ely says:
Sun, 9th Mar 20088:35 am 

lol i agree with everything u said. except for the movie part, i like going to movies with friends otherwise its kind of weird and sad going alone, for me anyways.

Natalie says:
Sun, 9th Mar 20089:29 am 

I agree. Most of those are reasons are why i have more guy friends than girl friends.

(Except for the bugs comment-they give me panic attacks. I can't help it!)

Alysse says:
Sun, 9th Mar 200810:55 am 

I hate when people say they don't like girls, because it's as much a social construct as cooing and coddling.

Both things are based on stereotypes and learned through culture, so just give EVERYONE (not just the boys) the benefit of the doubt!

Ash says:
Sun, 9th Mar 200811:35 am 

as someone who attends an all girl college, i def. agree with this article. girls who dont behave this way are few and far between. i most strongly identify with the independence piece. must you do EVERYTHING with your girlfriends? and why is it an argument if someone wants to do something alone or with someone else for a change?

Chief Ninja Monkie says:
Sun, 9th Mar 200811:56 am 

Amen sister. Amen.

Meg says:
Sun, 9th Mar 20081:28 pm 

I've noticed that most girls who say they hate girls and their drama are the ones who are usually involved in the drama. And Alysse is right, you're not helping by feeding the stereotype.

Carly says:
Sun, 9th Mar 20084:57 pm 

Sorry to burst your bubble, but it actually is possible to complain about something (drama) without being involved in it. Also, stereotypes are based in truth. I hardly think I'm feeding a stereotype by acknowledging in my article that I know all girls aren't like the girls I'm slamming.

Kim says:
Sun, 9th Mar 20087:48 pm 

I agree with Meg. I find girls who strive to be so different from the stereotypes placed on girls to be the MOST obnoxious type of girl. This kind of goes along with that terrible article posted a month ago about being "that girl" at the superbowl party. Who cares how people act if they're being themselves?

Meg says:
Mon, 10th Mar 20088:23 am 

I understand your point Carly. See how impossible it is to make unfair generalizations?

Casey says:
Mon, 10th Mar 20081:02 pm 

Kim, who said anything about striving to be different from the stereoptypes? To some people it just comes naturally. Not ALL girls are like the one's Carly described but us that aren't don't like the whiny, ditzy airhead, "I'm a girl so I must be a princess so people have to wait on me hand and foot and do everything I tell them to do" type of girls. Which sadly is most. Girls have been told for so long that they are princess and deserve to be treated like they are. Yet we want to be equal with men? Well sorry to burst anyones bubble but you can't have it both ways.

Megan says:
Tue, 11th Mar 20087:37 am 

I dunno Carley, you seem to lump huge groups of people into groups unfairly. I am reminded about how a few months ago you bashed American men and then corrected yourself saying you were just talking about SOME American men. Instead of defending your wording, I suggest changing how extreme it can be, so as drama doesn't seek you out. For example: instead of "Why I Hate Girls…Or At Least, How They Act" go for a nice (and by your own admission, more accurate) "Why I Hate how some girls act." Hey, it won't draw all the attention your other title did, but what are you looking for? Drama in the form of comments, or genuine discussion?

Jes says:
Wed, 12th Mar 20083:37 am 

Or MAYBE a more accurate title:

"Why I can only get along with a very small number of girls because the majority are highly neurotic and tend to have unexusable quirks, but not all of them, only the ones who won't read this article."

Or you could just go with something like this:

"An article about how irritating most girls are, even though I realize that the majority of readers here are girls and are going to reply with annoying comments."

Or you could just skip it all and say:

"I'm gonna make lots of generalizations here, so if you are going to actually be affected by the contents of this article, get a life."

p.s. MOST girls assume they aren't like "other" girls and yet we all tend to have dumb habits that quintessentially define us as just that.

I for one have always been told I act more like a guy and I've never "fit in" with most girls, and yet I'm still quite girly in many aspects.

Big deal, I like college basketball, I swear a LOT, I'm very into politics and getting slap drunk with 20 guys over a keg of really cheap beer, and i like to have sex, a LOT. (haha WITH my boyfriend of course) But I'm also a shop-a-HOLIC, extremely feministic, yet I do pride myself on my appearance (gasp!) and I enjoy getting dressed up and going out till 3am in ridiculously painful heels.

