a women who was almost 50, he's 40 and i am 34, now he's is with someone else, and told me well jennifer i'm not seeing karla anymore was that suppose to make me feel better, anyways come to find out he left me at our babys blessing to go be wuth this women, and spent 3 night and days with her, and evry time i asked him who was at the sand dunes with, he told me his friens cory and corys, girlfriend,he the jerk never told me this girl was there, after i found out she was, his reponse was well knew you would get mad at me,,,no sh*t, i said we got a 5 week old baby that you can't stay over and help me with,(MIND YOU MY X HUSBAND AND I HAVE 5 kids)not to mention i have no family in this state, i moved here for him and he dumped me after i busted his sorry butt for cheating,,,,ok ladies we bond through sex, and i will never have sex before marriage again, so i could advoid this kind of pain again…don't fall for there stupid promises, i told him i didn't want to have sex before i got married heres his line of bullsh*t i fell for,,,,god wont be mad at us for making love because we love each other and i am going to marry you in 18 months just let me get things in order,,,,mind you i let him get close to my kids,and he made that same promise to them….now he thinks we should be best friends,,while hes out screwing other women and thinks i am wrong for not being ok with it,,what a *ss.

Samantha says:
Tue, 28th Oct 20085:24 pm 

wow. yeah i googled getting dumped, which i did, last night, by the guy who i'd been dating 2 months and thought i might be falling in love with…and got a very similar "dunno i just think we're growing apart" (WHAT? after 2 months?) reason. i still can't be mad…he sat there with me for like 30 minutes while i cried because it's my fall break and so my friends aren't around this week. yesterday night i was a mess and i'm still a mess but i can already feel it getting better…

caro says:
Thu, 18th Dec 200812:31 pm 

reading your post made me feel a little bit better about getting my ass dumped. i was dating this guy for two months, he was the one who initiated the relationship, the dating and even the L WORD. two weeks ago he told me he was falling in love with me, and last week he told me he thought that we were perfect for each other. then monday rolls around, he doesn't come over, he doesn't call, he doesn't respond. finally today i went to his house to visit and he tells me he "can't do this anymore", because it's all "going too fast" for him. that's funny, because you were the one who brought up the l-word. and here i am, two months later, with nothing to show for it.

Anna says:
Wed, 28th Jan 20097:02 pm 

OMG!!! i can't believe reading these stories…i just got dumped by a guy i was seeing for about 4 weeks. he was really great when i met him, really nice and sweet and met around christmas time which was perfect. he said he was looking for something steady and not just a fling which was exactly what i was looking for. was telling everyone how mesmerized he was about me. the sex was unbelievable, the chemistry , the conversations and all of a sudden about 3 weeks into it BAM! out of nowhere he just starts disappearing and stopped calling. and said he was really really busy with work…it takes 2 seconds to text and say hi..then just like a bubble..he popped and was gone..DAMN!!!

and he had the nerve to confide to my friend that i dumped him? LOLOL!! so i pointed it out to him that it was he who dumped me…and sends me a text that maybe we dumped each other? W&*!!?? is he insane? it hurts like hell because i really really liked this guy and respected him… but what a JERK!!!!

madzness says:
Tue, 31st Mar 200910:42 pm 

OMIGOD yourstory is EXACTLY what happened to me, down to the very last detail, even the breakup was similarly abrupt! i never thought that was anyone else there who had my situation. that is to say, a lot of people on line got dumped and were upset, but they had really long relationships, so i felt kindof sily posting about a two month relationhip, but i was so happy to find this! anyway, what sux is now, two months later, i still see him everywhere since we go to the same university, and i still have feelings for him-which really sux

Angelica says:
Fri, 25th Sep 20095:48 pm 

Wow I am so glad I found this website. I got dumped about 3 weeks ago.we were talking for about 7 months and he was like no other guy I had dated before. That's why I felt like it was going to work. So I developed feelings for him and he did as well. One night I got drunk and called him and he thought that was disrespectful so he said it was over and ignored my calls and text. I begged him that I was sorry and asked for another chance but he said he couldn't. I felt so crushed and cried. Since then I havnt been able to have another drink but I could use a corona right now lol.

Mary says:
Fri, 9th Oct 200911:23 am 

I just got dumped too. The guy wasn't totally my type but I figured I would give it a try anyway. So after 2 months of spending time together and of course getting intimate, he tells me he will come over tomorrow and bring dinner and never showed up and never called me. The looser supposedly does not have a phone…red flag! Well it really hurts a lot. I have been having trouble sleeping, can't stop thinking about it and feel like crap. At least I know I will get over it. Another notch on the headboard.

