Breaking Up From a Guy’s Perspective: What Girls Should Know

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When it comes to ending a relationship gone bad, there’s a right way to make the break (and it doesn’t involve leaving an “It’s over, I’m sorry” note for your significant other to discover under her door or in her inbox). In “Signs It’s Time to Break Up with Her” you learned when the break-up is inevitable, it doesn’t necessarily mean you want to do the actual breaking-up. Instead of procrastinating, we have a few ideas to guide you through this unpleasant confrontation.

1. Tell her first

Don’t let her find out you want to break up with her from her cousin who knows a girl who overheard a guy who talked your dad who thinks he heard from your best friend. You obviously care somewhat about this girl if she is your girlfriend. So, out of respect for her, it’s only right that she be the first to know about it.

2. End it face-to-face

Be a man. Don’t call her, text her or email her this kind of news. She will probably want to talk to you after you break it to her and there is no other way to have a serious conversation with her unless you do it in person.

3. Say what you mean

Communication is key. You need to keep it short, sweet and simple. Express yourself calmly and clearly, and get to the point. It’s best to rehearse in your head what you want to say before actually talking her. You want her to see and understand your rationale for coming to this decision. Give her concrete examples why it just isn’t working anymore.

4. Don’t let her waterfall of tears intimidate you

Girls cry a lot and she will probably cry at the onset of your news, but this shouldn’t derail you from your original mission: to break up with her. Remember you made up your mind, so don’t fold once she opens the waterworks.

3 Comments on "Breaking Up From a Guy’s Perspective: What Girls Should Know"

  1. 213Dude says:
    Sun, 25th Nov 20072:27 am 

    BullSh!t

    bring out your new girl

    90% of the time a guy breaks up with a girl he’s got another torpedo in the water anyway.

    bring her out

    tell your girl the truth

    it’s time to move on

    odds are, event though she is afraid to admit it, she wants out too

    piss her off

    it makes it easier on both of you

    it saves you both the months of “oh gee what if”

    nonsense that even the most together of us submit ourselves to

    guys like to land the girl softly so they can score a dinner and lay down the road from them (because they were such nice guys back then)

    yada yada yada

    all relationships end

    get over it

    213Dude

  2. The Alex says:
    Fri, 30th Nov 20079:37 pm 

    213Dude is my hero.

  3. Neena says:
    Thu, 6th Dec 20073:47 pm 

    Mine too.

    That article wasn’t from a guys perspective at all. It was just telling guys to man up and break up with chicks nicely.

    I totally agree with the fight thing. It’s sooo much easier to break up during a fight. But it’s also harder to stay apart after you both cool off.

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