I think the main reason most girls dont get along with each other is because they make these generalizations and the ones who all act the same assume they're normal and everyone else isn't. I personally have been blessed with the ability to not give a damn, so maybe thats why I'm not getting upset here.

But you should also look at the social aspects here… why is it that girls act the way they do? In what other society do you have the extreme clashes between puritanistic values of chastity and the pop culture sex craze slapped all over marketing? How the hell are girls nowdays supposed to act in this country? I say screw what everyone else wants you to be and do whatever the hell makes you happy…

But then again, that attitude has always gotten me in trouble… )

Misty says:
Wed, 12th Mar 20086:17 am 

I believe that the comments and statements made are true. Most girls, are more interested in their appearance then their intellect. They care more about being spoiled and handed material goods (do you really need expensive gifts), then just living life as yourself and not a fake. Girls have a tendency to stick together as in if asked a question, they wait for the other person to answer and then just agree as if they weren't given brains to think with. I agree with Carly on the generalized statement. Also for Kim, it's usually only the girls who are in Carly's stereotype, that complain that the woman that are different are obnoxious. I am sorry, some woman strive to be different, or as I like to call it strive to be an individual. I am one of those woman who strive to be different, so I take great offence to your comment.

Carly - Grinnell says:
Wed, 12th Mar 20086:47 am 

Megan….

1. It would be nice if you spelled my name correctly, but I'm sure you didn't do it on purpose.

2. Good point. I did indeed bash American men, but I also specifically remember using the word "most" or a similar word in that article. I hate stereotypes just as much as the next person does, but I'm a writer and I need to create attention-grabbing headlines. I do my best to make sure that the article's content relates to the headline, but every reader is going to have his or her own opinion. I would never try to lump EVERYONE in a certain group together and make a general statement about all of them, but I do believe that the things I said are true of most girls and I do believe that the things I said in my other article are true of most American guys. And I'll defend that because I believe it. I'm happy you disagree, because otherwise there wouldn't be as much discussion (or outrageous statements from anyone) as a result of my articles.

Alysse says:
Wed, 12th Mar 20088:14 am 

What really concerns me about this discussion is so many readers agree with the negative comments made and it's really a cope out, more than anything.

Girls who embrace unnatural stereotypes are, in fact, annoying. But so are boys who do the same thing.

If you can do it, the healthiest behavior for yourself and the people around you is to try and see beyond someone's bullshit and at least get a glimmer of understanding as to why they make the questionable choices they do.

When someone says "oh, I hate girls. So much drama." You're just blowing off a complex issue!

Megan says:
Wed, 12th Mar 20082:54 pm 

Sorry about the name typo.

Either way, is using dramatic comments working out for you? You get readers, sure, but not all of them can get past the sometimes offensive headline to really think and consider what you are trying to say. It borders on bad or at least ineffective journalism.

Also, I think that if a male had written this article, a lot more people would be up in arms. So its okay to bash a gender if you belong to that gender?

"I would never try to lump EVERYONE in a certain group together and make a general statement about all of them, but I do believe that the things I said are true of most girls and I do believe that the things I said in my other article are true of most American guys."

But you DID lump everyone into a certain category, and that is what some of us take issue with; to imply that most women act a certain way implies that you know how most women act, when in reality, you do not, and you never will because you do not know most women.

If you can do it, the healthiest behavior for yourself and the people around you is to try and see beyond someone’s bullshit and at least get a glimmer of understanding as to why they make the questionable choices they do.

I totally agree Alysse.

Carly - Grinnell says:
Wed, 12th Mar 20083:59 pm 

Megan, Alysse, etc., you have a bunch of good points, and I don't think we'll ever agree. But hey, that's what these discussions are for. I do appreciate your input, and I will give more thought to my headlines and some of the other statements I make in future.

Rachel says:
Sun, 23rd Mar 20086:08 pm 

I've been on both sides of this age old issue. Now I am the one who DOES NOT get along with girls anymore. I think this article does strike a cord to a few girls who don't fit this list of criteria. To me, it just feels like girls are "supposed" to act a certain way…such as being a ditzy airhead who herd in groups to every place they go. If these kind of girls meet other girls who don't fit this criteria, they're automatically labelled as being different, weird, or odd. It's a total shame. A lot of these girls just need to learn that defying these stereotypes is a GOOD thing.

