Dating and the City

One thing we all secretly want when we move somewhere new is to find some new boys to date.

By CC Staff

Well, I have some bad news for you guys, New York might be the worst place in the world to find someone to date.

A good friend of mine always says, “Dating in New York should be like being a kid in a candy shop, instead it’s like being a kid in Home Depot. There is all this sh*t and you don’t want any of it.”

Here is a list of places we dream of meeting someone sort of normal…and why this is in fact a dream:

The Bars: No one meets their soulmate at a bar. These might be the best places to find a casual one night stand, but nothing substantial will ever come of it. You’re drunk, he’s drunk, and with beer goggles and bad lighting who cares if he’s attractive?

All you know is he looks good and keeps buying the rounds. The next morning he may still look pretty. This is a good sign your judgement wasn’t totally off so you guys exchange numbers.

Don’t hold your breath for the phone call. It won’t happen.

The Coffee Shop: Your intentions are good. No one is drunk (hopefully), and there is always to distinct possibility that the artsy boy of your dreams will be sitting next to you reading a cool book you’ve never heard of. As you do your work you guys make eyes at each other. Rarely though does this lead to any kind of conversation.

You see, New Yorkers have an issue with pride. They don’t want to be the first ones to make the move because then they will lose precious cool points.

If you guys do talk and hit it off a date could follow. However, be leary of the man who spends his days reading in coffee shops.

You’re probably not the first girl he’s picked up there.

The Hot Waiter at the Restaurant: He’s an actor and he’s gay. Move on, please.

The Train: New York’s public transportation system should be a hotbed for singles. Especially during rush hours when the car is so crowded everyone is rubbing up against each other. The sexy stare down is an effective move on the train but chances are the two of you are getting off at different stops.

Stalking is not cute, so don’t follow him off the train. And if it was really good eye sex? Post something on Craigslist in the “Missed Connections” section.

But that’s a little sketchy too, so don’t run around telling anyone you did that.

The Workplace: The workplace or classroom is probably the best place to actually meet someone, but also the most dangerous. The positives are that you are able to get to know someone fairly well working with them everyday. You guys have similar goals and career aspirations so there’s some actual stuff in common.

Make sure it’s worth the awkwardness in the office if things don’t work out or you sleep together and he never calls. It won’t be fun for anyone.

Oh, and the married boss is just gross. Don’t go there.