Sara says:
Thu, 13th Mar 20089:23 am 

I slept with my best guy friend 4 years ago. We were both virgins. This was 7 months AFTER we'd tried dating and broke up after 6 weeks. Our relationship was really screwed up for a while (i.e. I wanted a relationship and he didn't) and we slept together off and on for a year and a half. We even fooled around a little bit when I was with my last ex…the last time was probably 2 years ago. I couldn't get used to the idea of him being someone else's, but we're finally back to being friends (we'll never be best friends again, I don't think, but we've changed as people and grown apart, and that happens). I loved his friendship before and I'll always miss how it used to be. But I don't totally regret it either. He was my first love.

Darcy says:
Thu, 13th Mar 20081:17 pm 

Uh, your best friend was certainly a major ASSHOLE for sleeping with you when he's seeing someone. Talk about not having any respect for your feelings (not even your romantic feelings, just your feelings as a human being). You guys may have great times and click really well, but what makes someone truly your best friend is being able to hold back when you want to do something because you know it'll hurt the person you care about.

Laura says:
Thu, 13th Mar 20081:55 pm 

wow. you've just mirrored my situation nearly exactly. the only difference is instead of his girl being blond, his girl was jewish.

i've never felt so much pain over once person, and we never even officially dated. we're back to normal now, several months later, but nothing can quite match that level of humiliation and pain. because you can hate your crush, but you can't hate your best friend.

A says:
Thu, 13th Mar 20083:01 pm 

I got drunk and slept with my best friend and we ended up getting married. Over all I wouldn't recommend it, but it's working out for me

Jessica - FSU says:
Fri, 14th Mar 20085:11 am 

I sleep with my best friend every night:)

April says:
Sat, 15th Mar 200812:03 pm 

I slept with my best friend after a night of heavy drinking (when I say "heavy" I really mean "black-out). He'd had a crush on me for nearly three years; I'd never liked him as more than a friend.

Suddenly I realized, THIS was the only guy who'd stuck around for years, listened to all of my problems, didn't care if I showed up in sweatpants with no makeup on. Immediately I wanted a relationship. Without telling him that, I staged a conversation in which I extracted from him his intentions. There was "no way he could remain faithful" to me. We now lived three hours apart. In highschool, we'd had all the time in the world to see each other, and he couldn't get any ass. Now that college is upon us, he has to beat 'em away with a stick, and we have 4 months, at most, out of the year to see each other.

Don't sleep with your best friend.

Wolf says:
Sun, 16th Mar 20081:16 pm 

I found this girl freshman year of college, who like u said we were each other’s exact opposite of who we were typically attracted to. We hit it off and were best friends for the next two years of school. Neither of us dated anyone, afraid to ruin what we had. We each had some hook ups but we never talked about them. Then last year after two years of having a huge crush on her i made my move. We hooked up and things were never the same after that. I wanted a relationship, she kinda did, but it never worked out. She ended up dating a kid who was a friend of mine who had a girl friend at the time and i never figured that the two would end up together. After i heard that the two of them were together, i haven't seen her or talked to her in almost 8 months, i just couldn't do it, she had broken my heart. Recently though we have started to hang out again ( I missed what we had) and i feel like she still has feelings for me, she tells me things that she doesn't even share with her boyfriend. I don't want to ruin what we have but i still have feelings for her even after having other girlfriends and hookups, i wish i knew what to do. I like what one of u said "you can hate your crush, but you can’t hate your best friend", so true.

mal says:
Sun, 16th Mar 20081:49 pm 

Yeah…so… This guy and i dated for a long time and we have always been friends, even since we broke up and even before we got together… Well one night, we got carried away and slept together. Things for a while after that were normal, but now that i have moved on, i feel like he sorta freaked out. He called me a lot of undeserved bad names, and didnt talk to me for a long time. i think that we was a lot more upset than i was… I sort of took it with a grain of salt knowing that we would always be friends, but now i dont think that things will be the same. We've started talking again, so i know thats a good start!

Men everywhere says:
Wed, 26th Mar 20087:02 am 

Holy christ. Chicks are fucking stupid.