Sharlotte says:
Fri, 11th Apr 20086:17 pm 

I totally agree. There are only a few respectable girls that don't act such ways. I also really don't like when girls just give in to these crappy stereotypes and forget what a person with morals is

Cayla says:
Sun, 20th Apr 200810:51 pm 

I am a girl and I totally agree with you. We are weird creatures. I personally hate myself because of the way i mistreat guys. I go to uc irvine and like some days i would be nice to my friends but if you catch me at the wrong time, i would accuse you of stupid things i would never think about and i enjoy messing with guys. Ive had a couple bfs that i pretended i liked but i was just enjoying the chase. You can say im sick but that is an exaggeration cause the real term is that im a teenage girl

Idiots says:
Mon, 19th May 20082:09 pm 

Oh girls, get off your pms, its an article. Stop getting so offended because most of these points are true.

Thank you Carly for this wonderful article. All of it is true.

Jen says:
Mon, 25th Aug 200810:43 pm 

this is like the whole sex and the city the movie debate.

you either love the movie to bits or hate it to smithereens.

personally i hated hated really really hated the satc movie.

i am a girl and i despised the satc girls for being so materialistic, narcissistic, men-obsessed and screamy.

unfortunately i know girls in real life who are really like that. and they thought the movie was a fabulous, indepth look into a woman's life. yuck.

so some girls do identify with being all girly and fluffy but some don't. there is nothing to argue about. just be whatever you want to be. if people don't like you, they'll simply not hang out with you. but that's neither good nor bad too.

k says:
Sun, 31st Aug 20088:20 am 

Another thing, many girls are extremely mean and bratty. It totally pisses me off when one second they treat you like their best friend and the second your treated like crap. I hate that "leader" thing in the group where they lead you everywhere they need to go–the bathroom, to that room, back, to another table…

that's just fuckin' stupid.

like I said about the "rank" thing, they can start being really snobby if they decide your not like them anymore, and basically ditch you…

even if you don't like someone you shouldn't exclude them, because that's fucked up. i hate how girls try to act "cool" and if you aren't exactly like them and don't do everything exactly the way they do, they exclude you from everything and label you a "weirdo" or an outcast. i hate peer pressure too, like if they do something shitty, you're expected to do it too. people need to accept those with different moral values and lifestyles.

two words : GROW UP.

FUCKINGIRRITATED says:
Thu, 11th Sep 20086:47 pm 

I hate how in gym,the fucking girls squeel like

fuck when a ball is about to hit them.

Fuck,im in hgh school now,and i hate my ALL GIRLS

gym class.There’s a group of girls who fucking

laugh out loud for ATTENTION.Holy crap.

I would respect a girl who’s just NORMAL.

Then i would respect stupid air-head girls.

And fuck, these girls are great examples of why

some people are sexist.

Aboveit says:
Wed, 20th May 20094:41 pm 

The thing I agreed with the most in the previous article is the idea that girls are truly incapable of doing anything alone. The worst part about that is, most of them really dislike girls that can. If you’re someone that is independent and can do things on your own, those that can’t, enjoy nothing more than making you feel excluded from the group. I’m sorry, but when I go and grab a coffee in the morning, I dont need 12 friends to come with me, and when I go to class or to the library to write a paper, I dont need 3 buddies to come and join me. I like getting my things done, and I don’t need someone to hold my hand, nor do I need someone with me at all times to feel secure. It boggles my mind that minding your own business and doing your own thing can cause so much drama. Girls are mean, bottom line.
If anyone feels excluded from a group of girls, whether they be your enemies or at one point your friends (or roommates), don’t let them get you down. If they need to be mean, and malicious to feel secure or fit in, that isn’t your problem. Be true to yourself. If you’re a kind person, be kind. If you’re an accepting person, be accepting, and don’t fall into their trap. Rise above that, and be your own person. Although it may be hard to stray from the path, you will be a stronger in the end. Believe me I’ve been there once, first in high school and now in college, and its hard. But worth it. In regards to college, many times you feel like your life at school is all that is out there. However, go home for a weekend and/or visit a friend somewhere else and you’ll soon find that there is so much more important stuff outside of the little bubble these girls are living in.

