Sex on the First Date?

January 4, 2008 Posted in Sex

I met his guy awhile ago, and we’ve hung out a couple of times with friends, but we just recently went on a “real” date. We slept together after that first date, but I like him, so now I’m afraid I’ve screwed up. Is it really that bad to have sex on the first date?

It’s not bad, but if you’re going to make some intentional decisions to get off on the right foot, then sleeping with someone on the first date isn’t one of them. Yes, even if the chemistry is that good. Flaubert (old French author) believed that anticipation is the purest form of pleasure – and the most reliable.

In the final chapter of the Sentimental Education, he writes about two old friends sitting around remembering the best thing that never happened to them. Flaubert said the things that happen to you invariably disappoint, the things that never happen would never dim, never fade. We’ll always remember them fondly.

So, put off the sex as long as you want. Not only will the anticipation make him want you that much more, but it will be a form of pleasure all it’s own. Not to mention you’ll make Flaubert a very proud man.

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prizz says:
Sat, 5th Jan 20084:58 am

not always applicable….i am happily married to a man i had sex with on our first date and know many other couples that did too and are still together.

billy says:
Mon, 7th Jan 200810:03 am

ok sleeping on the first date if you are over the age of 25 is not a problem. Part of what you want to know about another person is how they are in bed or what they are working with. Grow up Its 2008, sex is part of life.

Myriam says:
Sun, 13th Jan 200810:45 am

You said :

"Flaubert (old French author) believed that anticipation is the purest form of pleasure"

So, I don't agree with your interpretation of Flauber's words : indeed, the longer you will put off the sex, the more you will risk to be disappointed!

If you want only to have pleasure, so you can keep in dreaming, but if you like this guy, I think you must know the true : how is sleeping with him!

ps : sorry for my english, I'm french

ALex says:
Tue, 15th Jan 20087:24 am

im 15 first date 14 o yea Ben and i had sex his dick was so fuckin gorgus

Will says:
Fri, 18th Jan 20089:00 pm

I agree with Alex, sex on the first date is all good. FYI if you thought his dick was gorgus than mine is a masterpiece and i'll have you shivering all over and blackin out from the most intence orgasm you ever had and will ever have, oh did i mention i have a prince albert (14guage ring in the head of my penis)So if you want some cum and get some, if you can handle it that is,lol. W/B/S/ sharonjuggalo@yahoo.com

Paul Walton says:
Thu, 31st Jan 200811:05 am

Virginity is a gift that a person can only give one time ever to only one person ever that they love enough to spend thier entire life with. Why risk an STD that you may never get rid of for ten minutes to an hour of pleasure that you will live to regret. If the guy has no regard except for his own pleasure, he is not worth the risk anyway.

MARIO says:
Fri, 8th Feb 200812:40 pm

MARIO SAYS BITCH FOR LIFE

PAYTON MANNING says:
Fri, 8th Feb 200812:41 pm

I HATE HOURS LICK YOU

Jenny says:
Thu, 10th Apr 20087:06 am

Does this count for when you give a dog a BJ?

Rob says:
Sat, 12th Apr 20088:42 pm

Yes, giving a dog a blow job counts. But don't expect your date to give you a kiss afterwards.

Jessie Burton Stone says:
Thu, 15th May 200810:54 am

Flaubert is right, you must live a bit longer to see why this is so. Things that happen always disippoint, things that never happen will always stay as fond memories. Giving a dog a blow job may never have happen, and it is with some regret that you shall always have this memory engraved in your heart. Wishes you a sentimental education,

love and pease,

Jessie Burton Stone

Rock-on

Lola says:
Fri, 3rd Oct 20086:07 pm

Look, if I'm on a date with a guy, and I'm attracted to him (and he to me), and I want to have sex with him, that's just what I'll do. It doesn't make me a whore, slut, or tramp. I don't see why I should have to play some "hold off" game with a guy.

thebigbookofdating says:
Tue, 20th Sep 20116:29 am

Sex is great whenever your both ready/ in the mood for it (:

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