Alex says:
Tue, 15th Dec 20092:26 am 

Gawd, I got dumped last night. On gmail cat. I find dumping someone without going to their faces is extremely… Well, rude. I cried my eyes out, but now I see that there are bigger things to worry about, like the huge geography test today. I've been in those shoes, and worn them too many times. It was so quick, just like, "oh, we'd be better off if we were just friends, blah blah blah I suck, everyone else hates me I'm a d*ck" ok, maybe I added that last part, but you get the point.

sue says:
Mon, 4th Jan 20107:26 am 

ha!…man this actually feels good to know im not the only one feelin this way!…on jan 1st 2010!…new years eve…my boyfriend of 3 and a half years ( 8 months of long distance) tells me he wants a break!…till i transfer to the same place…he wants to reserve me but not be exclusive!…i mean!…are all guys like this?…he says he still loves me and want to have a future and everything but wants the break…as in no commitment…wow!…i honestly dont know hot to feel though about this…

malous says:
Sat, 9th Jan 20108:27 pm 

OH MY GOD! There are other people in this world with the same story??? I thought I was the only girl who fell in love in a few weeks, got worshiped by the guy and got dumped so abruptly.. and over text message too… He would tell me that I'm the love of his life, how he'd love me forever.. and then all of a sudden he disappeared for a few days and finally texted me saying its too serious too fast, besides he never meant any of the things he said and i trapped him into saying them.. how the f do someone trap someone else into saying sweet things? I was absolutely infatuated with this guy, he was everything I ever wanted, I held nothing back and gave him my all. Aaaaand …I got dumped 6 weeks after I met him -we started dating immediately, i thought it was love at first sight, it was meant to be, and half a dozen other cheesy things in the book-. I can't believe this happened to other people too.. I bawled, was numb and not eating for days, and I still after a couple weeks I miss him like crazy.. But what can I do, I will forget this and move on, and will NOT take any mans word for their love again. When a man catches a bird with his mouth, swims across the atlantic ocean with his hands tied behind his back just to prove his love, then my response will be "i'll think about it!"

Dai says:
Sun, 21st Mar 201012:17 pm 

I totally feel for you, but to me you got it easy, at least when that a-hole broke your heart he actually talked to you about it. I was with the most amazing, beautiful girl in the whole world for 3 months, and out of nowhere she starts acting strange and begins talking to, and openly flirting with her ex-boyfriend, right in front of me. She stops accepting my compliments, she stops laughing at my jokes, she stops "wrestling" with me (actually shudders every time I touched her), and every time I tried talking to her, she started giving me sarcasm. That went on for a few weeks, and whenever I let her know that I was hurt, she would just get mad at me and ignore me for days at a time. Oh yeah, and here's something important: I was infatuated with her for two years before we started dating, and she was the only girl I ever really liked, and also my first and only girlfriend. I tried to talk to her about it, but she would just ignore me, I asked her friends for help, but they just made everything worse. Then, all of a sudden, nothing. She doesn't even look at me anymore. I still love her so much, and I just can't do anything about it, and the only way I could ever be happy again is if either she comes back to me, or if she has a long lost twin somewhere out there who's exactly like her. FML.

Annie says:
Tue, 1st Jun 201010:41 am 

This happened to me this weekend. Hell, mine was acting lovey dovey just hours before "realizing something didn't feel right." Uh, can someone explain this to me? This is someone I've known for years, who pursued me, and then 6 weeks into was out with no explanation, was out in a matter of hours. He still can't explain it. So, can someone PLEASE explain to me why this would happen? Is it really possible for someone's feelings to change so drastically in such a short period of time? I am certain there's not another woman in the picture. It was the only thing I could come up with. I would love to know how it is possible to change one's feelings so quickly……

Jenna says:
Tue, 29th Jun 201011:53 pm 

And here I was thinking that the world is against me. All these stories I can relate to unfortunately, I was just dumped this week by a guy I was head over heels in love with.

But My ex couldn't even be bothered breaking up with me, he just cut me off completely – stopped calling/emailing/texting. Just like that, no call, no closure. We were together for nearly 2 months. He was moving to fast for me but the romantic inside me told me to go with it and enjoy falling in love but the realist was saying this doesn't happen in real life and it's just going to end in pain. After only 3 weeks he told me he loved me and even invited me to spend Xmas with his family! He wined and dined me, send beautiful messages about how he just wanted to hold me and keep me safe from the world, how he had found his soulmate. It was great- great sex, great conversions, great times – I gave him everything. and then I woke up one day and that was it…I am laying here going over and over the past 2 months – what did I do wrong!

Elizabeth says:
Thu, 10th Mar 20115:56 pm 

Oh I know exactly how you girls feel! I was with this guy for 2 and a half years and I thought things were going great. The family seemed to love me, the friends thought we were good together and he even used the L word (that's right, the o-v-e one). And just when I thought it couldn't get any better, a month ago he ended it just out of the blue over a quick phone call. And he pulled the "talk to you later" "no you don't have to say that" "okay. bye" thing too. And before I knew it, he was with someone new! I mean really? What a scum bag! But nothing helped more than a good boy-bashing session with my BFFs and some sugary desserts.