Don’t Do Long Distance in College!
Okay, okay, I may be a bit biased on this topic, due to my heartbreak three years ago at the end of my freshman year of college. But every year around this time, I get a little nostalgic about this issue.
All of my first year, I dated a boy from high school who went to college 14 hours away from me, and we somehow managed to make it through the whole year with visits, emails, and a hefty phone bill. I could not wait to get home for the summer and live in the same town again. But, upon returning, it was evident that things were different between us and he broke up with me. I was devastated and could not understand why this had happened. What did I do wrong?
The thing that I wish someone had told me originally is that, in college, people CHANGE, in some way or another, no matter what. And that’s not always a bad thing! I know I have grown into who I am over these four years and feel confident in what I want to do with my life and how I will get there.
Needless to say, If I had been at the same school as the “heartbreaker”, I may have seen some of these changes earlier on and realized he wasn’t someone I could be with long term. Pouring my energy into a long distance relationship took away from energy that could have been spent forming new friendships and taking in everything my college had to offer. For a guy’s hilarious view on long distance relationships, and how people will change, check out this column on collegehumor.com.
Now, I realize there are exceptions and if you are one of those: Congrats, I applaude your ability to make it work throughout the roller coaster that is college. But, I would bet that you missed out on at least a few crazy nights out with the girls for it. Was it worth it?
Who knows, but as someone who has been through it before, I say it’s not in the long run and you should actually enjoy your time at college, instead of sitting alone in your dorm room on the phone with your significant other each night. If it’s meant to be, it’ll work out, and you don’t need to worry yourself over it during the greatest four years of your life, aka college.