Comments on: I Never Said “Yes” http://collegecandy.com/2008/03/28/i-never-said-yes/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 03:23:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Carlos http://collegecandy.com/2008/03/28/i-never-said-yes/#comment-62730 Thu, 17 Dec 2009 07:36:19 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/7947#comment-62730 Not to sound insensitive or anything like that, but from your description of what happened, it would be somewhat impossible for the guy to guess you "didnt say yes", and i see no fault in his actions, unless ofc your underaged.

To be honest, "Lu"´s comment makes him look like some kind of rapist… Maybe i missunderstand, might be a cultural thing, u know… u americans and ur mtv :P (No insult intended ^^).

Female virginity is not some kind of sacred marking that separates the pure from the dirty… you give it up when u feel like it, just like male virginity, except for the hymen, it is only as important as your culture tells you it is.

]]> By: Lu http://collegecandy.com/2008/03/28/i-never-said-yes/#comment-60428 Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:08:30 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/7947#comment-60428 Consent isn't the absence of "no" as much as it is the presense of a "yes." And you didn't consent. You didn't fight back because you were afraid, not because you wanted it. This WAS his fault. I'm glad you don't have any resentment toward him, but you have every right to, and this man needs to learn that what he did was not ok, or he may do it again.

]]> By: Jess http://collegecandy.com/2008/03/28/i-never-said-yes/#comment-31457 Thu, 07 May 2009 02:10:53 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/7947#comment-31457 almost the exact same thing happened to me too. and while it still upsets me, it hasn’t been scarring really, just depressing and embarrassing…makes me feel less of myself especially since I am usually such an outspoken person.

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