MKF says:
Tue, 7th Jul 20098:38 pm 

omg we are like..exactly the same!
I absolutely despise girls!
They’re so slutty with their short shorts and how it’s OMG I’M SO FAT
when they weigh like..90 pounds and are incredibly tall.
Gives girls a bad name

CHRIS BRYSON says:
Sun, 23rd Aug 200911:25 am 

I wish i could date a girl like you!!!!!

SERIOUSLY HEARING that stuff from a girl makes me happy it is soooo true!

Random Person on the says:
Sat, 3rd Oct 20098:57 pm 

First off – Stumbled.

Secondly, OHMYGODHOWDIDYOUDOTHAT? You pretty much said everything that annoys me about how (many) women (typically) act.

The one about spiders is more of an evolutionary habit, but honestly you can still get over it, the same way guys need to get over approach anxiety (Yes, it's technically not your fault, but get over it!).

I digress. I considered reading your other posts, but it's fucking 2 AM and I'm going to sleep.

Anika says:
Fri, 16th Oct 20092:40 am 

Hi there.

I am a South African girl and I agree with this article. I also hate the way most girls ditch their friends when they find a boy but and then when he dumps you, they know you again!

tingtong says:
Sun, 18th Oct 20094:36 pm 

this savours strongly of bitterness my dear. lighten up and take that stick out of yo ass.

felix says:
Sat, 24th Oct 200912:18 am 

FUCK YES!!

kristen says:
Fri, 30th Oct 20098:33 pm 

girls only made for fuck and nothing more than

so bro never forget this thought before prop

Bre says:
Sat, 7th Nov 200911:33 pm 

I have always been on the outside from girls like you write about. However, some of my really close friends who aren’t girly AT ALL, would consider me a complete girl. I do care about how I look, but I’m not obsessed. I’m not afraid of spiders (I have seen JUST as many guys afraid of spiders, by the way) I am constantly doing things alone because I prefer it that way. I actually get crap for that, too. I sometimes think things are “cute” or “beautiful” because I am a woman and women are usually more emotional. Men are more logical and we are more emotional. We ARE different than men in a lot of ways. And even if girls can be annoying from time to time, I’m glad that we aren’t all like men. I appreciate what women and men BOTH contribue. Even the women you talk about because everyone is different and sometimes girls like this are actually really fun to be around and can brighten up a room with their personalities. Even women like this are capable of doing damn good things and I’m sure some of them do. If we took more time to appreciate each other rather than bash each other based on sterotypes or how you perceive someone to be, maybe things would be a little different between us. Why are you so insecure to hate on other people because they are different than you? If you don’t like them, so be it, but what’s it to you? I mean, really? Why don’t you write something nice and encouraging about women’s goods traits instead of making the entire issue worse and knocking on people that you really don’t know that much about deep down. It’s unfair to judge someone based soley on a few measly annoying traits that they may or may not have. Especially when in this case: some of the chicks that act this way are simply insecure with themselves. A lot of these types of girls are still growing up, I think it’s totally unfair and actually kindof cruel and mean to judge them like that. It’s a bit hypocritical, too. What makes you and your personality type so much better? I’m not completely disagreeing with either: I know that some things that girly girls can do can be hard to understand and a bit irritating. But then again, my only thought is…Why not say something uplifting instead of bashing on people who probably have a few insecurities and haven’t figured things out just yet. Just my thoughts..

Milly says:
Mon, 14th Dec 20091:49 pm 

OMG! I totally agree with you!

It's also annoying when they start obsessing over some boy, yes, I do obsess over guys sometimes, but I don't spent every minute of my day talking about it! They act as if all that matters are boys and clothes (not that they're not important, but there's more to life than that. And don't get me started on the 'does this make me look fat?' thing, me and my bff have a whole theory about it.

High school was exactly like that, that's why most of my friends were boys. College is great because you meet all sorts of people, it's like you're finnaly in the 'real world', not the small bubble high school was.

mimah says:
Mon, 21st Dec 20093:01 am 

The cooing over puppies, kittens and babies thing, I mean come on puppies and kittens are cute I cant help but say ohh cute little puppy and if you don't think babies are cute then please don't have children, this is a natural instinct that you clearly don't have. these aren't really stereotypes these are things that make us women the softer sex, I don't want to be like a man I'm a woman and I'm happy with that

IHateGirls! says:
Tue, 29th Dec 200912:16 am 

Meh I hate all girls. They are all bitches. Period.

