Is He Just Too Hot For You?
While explaining my weekend to a friend of mine, I mentioned that I had met a boy who was basically awesome in every way, but seemed “a little too attractive for me”.
“What?!” she yelled. “What are you saying?! Don’t say that! Nobody’s too attractive for you! You’ve got a complex, I swear…”
After getting her to calm down, I brought it up to another friend of mine. “He was totally amazing” I told her, “but I just think…you know how you can be talking to someone, and the whole while you’re thinking, ‘this guy is just too cute’?”
“Oh, totally” my friend chimed in, her eyes going large with recognition. “I totally know what it’s like to talk to someone who you think is too good-looking.”
So, there it was; two different people with two completely different opinions when it came to who’s in our league or out of it.
It’s pretty common knowledge that women aren’t all about looks when it comes to picking a partner. While I don’t think any of us would say no to an amazing body or smile, a lot of us look for humor, drive, and personality before perfect features. Men, on the other hand, have been known to be all about the hotness (at least initially).
With this in mind, it seems quite possible that there are more men “out of her league” than women out of his. If a guy isn’t dripping with adorableness, but has an amazing personality, he has a better chance with most hot women than an average girl with an awesome mind has with most hot guys.
What do you think? Can anyone ever be out of anyone’s “league”? Is it easier for guys to compensate for less than movie star looks? And if so, doesn’t that sort of suck for us?
Have you ever felt like you’re not “hot enough”?