Kay says:
Sat, 23rd Feb 20087:08 am 

I had to do the same thing about a month ago. I went on 3 dates with this guy and we hit it off really well. 3rd date he asked me if I was his girlfriend, and I thought that might be too soon, so I said we'd see how it went (SO surprised to hear that come out of my mouth). Well 2 weeks later he's going to Vegas with his friends…and I want to know if we're exclusive..so the whole time he was at my house I thought of a way to ask him what we were…finally just sucked it up (right before he was leaving, ha) and asked him what we were doing. He said exclusive…so that's what we've been doing…or what I've been doing at least. So good luck, he sounds like a keeper. By the way, I didn't get flowers on Valentines Day (and we were already "exclusive" at this point) so that's definitely a good sign!

Casey says:
Sat, 23rd Feb 20087:24 am 

I had this same problem last month too. We hung out regularly, hooked up (sober and not) nearly daily, said cutsie stuff to each other like "I can't believe how much I already like you", "you have the most amazing smile", "I love being with you", "You're my favorite person because you make me happier then anyone else in the world", Yeah we sickened our friends. But neither of us wanted to ruin a good thing by trying to define it so we just didn't bring it up. Then one night he said "Ok so here's the deal. I really really like you, and I don't want anyone else to have you, soooo do you want to go exclusive?" And we've had a flawless month so far. But if he says something like, "So what are we, like, fuck buddies?" he doesn't want to hear "umm, i guess so." just a heads up. wish someone had told me that. (or maybe i'm just not good with hints) But is someone had than he and I would have been dating long before we started.

Paulene says:
Sat, 23rd Feb 20082:40 pm 

Well, I don’t know about you but waiting another month would irritate me. I mean, everyday (or everytime we are together) I’d be wondering if we’re excusive and that’s just ridiculous. Second, with most guys at least, if you wait for him to bring it up it most likely will never come up. And asking something important “liquored up” isn’t the brightest idea… Even though you were prolly kidding on that point. But yea, I would just ask. It’s simple and direct. I mean, if he’s doing all these things for you on v-day and everything else I think it’s a pretty valid question. I hate the grey area too. I’m extremely left brained so I like things to be a “yes or no” type of thing, not a “umm… Kind of…” or “it’s complicated” type of thing. Just ask him. And since you’re worried about being too pushy and what not I’d suggest asking when you guys are just chillaxin’ nothing big er special er anything like that.

Anyways this is getting pretty long so I’m gonna stop…

Take care and good luck with everything

Kitty Kat says:
Tue, 26th Feb 20088:16 am 

I've been dealing with this problem for almost 5 months now and trust me it is NOT fun. We started out as really good friends (relating to this article… we met in the Bahamas and live in South Carolina) and it just kind of progressed from there. We never outright admit to dating but we are always together: strangers think we are an item, we go out to eat and he pays, sleep in the same bed, love some drunken PDA and have even met each other's parents but its still unclear what our relationship status is. I just kept telling myself he will bring it up eventually. I think at this point it is too late to have the "exclusive" chat with him so I most definitely would not wait for him to bring it up… trust me, boys don't really have to balls to bring it up themselves.

molly says:
Tue, 26th Feb 20081:32 pm 

I have done this, so uncomfortable! You don't want to seem pushy or psycho.

I maybe you could say, "so, did you get any flowers for any other girls for V-day?" (In a teasing way, of course) and go from there. He seems like a sweetheart, so it will likey be just fine

pprigkipissa says:
Thu, 6th Mar 20089:41 pm 

Demand a label. If he is sticking around he obviously likes you and is probably too much of a wimp to make the formal transition. I am having the same problem with my “boyfriend” at the moment. We agreed that we are a couple and he calls me his “girlfriend,” but we still act like we are just dating. I am waiting for him to call me back so I can demand an answer If he says we are, I will relax; if he dances around it further, ciao.

Trisha says:
Mon, 31st Mar 20084:22 am 

WEll i need some advice!Ive been seeing this guy like 7 weeks now! At first we were like Fuckbuddies!But then we started hanging out alot!And he bought me something for valentines day,well i was at his house tho that day! Then after couple days i wrote him a message if we were dating or FWB and he said he didnt want anything serious right now, so just friends!So i started hanging out with him more!And since 3 or 4 weeks I basically live with him now somehow!im always here, sleep in the same bed, cook him dinner!Well i talked to this other guy yesterday wanted to me him! then My FWB the guy i somehow live with was mad, i asked him what his problem was! Then after an hour being mad at me, he said if i wanted to fuck somebody else then i have to go home! He wants to be exclusive fuckbuddies! Does that mean he wants to date?or only that i dont fuck with anyone else?