Silversion says:
Fri, 1st Jan 20109:07 pm 

AGREE!, except for the insect part. I am guy and I like when my GF jumps at me because of them.

IMO says:
Mon, 18th Jan 20105:44 pm 

I don't get why girls can't just support each other. Why even bother saying you hate how girls act? It's a waste of your time to even concern yourself with how other girls are acting.

You seem to ignore the fact that a lot of girls have low self confidence so a lot of what they're doing is a reflection of that. Cut the girls some slack, holy.

I wish that everyone could just stop seeing other girls as their "competition" or whatever it is that's going on in their mind, it's not attractive to constantly complain about other people. It's troublesome. In that whole article you could not find ONE nice thing that girls do that you like? It's self-hatred, seeing as you're a girl yourself.

Stop kicking each other to the ground ladies and give each other the benefit of the doubt. That girl in that tubetop is probably not a slut, or that girl who wears a lot of makeup and carries an LV bag is probably not a bitch. Lighten up.

I dislike people (not just girls) who complain and spend a good portion of their time ridiculing and attempting to shame others for how they live their life, as if they're perfect or something.

Lia says:
Sat, 29th May 20104:06 pm 

I could not agree more. I honestly do not see what men see in women.

daisy says:
Fri, 3rd Sep 20104:52 am 

http://add-vodka.blogspot.com/2010/09/men-are-fro…

I just blogged about your topic. Sorry if I offended you, but it had to be said. Props to the ladies that were writing above that are strong enough to stick up for yourselves!

scape says:
Tue, 21st Sep 20106:51 am 

I care about my appearance (body and face), I go "aww", I wear black – not pink, I have many friends who are guys but I don't like talking to girls because 100% of the time we share no similar interest.

I go home, get stoned, play video games, surf web, eat pizza. *Some* girls also like pizza, but I've never met any that likes any of the others – and I live in a semi-small city.

A lot of the comments are, "It's so annoying when they _________, admittedly I do that sometimes" – Maybe realize if you're a tomboy, or if you're supporting sexist pigs unintentionally. Funnily enough, I dislike girls who say they dislike other girls because that makes them snots and I'm a girl and make no sense.

Anonymous says:
Tue, 2nd Nov 20105:31 am 

Brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. I agree with everything you've said. But really, I just hate spiders.

Seriously. I've no idea why.

I mean, I don't scream bloody murder and say, 'OMFGSH! OMG! GET IT OFFF MEEE! GET IT OFFF ME!"

I just jump out of my seat, and swear to God that I will never sit on that chair ever again. Hah, I'm kidding. But I freak out a little, swat them away, and step hard on everything to make sure I kill it.

Poor spider.

VISHNU says:
Wed, 22nd Dec 201011:03 am 

i love her madly…
but my life hates me…………….
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I QUIT……….GOOD BYE

koryolink says:
Sun, 3rd Apr 20112:26 am 

I don't see why calling something cute is bad. But going overboard is.
The pack-mentality towards the washroom is irritating – no, I do not want to go to the washroom with you and 99 others.

jay says:
Thu, 7th Apr 201111:24 pm 

this article is just written out of spite and – dare i say it – jealousy. it doesn't make you seem smarter or more desirable because you make fun of how the stereotypical girl acts. dudes don't think you're a "cool chick" because you don't get freaked out by spiders.

GIRLS ARE BITCHES says:
Sat, 16th Apr 20112:40 pm 

No wonder their killed the most they're annoying bitches.

Legend says:
Fri, 20th May 201111:33 pm 

This has to do with your ugliness, I guess.

Lexi says:
Wed, 15th Jun 20116:53 pm 

Then you must really loathe me.

Appearance: I am shamelessly in love with my appearance. I work hard to look the way I want to. Why? Because like it or not, I give myself confidence with it. It doesn't mean I think that's all that matters, but of course I'm going to take pride in myself. IT IS ME. Why not try to make myself shine?
If I ask my boyfriend how I look in something, I'm not going to get offended if he says no. (Now I agree, it's wrong for them to get offended because they asked) But, the reason I ask is because I want to please him. Especially if I love him, hell yes I'm going to make sure to buy things that flatter me to give him something to look at. Give me a break.

