He’s Just Not That Into You (even in the movie version)

So, maybe this is old news–but all news worth hearing should be renewed news. And though this may have been a huge topic of conversation for women over chocolate martinis, Sex and The City episodes, kleenex and post break-up mending, something tells me that (crying over what might have been), will never be old news.

By CC Staff

Naturally, when you listen to a friend (and we’ve all be “the friend” before too) gripe over a man who is completely undeserving of her time, you want to say, “MOVE ON! YOU CAN DO BETTER!!!” and if you’re a good friend, you do say that.

Usually, she won’t listen and sometimes the truth of the situation is : He’s Just Not That Into You. Period. Thank God for the authors, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, who wrote this little gem.

I don’t know about you, but I always feel like a crazy, bitchy friend if I say those words, even if it’s true. Not because the words are harsh, but because 90% of the time when you have to tell somebody whoever they’re chasing, or dating, isn’t as “devoted” or hell, “interested” even, they usually already know deep down.

No one likes to acknowledge that they’re “unwanted“, because it makes them evaluate something about themselves; then goes the endless wheel of, “why isn’t he interested? Why did he say he’d call? Does he think I’m ugly? Does the new girl have a better body?? Did I have a piece of spinach in my teeth the first time we kissed?? WHAT HAPPENED??” WHY DOESN’T HE WANT ME??”

There is no real answer to those questions–they’re a complete mind game. And yeah, he’s not that into you BUT, someone else will be. Someone worth it. Someone who will treat you like the bad ass beauty you truly are. Someone who will want to eat hot coals to show you how much they love you, someone who thinks that weird chin hair you grow every once a month is beautiful. Someone will adore you.

Isn’t waiting for that someone better than dating some guy who makes you feel less that GREAT?

The best that came of this whole book is…the movie they’re making out of it, that is set to release in August ’08.

The cast is ridiculous: Drew Barrymore, Jennifer Aniston, Scarlett Johansson, Ginnifer Goodwin, Jennifer Connolly, Ben Affleck, Justin Long, Kevin Connolly, Kris Kristofferson…and so on.

Apparently, all of those stars know how important this “reminder” is.

In closing I’ll leave you with these shiny nuggets found in the book, that sometimes we just need someone to shake into us:

“Don’t let the honeys and the babys” fool you. His sweet nothings are exactly that.”

“Men don’t forget how much they like you, so put down the phone.”

“If he is a man made up entirely of your excuses, once you stop making excuses- he will completely disappear from your life.”

“Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We (men) like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded if we do.”

“Calling when you say you’re going to call is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna have a house, baby. And it’s cold outside.”

THEN when Mr. Douche texts messages you…please remember THIS:

“Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You’re deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you. “

Good advice, right??

Do you know and love this book? Got any other advice we all need to hear?