Comments on: The New Sexual Stigma: Remaining A Virgin In College

By: jenny

jenny — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 12:49:20 +0000

being A virgin is a difficult but nice and safe adventure…but this is good though

By: Godfrey

Godfrey — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 06:42:13 +0000

I love this post, I am a Nigerian 24 years old male, and will wait till I get married. Interested ladies who are also virgins should mail me Jekwumoore@yahoo.com, thanks

By: bee easy

bee easy — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 23:55:15 +0000

very good post! i'm a virgin too! we are all human beings, as we are sexual beings…some of us just don't want to have sex yet…and people should respect that.

By: Chrissy

Chrissy — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 22:45:30 +0000

I do tend to get both positive and negative reactions when I tell people "o yeah, I'm virign." I get sum girls who are like "thats a good thing your a virign," and my previous roommate would tease me and be like "AT LEAST I'M GETTING LAID" and I would think "yeah, but you're always complaining how much he gets on your nerves later." Like you Jess, I'm a virgin not due from religious morality. Personally, I want my first time to be special and I want a guy who I can trust that he just wont 'hit it and quit it.' And i know my first wont be Mr. Right cause I wouldnt know who Mr. Not Right is.

And also, I cant stand da assumptions tha are made when I tell guys I'm a virgin and they automatically think that I've never been with a guy before like I've been living in a closest with a t.v. in it. Its just, I'm trying to see how long you'll stick around, how you treat me, and how you act b4 I can trust you to give you something that is dear to me. Thats all.

By: Rebekah

Rebekah — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 08:50:02 +0000

Thanks for posting this. I'm 18 and I was beginning to think that I would become a 40 year old virgin or something, but reading similar situations makes me feel a little bit better.

By: Chante

Chante — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 03:38:56 +0000

It's amazing how this world is so loving to every other lifestyle, but as soon as you're different (in a typically Christian connotation) all the sudden something is wrong with you.

And that's when irony just isn't funny. :/

By: Jill

Jill — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 12:00:38 +0000

Oh thank God I'm not alone.

Great post. I feel SO much better.

By: Sara

Sara — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 15:37:47 +0000

Look both sides to this are ignoring the real issue. Some women who consider themselves virgins are not. If you engage in any activity where breasts, vaginas, penis, buttocks are touched, massaged, what have you, then you are still engaging in a sexual activity. Girls that only engage in oral are still engaging in sex. Let's not make naïve statements and take ignorant positions. At my university my best friend was a devout Christian who would only have anal sex since it wasn't forbidden in the bible. The real issue is about SEX. There's no talk about having a good sexual life. As mature adults we must engage in safe and experimental sex so we can learn our likes and dislikes. What if you wait to marry and then once married two years find out that your husband is into something kinky you don't like or the other way around. Nobody's fault – the two of you never discussed it because it wasn't an issue and some people find out they like things by accident during a sexual encounter. My husband was a virgin when we were married and I liked my hair pulled and getting spanked both very normal things. He couldn't bring himself to do it and so we ended up seeing a therapist. Four months later and a lot of awkward situations we're as happy as we can be. He admits that if he had just opened his mind and heart when he was younger and experimented it wouldn't have been a strain. There's nothing wrong with sex as long as it's safe and consensual. By the way – even dry humping to him was forbidden cause it's technically mutual masturbation.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Tue, 20 May 2008 00:55:10 +0000

What a hideous comment to make, Jaime. I don't think that people assume that everyone loses their virginity casually. And maybe it's good if virginity makes someone seem "too good to have sex." Putting that barrier there means that a person will not only have higher standards, but that potential mates have to get to know you first.

By: Jaime

Jaime — Sat, 03 May 2008 14:32:17 +0000

Some peoples' comments on this article are actually offensive in my opinion. I think it's rude to assume that every girl who has lost her virginity did it with someone who she met at some party while she was drunk out of her mind and within an hour was jumping his bone. I personally have been in a relationship for 2 and a half years, and i am not married, but needless to say we are having sex. What i am getting out of this article is that you put men off by acting like you are way too good to have sex with them. Maybe that's why you can't find the right man to lose it to.