College Candy

After a four hour drive from New York to Maryland, I was ready to finally get back on campus.

My mom pulled up alongside my dorm building, and I climbed my way up the three flights of stairs, dumped my bag in front of my room, and then walked two doors down to give my girlfriend a welcome back kiss. It wasn’t until after a minute or so of “I missed you!”s that I actually went back downstairs to start unloading my trunk.

I promise you I’m not a guy infiltrating CollegeCandy for a sociological study on women. I’m a girl just like the rest of us…save for the whole bisexual thing, that is. Believe it or not, there are plenty of members of the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender/Transsexual) community on campuses across the country. Hell, there’s even a directory that has a list of colleges that have gay and lesbian organizations – and these are only the ones with paid staff. But even with places like these, meeting the right significant other is just as hard, if not harder.

I was lucky enough to meet my girl on the first day of classes, and we’ll be seven months strong tomorrow. At some point last year, we made the decision to live in the same dorm building, but NOT in the same dorm room. A semester later, and I feel like I’m well versed enough to make a little list of pros and cons about living with your girlfriend – or boyfriend, depending on the way your dorm separates its Johns and Janes.

Pros:

1) It’s a million times easier to find your girl when she’s only a few doors down.

2) You won’t need to rack up your minutes or texts contacting each other when you can just yell down the hall.

3) It’s nice to know that when you’re having an especially rough day, there’s always a shoulder to cry on – and an ear to scream at.

4) You don’t have to brave the elements to go see your ladyfriend.

5) Showers. Nuff said.

Cons:

1) The walls don’t have ears, but the people beyond them do.

2) When there’s a fight, it’s hard to get as far away as you’d probably like to be.

3) If you have a roommate, you don’t want to make them feel like a third wheel.

4) Nasty things will be said (by her and by others), and you have to learn how to cope with them.

5) You know, those shower stalls aren’t really big enough to fit two people, anyway.

You can weigh the pros and cons yourself. It all depends on the comfort level of your relationship; I know two girls who have been going out for well over a year and live in the same room with no problems. My girl and I would be at each other’s throats if we were in the same room. I’m way too messy for her. Still, the set-up we have work just fine for us.

The shower thing even works itself out.