Comments on: True Story: Coming Out Of The Closet. Again.

By: True Stories and Life Lessons from The CollegeCandy Archives : College Candy

True Stories and Life Lessons from The CollegeCandy Archives : College Candy — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 21:02:00 +0000

[...] Coming out has to be one of the biggest challenges gay and lesbian people have to face. And one CollegeCandy writer knows that from personal experience. [...]

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 13:39:06 +0000

I come from a very West-Indian family, I'm the only American.

Homosexuality is not tolerated. Period.

By: Kelsey

Kelsey — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 05:06:14 +0000

very well said. i can empathize

By: Olua - Washington Co

Olua - Washington Co — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 10:25:33 +0000

It's a tough decision, C, and there isn't much advice I can give you aside from telling them. You'll want to discuss it with your beau first; that way, they'll know that shit may be about to hit the fan. If worse comes to worse, you may want to make sure there's somewhere you can stay for a bit after fessing.

Approach your mom first. West Indian moms are a little more (emphasis: a LITTLE) more tolerant than dads are, I've found, and if you talk to her about it she may be understanding. Most importantly, though, tell her everything. All or nothing, you know? Tell her that you're scared, tell her that you're hopelessly in love, tell her you haven't told your Dad yet. Just -talk- to her. Hopefully, she'll understand.

Good luck. Let me know how it goes.

By: C

Sun, 10 Feb 2008 14:41:14 +0000

I'm not sure if you said you were 20 now or then but i feel as if I am going through the exact same thing. My Mother, and Father have no idea their 20 year old African American daughter is in hopelessly in love with a very out confident Italian mutt. They too have instilled in them the strict west indian values and morels so instead of facing them head on i feel the only way is by remaining in the closet and then moving out and away, living a completely out life with out them ever finding out….would this work?

I didn't mention that my parents are old fashioned and religious in their 60's and quite conservative. I feel they would just hate me forever. It's unfortunate this is the only answer i have.