... says:
Tue, 1st Apr 20086:00 pm 

i dated a friend (not best friend though) and it was a verrrryy bad idea. we don't even talk to eachother anymore

Jojo says:
Mon, 13th Oct 20084:58 pm 

I have slept with my BF 3 times. We were both drunk all 3 times. I don't like him, however I feel strangely attracted to him. Maybe it's because he reads me like a book. I am pretty sure he feels the same way about me. BTW we have never ever talked about being together. In fact, the next day we act like it never happened. I always think WTF are you doing?!?! It is not the way to go. For sure.

olivia says:
Sun, 2nd Nov 20086:49 pm 

I slept with my best friend about 4months ago, we've been drunk together many many times and have sometimes kissed, which i know is stupid to do in the first place but we were just comfortable enough to do that kind of thing when caught in the moment there was never anything thought of it. Then one evening we got terribly drunk, i started gazing at him in the bar and by the time we got to his place we were in his bed in no time. In the morning i thought it'd be awful but he was very affectionate with me. We both agreed it was just a laugh and i brushed it off without any worry. But i heard nothing from him. I'm too much of a wimp to contact him first as i know he will presume i am being clingy, i don't know if he has gone into hiding because he felt anything more for me or because it has just freaked him out that it was the wrong thing to do. its not worth it trust me

RevaRevaG says:
Thu, 12th Feb 20092:34 am 

My Best Friend and I have been really close for 2 years, meeting through mutual friends. When we first met I told him I had the hots for him, but he denied me saying he only felt for me as friends. I took it, it wasnt that hard to deal with seeing as we sorta just met. So over the last two years we have become so close, he’s my drinking pal, my punch ya in the arm, flirt around, love ya kid friend. I planned to move 2000 miles from my home and him two months ago, and I also had a relationship with another guy which was on the rocks, and was ending due to my decision to move. About a week before I left a group of friends and I partied till the sun came up. In the early hours of the day, my guy friend, and a girl from our group, and I went to her house to continue our “up all night party.” We were all extremely drunk and she could feel the friction between us and ecouraged it. I dont remember much of that time, but she later told me we were both really amused by the idea, and were kissing when she wasnt looking. I always thought he never liked me like that, but his actions always said otherwise, but he always acted reserved. We later went to his house, where I had crashed many times before, only on his couch, not bed. He suggested it, and I was totally seduced, and I did cheat. I am sad that I did that, but i dont regret it, it just confirmed my feelings toward him, if was willing to preform infidelity. The next time I saw him was two days later when all my friends and I went sledding, I was staying at my friends for a few days to clear my mind. We had so much fun sledding and at one point he held on to my leg so we could go down the hill together and my other friend took notice. It made me feel good to know there was something, even a little shred of hope that all this wasnt just liquor feelings. Long story I know I am detailed. So now I am 2000 miles away and single, and I talk to him often, but I dont know how to tell him, or if I even should. I think I would rather wait it out, instead of humiliating myself, if that is the case. What if I was just booty to him? He doesnt seem like the kind of guy who would risk our relationship for a piece of a$$. Then again, he is a ladies man. I am going back home in 5 months for a wedding i which he is my date. All I feel I can do is let fate take it from here, and if it is meant, it will. I just had to write it down to get it out of my system, and this was the perfect place.

Crazy Bitch says:
Fri, 20th Mar 20096:30 pm 

DO NOT DO IT! Your best friend is the person who knows everything about you and trusts you and pretty much gets you more than anybody else. Do not risk it. I slept with my best friend and definately regret it. I'm in love with her and my heart hurts because on one hand if I tell her I know I'm going to lose one of the most amazing people in the world and on the other hand I don't know if I'm strong enough to keep this secret all to myself. I'm also pissed at her because she used me and pissed at myself because I knew she was using me and I wasn't strong enough to stop it. DON'T DO IT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE IT.

nutalieeee says:
Sun, 12th Apr 200911:38 am 

there's no one in the world i love and trust more than my best friend. The sex is great and there's no way I would chose to have sex with a stranger or someone I barely know over someone who loves me and respects me.

Jay says:
Fri, 11th Sep 200911:25 am 

I slept with my friend on my 28th b-day…it was great. We'd been friends for 23 yrs and it happened. It happened again last night. I initiated it after card games, a movie on t.v. and slow music. He expressed his feelings for me a month ago that he loves me…and I became distant by not replying to him. Then last night we had sex and it was good. I dont feel weird about it. I just feel that we are so close and so much alike that we may not get along for a permanent relationship. And honestly im scared to get involved because I dont want to lose him as a friend. So I am a woman with alpha male tendencies…meaning I dont return phone calls, I dont get emotionally involved.

anomynous says:
Mon, 4th Jan 20103:57 pm 

If anything don't sleep with your best friend. i did and i regret it. We had not been talking for the last two and a half months since we had sex. It felt great when we did it for awhile. IT was comforting to me and a stress relieve to him. We became friends when we first came to college, dated off and on over the past five years, and shared our faith, dreams, and personal life with each other. We could talk about everything. We had our ups and downs in our friendship but each time it got stronger, but then we had sex with each other and now we aren't talking. This was my very best friend and I've lost him. He was my first love and my best friend. Its not worth it. If you enjoy talking to your best friend then you don't want to risk it. I miss our conversation, his humor, his music, and our talks about God and faith. Something that is temporary like sex and not permanent is not worth it. I know this from experience. It hurts like hell to have lost my best friend.

