So You Have A Problem With Strip Clubs?

February 14, 2008     Posted in Body, Sex


By Elizabeth

Are you one of those girls with a problem with strip/burlesque clubs? If the answer is YES, please proceed to paragraph number 1 and then read 2. If the answer is NO, please proceed to paragraph number 2.

1. Well, alright. I get it. You have respect for a woman’s body and sexuality, right? Watching men drool over a woman’s body with whom they have no personal, let alone emotional, connection with whatsoever is sickening, right?

Something about the placing of a dollar bill in a thong makes you want to barf. And the idea of your boyfriend/husband/love interest being the guy with the dollar bill is just thoroughly intolerable, right? After all, if you two are involved, he should only think about and see your body sexually, right? He should not be involved with the chauvinist society of strip club going men. That would make him much more like a slime ball than the perfect guy you THINK you’re dating.

But THINK is the key word here, ladies. I beg of you to place yourself in the mindset of the girls who have proceeded directly to paragraph 2. Suspend your opinions at least momentarily if you can.

2. Girls who are OK with strip clubs seem to all agree on a few things:

A. Strip clubs are not degrading. Rather, they’re kind of exalting of the woman’s body if anything. These girls are making so much money for a reason: they are harnessing their sexuality and empowering themselves with it.

B. All men have a percentage of pig in them. If you’re going to go ahead and believe your man when he tells you that a gorgeous, naked woman dancing in front of him is not arousing; then you’re an idiot.

This is what I call an animal instinct. It’s there, it’s natural, and it has NOTHING to do with whether or not he loves you. Strip clubs do bring out this element in men. But if you keep trying to repress this, you might as well go date the woman you’re trying to turn him into.

C. We all know that confidence is what’s sexiest of all. Having had friends who have been and are strippers, I can tell you one thing for damn sure: A girl who hates stripping doesn’t last more than a few nights…if even one.

Strippers today, in a world where women can get any job of their choosing (even without a degree, they could choose something besides stripping if they wanted), are confident. They are not being forced into a bad, dark place where they have to take off their clothes as their only means to eat. Instead, they have actually embraced their sexuality on a professional level.

I must admit, if I had been reading this blog, I would have had to go straight to paragraph 2. Having once had a serious issue with porn and strip clubs and all other outlets of “inappropriate” sexuality; I have finally learned that sex comes in many levels…but primarily: Lustsex and Lovesex.

If your lovesex with a gentleman is truly lovesex; lustsex poses no threat to you. Remember, confidence is what’s sexy and there’s nothing more unsexy than a girl whining about the guys wanting to go to the strip club to celebrate something some Saturday night instead of coming to your tea party. If this is you, again, I beg you, just please go date the woman you’re trying to turn him into instead. (But let me warn you: she’ll probably be into hot chicks being naked, too. I’m just sayin’…)

7 Comments on "So You Have A Problem With Strip Clubs?"

  1. jennyfur says:
    Fri, 15th Feb 200810:41 am 

    Better yet, go with him! I wouldn't exactly call myself bi, but my boyfriend and I have had some really hot sessions after spending a few hours in a strip club. There's no doubt that being surrounded by sexy, gyrating women will make you both clothes-shedding horny by the time you get home…that is, if you can manage to resist during the car ride home! ;-) ~

  2. michael says:
    Fri, 15th Feb 200811:38 am 

    i was never really comfortable with strip clubs myslef, but i totally understand the appeal! But i always felt sorta of backwards about it, if anything, i think the men arethe ones being degraded. When you stand back and look at it, there is a person in control of the whole situation, doing a dance,and making good money to do that dance, and then there is a person who is shelling out good cash to… to what? Get a boner?

    don't get me wrong, i dont lok down to either person, but i have more respect for the person who is really in charge.

  3. gregory dykes says:
    Wed, 20th Aug 200810:18 am 

    i want to meet you 2 of the women and have sex

  4. getoverurself says:
    Mon, 30th Nov 200911:18 pm 

    sorry i don't agree with stip clubs.. neither does my man… it's just about being with the right person!! i can't be with a man who goes to strip clubs because it means i'm not and i will never be enough for him.. and he doesn't really respect me so why bother?? there are plenty of real men out there why should i be with a lame one who needs to see naked girls to get a boner??? no thanks i'll never compromise… RESPECT!! it's the 21st century women should be respected…. you can only accept this crap if you don't really respect yourself!! WAKE UP

  5. Casey says:
    Thu, 10th Dec 20095:57 pm 

    Amy, did you ever stop to think about the fact that the strippers in the strip club have COMPLETE AND TOTAL CONTROL over the male patrons who go there? The patrons can't touch the strippers unless SHE GIVES THEM PERMISSION, which means she can pick and choose exactly which guys she does or doesn't want to touch her. Furthermore, the stripper has control over the guys emotions and hormones. Her "act" is what turns the guy on and makes him horny, he is lusting after her, but she doesn't have to have anything to do with him if she doesn't want.

