A Relationship Revelation
Last night, after a delicious sushi dinner paid for by my mom (woot!), I received the most refreshing news from a friend. She had met a boy. And not your typical boy; this is a boy who called her the next day, is extremely open about his thoughts and feelings, and who flat out tells her everything that is on his mind. Who knew a guy like that even existed?!
I could tell she was excited about him – especially considering the horrible string of guys she had dealt with previously – but she really sounded calm and collected on the phone.
“I really like hanging out with him, but not like over-excited and crazy like usual. I will just see where this goes.”
Now, it could be that my dear friend has really grown up and matured since her last boy fiasco. Maybe she has evolved into the girl who can indeed just “see where things go” and not get ahead of herself with the excitement of a wonderful new man…and an even more wonderful future filled with a beautiful wedding, a lovely house and endless marital bliss.
And if that is the case, then I would like to be her agent and book editor as she explains her path to dating enlightenment to women around the world.
Not that I don’t think my friend has matured at all from her dating experiences. Quite the contrary. I just believe that it is rather difficult to be so impassive about someone you have strong feelings about and want to develop a relationship with.
What I think is different about this particular situation is the boy. Thinking back to all the times I met a guy and promptly took a trip down Crazy Lane, it was always a symptom of uncertainty. Does he like me? Does he want to see me again? Should I call? Is he not calling because he regrets what we did? When he is going to freaking call!?
After talking to my friend, I have begun to realize that it is not that I am actually a crazy person; it is just that in these situations I always know how I feel but have no idea about him. If I were to meet someone like my friend did – a guy who was pro open communication – I would be able to rest easy and not spend my days checking my phone for missed calls or texts.
This is just such a refreshing revelation, not to mention proof to everyone out there (read: men) that the female gender is not innately crazy; communicate effectively and you will see our true chill and confident selves. I just hope my friend’s boy can keep this up; he has set the bar pretty high.