Sometimes it happens immediately, sometimes it takes a few weeks or even months, but no matter when you first realize you despise someone you’ve hooked up with, the realization is enough to knock even the most confident girl off her feet.
Astrologically, I’m really not supposed to get along with Aquarius males in a relationship setting.
Never one to let Astrology get me down, however, a few years ago I decided to hook up with a guy who was a mystery except for his sign (Aquarius, of course) and his choice in college parties (the dirty, loud dorm suite we first met at should have been an indication of things to come).
After a few tipsy run-ins that spanned a few weeks, I decided to cut ties with the dude because A) he was kind of stupid and B) he wasn’t very good at anything that involved the female anatomy. As the months wore on, and classes changed, I ended up finding myself in not one, not two, but three classes with the guy.
Initially, I didn’t think much of it. I mean, we didn’t talk much when we were hooking up, so it wasn’t really awkward to be around him, and any emotional attachment I may have felt by accident had certainly faded away by the time I realized his ability to dress himself matched his ability to make conversation.
Unfortunately, things went from neutral to horrible as soon as classes got underway and I realized the guy I had hooked up with was a total dick. He loved hearing himself talk, asked questions he already knew the answer to (a giant pet peeve of mine), refused to do assignments like everyone else and in fact made up his own essay topics, all while maintaining one of the most elitist attitudes I’d ever come into contact with.
It was official: I had hooked up with someone I hated.
The more my distaste for this particular moron grew, the bigger my internal disgust became. I can’t believe I actually kissed him! My brain would scream every time he attempted to upstage the professor. I let him sleep in my bed! He saw me half NAKED!
Aside from boiling myself in scalding water and poking my eyes out Oedipus style, the ways in which I could free myself from my growing inner repulsion were limited. I was doomed to feel gross about my choices and myself forever.
That was until I realized this sort of thing happens all the time.
By nature, hookups are very often quick decisions. We don’t think, we just do. So many thoughtless actions must have repercussions, and a lot of those repercussions must have to do with one day realizing the someone you tangled with (literally) for two hours is someone you can handle for two hours only.
In fact, the more research I did (and by research I mean calling friends on the phone and bringing up the subject over beers), the more common my little issue became. Tons of people realize too late they’ve been intimate with jerks. Shuddering at the sight of someone who was once the object of excitement happens all the time.
Besides illuminating the prevalent habit of humanity to forego connection for sex, my intense reaction to my particular mistake taught me to be much, much more careful when it came to choosing who made it through my bedroom door.
So if you happen to be feeling ill at the prospect of seeing someone you woke up next to last week, take heart. You’re not the only one who’s ever felt this way, and after a while, it almost turns into a funny story.
Almost.



amy says:
Thu, 29th Nov 20076:08 pm
that happened to me last year.
i wanted to punch the guy ever time i saw him. and i SAW HIM EVERYWHERE
Drea says:
Fri, 30th Nov 20076:00 am
Is it wrong that i am the complete opposite of this. I hooked up with a guy i first thought was horrible but I now think he is adorable. My friends think he is vile and I am too chicken to say that i’ve have a change of heart about him.
Stephanie says:
Wed, 5th Dec 200712:04 am
oh thank goodness i found this article….that was my weekend….and i kept torturing my self for days about how i could let that guy touch me and sleep in my bed…UUGGHHH!!! so it’s normal then?
Neena says:
Thu, 6th Dec 20073:20 pm
How ridiculous. Lookit, guys are idiots. Who cares? Atleast you got yours. Lol.
Sonya says:
Tue, 18th Mar 200810:15 pm
I completely understand you DREA. There is this Aquarius guy that at first I hated (I really wanted to tell him to fucking leave me alone and go die somewhere…) and then after a while I got real attracted to him. I really wish I could just stick to my old feelings, but I can’t change my new ones :S
Jess says:
Sat, 27th Sep 20085:19 pm
thanks for this post. i had been torturing myself for the past 2 days. i have not seen him since then, but i was always thinking “What was I thinking at that time”, “Why did I do such thing” .. and now i know, “By nature, hookups are very often quick decisions. We don’t think, we just do. ” HAHAHA ..
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