xiiaohuii says:
Wed, 3rd Feb 20109:04 am 

i slept with my best friend once..we're not drunk..he's extremly attractive to me (as always)..( he's my role model.. the kind of guy i'm always looking for, yet i know it's impossible between us)

he started teasing me at first and i couldn't stop but simply enjoy and continue.. it feels sinful.. yet i really enjoy it and really hope for anoher time but fearing that i may start to develope feelings for him.. i decide to stop..(our relationship still progress like usual..)sometimes i'm just thinking if i'm normal..

anonymous says:
Wed, 25th Aug 20106:00 am 

You know what despite all the don't do it's i'm seeing here i've never regretted it we've been together nearly five years now and are happily engaged, best decision I ever made.

alphabeta22 says:
Thu, 16th Sep 20107:12 pm 

Slept with my friend two months ago. We haven't spoken since.

He told me long before it happened that he had feelings for me. There was a great amount leading up to the event. Definitely didn't come out of no where.

He initiated. He came prepared (read: packed a condom). He made no eye contact during.

He left in haste the next morning and I haven't spoken to him since.

Not sure what I expected exactly, but certainly not that.

Roscoe says:
Thu, 6th Jan 20117:24 am 

Over new year my bf and I spelt together (I'm a guy), it was a drunken thing but I knew it had been a long time coming, she did too, as she'd had a boyfriend for the past 3 years who she split up with a few months before and we'd alwys been great friends in this time.
All i'll say is don't listen to people when they say its a bad or good idea, it completely depends on what your "friend" relationship's like, and only you can be the one to decide that.
Now we're both going back to uni (both 18) after the xmas hols (and sleeping together (sober) a few more tiems during that week) and were better friends than ever, we were able to talk about it comfortably the next day. It's your call, don't let reading things like this article put you off if youre lucky enough to have someone like that in your life

Lucky says:
Wed, 26th Jan 20115:48 pm 

I've slept with my best friend and it was amazing and I could never regret it. He's my best friend the one Im most comfortable before We had we had established feelings for each other We really loved each other but we weren't together although we always acted like it so I guess you could say We were together, We were telling each other how much we loved each other and couldn't be without each other and It happened I lost my virginity to him, Now we've been together 2 years(:

mary jane says:
Mon, 28th Mar 20114:38 pm 

Sooo I have been best friends with this guy since we were 15 years old and were 22 now. When we were younger we had one encounter of messing around which totally made things akward for us for a couple months after. (because I decided to admit I had a crush on him and he didn’t feel the same) he lived in my neighborhood and we had the same group of friends. So all through highschool we remained friends and dated other people but it was til after we graduated til we started beginning really close again. It was me him and another guy that were like the 3 musketeers and did everything together. We would all talk about our relationships with other people and our one night stands and pretty much knew everything about eachother. Well especially in the last year I got super close to him. We would hang out like 5 out of the 7 days a week, went out together, everything. we have told each other how much we love eachother but never in THAT way. well one night we went to a friends house after binge drinking at the bar, and he brought up the time when we were kids! You know what’s coming next! so yea ended up hooking up with him and it was amazing!! but the next day we could barely talk about it and we swore we wouldn’t tell anyone especially our other guy friend! so it was kinda weird when we would hang out after the hook up and we just acted like nothing happen. 2 weeks later it happened again! but still we didn’t talk about it!!! when we were drunk one night we brought it up n just kinda laughed it off. He was the one that asked me abt it and I guess I just dont wanna tell him how I really feel cuz I’m afraid of losing him as a friend. Well now I live in a different state cuz I’m going to school here and we still talk here and there and he is planning on moving here in a few months! I do not know how to handle this cuz we still haven’t talked about “us” but he’s willing to leave all his friends and family behind n come move here. Which I do live in a really great area super close to the beach. any suggestions out there!?!? but all in all I don’t regret sleeping with my best friend however it has made things even more confusing!!

Maryposa says:
Thu, 19th Jan 20123:04 pm 

I just slept with my best friend recently. I'm so unbelievably confused. We've known each other since 4th grade and we're really close, but about 2 years ago we kissed for the first time. After that he freaked out and we didn't talk for a whole year, but our friendship survived. After that we were back to normal and hanging out all the time. I guess you could say we've always had sexual tension because everyone always asks us why we're not dating or that we should just fuck already. I went home to visit and he confessed that his life is weird without out me and it sucks not being around me all the time and there's just something about me. So we slept together because I figured I guess I've always kinda liked him a little bit. Now I think I'm in love with him and I'm so confused.