Communication: I don't tell my friends I can't go to their sleepover because I would rather go out and have dinner with a cute guy. Why? Because it hurts their feelings. And I do it to guys too. I tell guys I can't hang out for some reason, when really I'm not into them. If you tell them "I'd rather not, and do this." You're being rude. It's fine to politely decline for a reason. Not to mention the example you mentioned is perfectly acceptable. Are you really going to tell your best friend you'd rather go have spend time with a hot professor rather than be with her? If so, I don't know how your friends tolerate you.

Groups: Why on earth would I want to see a movie alone? It's fun to share the experience. To be able to chat about it, or turn to your friend when something incredible or outrageous happens and give them the "Oh my God, did you see that?" look. So that's that. I can understand about the bathroom. I do it if I have to talk to my friend privately to be honest. Some things can't wait, I'm going to pull them to the privacy from the party to talk to them.

Scream/Coo: Excuse me? Some girls, pardon me, people have phobias. For example, I have arachnophobia, hell, that's the most common phobia. Hell yes I'm going to scream and freak out at a spider. Who cares if they're not poisonous? It's something unfamiliar and can bite that's on you. Chill out. Would you really want someone making fun of you for something you're scared of?
Ok. Cooing. Things are cute, people are going to like it. We're creatures of habit and appearance. It doesn't necessarily define you, but I would rather look at a cute little bunny or child and go nuts over it, then act like a soulless robot.

In closing: All of these ideas you mentioned are hypocritical thoughts. Do you wake up and put on clothing? Or brush your hair? You're succumbing to appearance. Do you tell your friend you've got something to do rather than what she's offering. That's the communication. Do you go hang out with your friends? That's the groups. Do you scream if you're scared or comment if you like something? That's the screaming/cooing you mentioned.
Please think about things before you say them. Especially when it's bashing what not only an individual like myself does, but the majority of a people? ESPECIALLY, ESPECIALLY if it pertains to you as well?
That doesn't seem like much of an intelligent observation.

pascal vuong says:
Fri, 1st Jul 20115:28 am 

You sound like the perfect girl for me actually, i am a dutch-asian guy that lives in holland, in holland lots of people ride a bicycle. Including Girls, In holland most girls are stupid spoiled and smoke at a age of 14. (i shit you not) But when i ride a bicycle to school, i just cant avoid spoiled whores looking at me and calling me names. I just really want to punch them… I just really need some advice

jill says:
Fri, 1st Jul 20118:56 am 

Why would you honestly even post this on here?! The fan base is girls, college girls, and many of us behave this way but its such a narrow minded attack on very few poor qualities among some pretty amazing ones. I mean good lord who doesn't think puppies and kittens are cute, i'm personally more concerned that you don't, that you don't want to play with them when you see them or even coo a little bit.
I think its of general consensus that you are wrong here, and that maybe you should take the time to empower women instead of knocking them. We're not perfect and never claimed to be. Men aren't either, YOU aren't either. Stop behaving like there's genuinely something wrong, we all understand we have flaws and the last thing any of us should read about is how awful we are for a few minor actions in our day to day lives. I mean seriously, maybe we should all come together and write an article specifically attacking you for everything that's wrong with you that actually plays little role on who you are as person.
I'm disappointed in you and college candy alike for allowing this to be posted. This is a woman's site were we should be empowered not belittled for a few behavioral glitches. Sorry you hate us so much but this is just as petty as whatever was done to you to make you wanna write it.

Tiffany McBride says:
Fri, 29th Jul 20119:32 pm 

As a sociology major, I'd like to point out some major things.

Women are taught that they are inferior to men, and what women do is for men's pleasure. They must look beautiful, or they are worth nothing.

There's nothing wrong with cute things, you're just imagining everyone in boxes society labels us as, such as women like cute things. Plenty of men like cute things too, they're just stuck in the box that says men are macho. Men do not think things are cute. Men aren't afraid of anything.

And here's the problem, you are thinking like that. You are sticking all females into a box, and saying: this is what girls do, and I hate them. And you might not realize it, but you're being a misogynist. You label calling things cute as 'girly', and girls are inferior to boys, so you don't want to be girly.