    Basically, a strip club is a place where guys go and pine over girls that they likely will never even be able to touch. How does that give a guy a sense of "control" over the female body? The STRIPPER has control over the mans body in this case.

    And I don't know about you, but when I give my boyfriend a blow job I feel completely in control, I get pleasure from getting him off, which is probably the case for a lot of strippers, they likely get pleasure out of seeing how much they can turn a guy on, and just what little they have to do to have him at her feet. Yes, they're objectifying their bodies, but they WANT to do it. They are getting paid to have guys crawl at their feet and think they're hot, it's an ego boost I'm sure.

    And sorry, but I agree with the "male standards of attractiveness" or whatever. I don't think fat is attractive and so I don't find "thick" girls hot. I think the slender and toned female body is amazing. And that's not because of society, it's because it's what I, and most people, actually find appealing.

    So get off your high horse and stop thinking you know why everyone thinks the way they do, cause everyone thinks differently and for very different reasons.

  6. Amy says:
    Thu, 10th Dec 20098:01 pm 

    This article is loaded with embedded gender stereotypes up and down. The fact that you are agreeing with the general idea of strip clubs shows how you as a female, have been trapped in inferior-female ideology that our patriarchal society has created for us.

    If the desire to attend is so primal, arguing that men’s expression to look at naked female bodies is biological, then why wouldn’t they just choose one of the many different venues available to look at naked women? Such as, sleep with a real one!

    A man’s desire to go to a strip club has nothing to do with the naked female body itself, but rather his control over it. It re-enforces masculizing practices by contiually asserting authority over women. It re-asserts our societies need for masculine domination.

    Your willingness to now accept strip clubs is most likely your desire to gain acceptance from the oppisite sex. Magazines like Cosomopolitan and the like do the same thing. They showcase how young women can be attractive by a MANS standards.

    And let’s think about who is ‘really-in-charge’ here. The majority of strip clubs are male owned and dominated. Yes, men but be lame for going to a strip club, and wasting their money on a lap dance, but it is the sex industry and society that has deemed these sex acts profitable. If strip clubs weren’t profitable, then the women wouldn’t go there to find jobs.

    Strip clubs do nothing but re-enforce social inequality, showing women as objects and commodities. The women dancing in the strip clubs are not ‘embracing their-own sexuality’. They are showcasing their body in a way that is appealing to a man’s standards. Men have SET THE STANDARDS for what makes a woman attractive and sexually desireable. It’s called living in a patriarchal, male-dominated society. The strippers in the club are taking advantage, and banking off that fact.

    If the women were truley embracing THEIR OWN sexuality, then they would be getting pleasure in return, owning their bodies, by having sex with an actual partner. Embracing your sexuality does not mean being paid to put on act of submission to the male, for his fantasy and own purposes.

    Your arguments for strip clubs are conventional and tainted by what society thinks you should think, and male made standards. I agree with the posting, it is time to wake up and realize what is really going on here. Try taking some women’s studies classes.

  7. Mark Reins says:
    Wed, 23rd Dec 200910:10 am 

    Casey says:

    Thu, 10th Dec 200910:57 pm

    Amy, did you ever stop to think about the fact that the strippers in the strip club have COMPLETE AND TOTAL CONTROL over the male patrons who go there? The patrons can’t touch the strippers unless SHE GIVES THEM PERMISSION, which means she can pick and choose exactly which guys she does or doesn’t want to touch her. Furthermore, the stripper has control over the guys emotions and hormones. Her “act” is what turns the guy on and makes him horny, he is lusting after her, but she doesn’t have to have anything to do with him if she doesn’t want.

    Basically, a strip club is a place where guys go and pine over girls that they likely will never even be able to touch. How does that give a guy a sense of “control” over the female body? The STRIPPER has control over the mans body in this case.

    Bullshit! total Bullshit! Im in control of any and all of the girls in the club! IM not a good looking guy,overweight and not a prize by any means, but the girls (the best looking ones) fight over me! I been going for over 2 years now to 4 clubs in the area, and by all means : Im in total control of the chicks,in fact the longest it took to get their phone number has been 2 days and most are mine in 10 minutes. any GIRL,even the married ones!And yes I date them outside the club. Its so easy.

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