Please help me, i really liek this guy!

Trish

mike paahana says:
Thu, 17th Jul 20086:50 pm 

everytime u have sex with 1 girl they like no if u there boyfriend y they no can jus have fun an no strings

Coco says:
Tue, 19th Jan 20102:17 pm 

I had the same problem. I met this guy at a speed dating event about a month ago. We were a match, and we went out a few times already. My 6th sense tells me that he's looking for a committed relationship, just like I am. We rarely talk on the phone (he's not the type to call), but he did agree to text me at least once a day. Being very mature and finicially established at such a young age, I truly value that and understand the fact that he is extremely busy with work, so I'm willing to let that slide. We've hugged, he's wrapped his arms around me, we've held hands. But due to his hectic schedule, I feel we lack communication and I don't think what he thinks. We both have an interest in one another. When I'm with him I feel so happy, but when I'm not, I don't feel this presence. This bothers me. He did mention to me once that he's felt he was abused in this past relationships, so he's very careful in letting anyone get close to him. I'm in that exact same area most of you mentioned. I don't know if we are girlfriend/boyfriend. I've referred him to several close friends that I have a boyfriend, but in reality, we never had that "talk". He never asked me to be with him. Neither has he said anything about missing me or that he's at least thinking of me. I think I'm over thinking things. It's tough. Try being unemployeed and staying at home 24/7 where 1 min seems like 10 mins, while 1 min seems like 1 sec to him since he's always running around. I want to be reasured what status are we in. I'm thinking that I'm going to leave this V-day as a test of how much he cares about and wants to be with me.

Me says:
Tue, 26th Jan 20106:27 pm 

Here's my scenerio. I met this guy online almost 2 years ago. We communicated for over 3 months before we even discussed meeting. So we meet, have dinner…hang out at my place and hook up. We go out for breakfast the next morning, play miniature golf, then he has to head home (he live about an hr away). After that, he tells me the distance is too great and that if he can't have me all the time, he's not sure if he wants to try the part-time thing.

Sooooo…a year and a half later, he contacts me on Facebook on Christmas Eve. He proceeds to tell me how he made a huge mistake, and that he's been trying to find me for 3 months. He, pretty much, begs me to give him another chance and is completely honest and open about his feelings for me.

We've been "seeing eachother" for the last month and a half. We both speak in future-tense when we are together…we are with eachother every weekend and we talk/text every day. Birthdays are being observed and we have had tons of extremely personal conversations. It's very important for both of us that we are being honest and open.

Long story short, he poured his heart out to me, things feel great between us…but it's almost like he went from over the top to "eh, now that I've got here I can drag my feet". Any suggestions?

Coco says:
Wed, 10th Feb 20108:16 pm 

V-day is just around the corner. Yet I still feel a disconnection. Wonder if a miracle will happen this V-day.

Coco says:
Wed, 17th Feb 20107:23 pm 

On this past V-day, I asked him, "so… what are we?" We are now exclusive. Bf/gf status is just around the corner. I can feel it

Coco says:
Mon, 1st Mar 20107:03 pm 

Maybe I was wrong.. For a short while I really felt we had something between us.. Maybe it's time to let go?

shewolf says:
Mon, 30th Jan 201210:23 pm 

ok so initially i told him i wasnt attracted to him pshyically but will see what happends even tho im pretty sure he was / is attracted to me now the more time i spend with him the more im attracted to him im hesetant to bring things up as far as a relationship with him because of what i said before we fooled around and stuff since i told him i wasnt attracted to him pshyically but im also confused as to if he thinks it was because of the alcohol ( we were at a party i wasnt drunk though )
so what the f do i do?

shewolf says:
Mon, 30th Jan 201210:37 pm 

ok so initially i told him i wasnt attracted to him pshyically but will see what happends even tho im pretty sure he was / is attracted to me now the more time i spend with him the more im attracted to him im hesetant to bring things up as far as a relationship with him because of what i said before we fooled around and stuff since i told him i wasnt attracted to him pshyically but im also confused as to if he thinks it was because of the alcohol ( we were at a party i wasnt drunk though )