Fuck all that shit. If you think somethings cute, it's fine. Don't think of things as 'girl things' and 'boy things', just do what you want and like what you like. Except for tampons. Those are girls things.

Cameron Knight says:
Sat, 1st Oct 20116:11 pm 

I hate girls with every fiber of my being. They always talk trash about boys and think they are perfect well think different…

Janu Mues says:
Wed, 12th Oct 20112:30 am 

I seriously doubt she wrote this to seem cool or attract guys. I cant stand girls in the same way. I'm a nerd in every sense of the word. I dont believe in the word "cool" and I already have a boyfriend. Yet its the annoying mannerisms of typical girls that drive me up the wall. Especially the one she mentioned where they dont just say what they want to say but instead dance around it, expecting you to read their minds. I dont have many female friends and there's a very good reason why.

Janu Mues says:
Wed, 12th Oct 20112:48 am 

You seem to have missed the point to this entire thing. I’ll sum it up quickly.
Appearance: Obviously everyone cares about their appearance. It becomes extremely ridiculous when they become just about obsessed with it.
Communication: It’s not about “hurting feelings.” It’s about how girls typically get all emotional and act out of anger or sadness instead of logically thinking. They do this famous “you know what you did, dont act like you dont” thing that is horribly frustrating when you actually dont. Instead of clear cut communication, they’d rather dance around what they want to say and assume you do the same. So “hey, why dont you wear that one shirt, today?” turns into “The current shirt you’re wearing makes you look hideous, you fat ugly hag, change immediately.” In other words, a conversation that would take 5 minutes with a guy ends up taking hours with a girl and ends in her being mad at you for some ridiculous reason.
Groups: It’s unnecessary, all of it, at least in my opinion.
Scream/Coo: Everyone has phobias. Most people confuse fear and phobia and many that think they have a phobia indeed just have a fear. A phobia is something mentally crippling. It’s an extreme fear, usually with no rational cause. People that do indeed have phobias cant stand to even see a picture of their phobia and will tear down walls and people to get away from the object or situation. The only time it’s acceptable to act that ridiculous about something is when it’s indeed a phobia. As for cooing, and i’m going to speak for myself for this, because I dont know Carly and dont know if this is how she applied it, but it’s not just the fact that I/you/she coos at something “cute”, it’s more of a feeling of not liking that you do. Yet, its somewhat of a reflex so there’s not much you can do but dislike it.

In closing: You stated incredibly one sided arguments for the subjects she covered. Learn to see things in different perspective.

Janu Mues says:
Wed, 12th Oct 20113:00 am 

There's a difference between girly and ridiculous. Also there's no other gender to compare to but males. There's nothing wrong with favoring how typical males act over how typical females act. As much as everyone wants to deny it, there are certain underlying behaviors that exist in females, not males, and visa versa. As a sociology major, you should know his. One of the best examples, the one that grinds me most, would be, as Carly stated, the lack of clear cut communication. This quite silly difference in behavior, alone, is one of the biggest causes of relationships breaking off because of disagreements and miscommunication. I acknowledge that that certain behavior is inherently embedded into female minds (after my boyfriend read me an excerpt from one of his psychology books) and have sought to work on mine, realizing I used to act this way. To this day, I'm the only girl I know that does not have fights with their mate. I just cant understand why most people automatically turn you away, thinking you're insulting them, when you're, in fact, trying to enhance their lives by giving them a hint of wise advice. But maybe, as a sociology major, you could explain that to me?

Heather says:
Tue, 29th Nov 20118:50 pm 

no i agree with you. how she words everything.

boobi says:
Wed, 4th Jan 20125:25 pm 

O..k?..

joon says:
Mon, 16th Jan 20126:37 pm 

g0ood luck with your bs soc degree. carly is absolutely ru

jen says:
Mon, 16th Jan 20126:46 pm 

don't worry carly. i'm glad you wrote this. screw everyone else's opinion of you. girls should not support other girls when girls like you describe are full of themselves anyway. i don't get along with most girls unless i'm stoned or drunk. girls definitely have a messed up way of communicating sometimes. i'm a girl and i will call a girl the c word if necessary. thank you for writing this.