Comments on: Is Online Dating Racist?

By: Ellie

Ellie — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 06:42:01 +0000

…..continued: People will choose whom to date based on whom they feel most naturally attracted to, not based on what they think they *should* do in order to appear politically correct. Whether you’re attracted to someone of your own race or of another is entirely up to the individual.

By: Ellie

Ellie — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 06:37:36 +0000

I don’t agree, Winzer, that making personal choices about whom to date meets that definition of racism. As Allison said, it’s natural to prefer to date people who are similar to ourselves. That does not inherently imply belief in the inferiority of others who look different. It is entirely different for, say, an employer to discriminate *against* potential applicants than for a person to discriminate *amongst* potential suitors. When it comes to love, there are no “equal opportunity” rules, because people are just not interchangeable. We all discriminate in our dating lives. We pick and choose the qualities that we deem most important to us and try to find the person who feels like the best match. Obviously the initial attraction is largely based on looks. Sometimes we are attracted to people who are markedly different from ourselves in skin color. By and large, though, you’ll notice purely by being a social observer, people pair up with significant others who look similar to themselves. According to the 2000 census, 4.9% of registered U.S. marriaged were interracial. There is absolutely nothing wrong with interracial relationships, just as there is nothing wrong with preferring one’s own race (which does not make one a racist. It’s purely a matter of preference. It just happens that most people choose their own.

By: Winzer

Winzer — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 05:01:10 +0000

Dictionary.com definition of “RACISM”

“a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to rule others.”

I know that not ALL people of race “X” are like this (throw in some stereotypes) but, in my opinion MOST people of race “X” are like this so it’s a safer bet to just ignore ALL of them than take the effort and find out who they really are. I’d prefer to date people of my own race because I find my own race superior in the “looks department.” That’s racism RIGHT THERE!

On the other hand, I could be from race “X” but only date people from race “Y” because I dislike my own race and think that the qualities (e.g. height, skin color, whatever) of race “Y” are superior…again, even if you’re in an inter-racial relationship you can still be a racist.

By: Winzer

Winzer — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 04:49:54 +0000

Carly-Grinnell…you sound like a reasonably intelligent person but, consider this:

Tall = not a race
Short = not a race
Fat = not a race
Gold digger = not a race
Player/Cheater = not a race
Being exactly 6′2″ tall = again, not a race

Caucasian, Asian, Black, Indian = these are races!

By: AsianAmericanguy

AsianAmericanguy — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 05:02:19 +0000

Yeah, as an Asian guy in American, I would never do online dating. At least in person, I can break the stereotypes. Online, they look through a screen and try to imagine what I would be like, and they see William Hung and Long Duk Dong. Yeah, it is too damn racist for me.

By: willy

willy — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 16:53:16 +0000

Shit, I wants to do is to fucks thems white bitches and ties up a fews of dem little asian cunts. Throws in some fat bitches twos. shit, a pussy hole is all stinky afters it bend fucked. Dam cunt sniffs ald duh same anyways. just turns of the lites an fucks..

By: Tetsuro

Tetsuro — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 16:33:46 +0000

I think the problem is not so much the “preference”, but the implications behind it.

Categories such as height, weight, age, or even habits (i.e., alcohol, coffee, and cigarettes) are just, that, habits. A person who is 4′11″, 120 lbs, and smokes is just that, a person who is 4′11″, 120 lbs, and smokes.

But “race” is a loaded word, these “preferences” also carry with them perceived cultural expectations (i.e., stereotypes). “Black” often implies the blingbling-clad, Ebonic speaking, Gangta rap lover who plays basketball in the ‘hood. “Asian” is another word for the feminine (both sexes), subservient, nerdy people who live with mom and dad until they get married.

How about people who are of mixed-races? Tiger Woods is 1/4 Asian, but he will always be seen as Black. Keanu Reeves, often identified as white, is actually half Japanese. How about the difference between Snoop Dogg and Steve Urkel? Yao Ming and Russell Wong?

So the “race” is so much of a problem, but it is our unreasonable expectation that each race is homogeneous that is the problem.

By: Asian guy

Asian guy — Mon, 25 May 2009 07:23:32 +0000

Yep, online dating is racist, probably even more racist than real life. I think it’s because online daters tend to be losers and losers tend to make poor judgments, so they base their online dating filters on the most stupid criteria, like “tall and white”. I have been with a ton of women who thought “tall and white” was a big deal until they met me. You just have to let them see you. If you are an Asian guy, DO NOT bother with online dating. You aren’t gonna win the battle on paper. Be the best you can be, be prepared for success, and when you nail that next busty white chick, dirty her real good. Just don’t tell her you are gonna dirty her until you are actually dirtying her. White chicks are weird like that.

I can’t give you advice on Asian women because I avoid Asian women.

By: Joseph

Joseph — Sun, 03 May 2009 00:22:12 +0000

http://www.helium.com/items/1283873-race-racism-imperialism-neoliberalism-humans-cultures-slavery-immigration-colonialism

By: thefoggyone

thefoggyone — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 22:08:45 +0000

Not all blondes look the same. Not all dark skinned people look the same. Not all tall people look the same. We makeup so called “races” to categorize humans. The whole idea is ridiculous. Are two pigeons different “races” because one has darker feathers than the other. Discrimination based on physical features is natural, but once you start thinking of people as “belonging” to a “race”, then you have already had subtle racist thoughts. There will always be preferred traits, but most of these traits are cultural. If you look at history, you’ll see how desireable traits change as much as fashion.