Comments on: Why Bother with a Wedding? http://collegecandy.com/2008/04/04/why-bother-with-a-wedding/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Mon, 23 Nov 2009 05:48:15 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Sad to say http://collegecandy.com/2008/04/04/why-bother-with-a-wedding/#comment-13534 Sad to say Tue, 14 Oct 2008 03:45:04 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/8047#comment-13534 I don't see anything wrong with a non-traditional wedding. If the bridge proposes, that's fine. If they don't want an engagement ring, that's fine. I also don't like wedding gowns. If the groom wants to elope at City Hall and the bride wants to elope at Niagara Falls, things are fine. Or if the woman wants a non-traditonal casual thing in a restaurant and the man wants it on the beach, it is okay. But when the man wants the traditional wedding and the woman wants to just get married without the "sexist" traditions, there is going to be trouble. Sad to say. I don’t see anything wrong with a non-traditional wedding. If the bridge proposes, that’s fine. If they don’t want an engagement ring, that’s fine. I also don’t like wedding gowns. If the groom wants to elope at City Hall and the bride wants to elope at Niagara Falls, things are fine. Or if the woman wants a non-traditonal casual thing in a restaurant and the man wants it on the beach, it is okay. But when the man wants the traditional wedding and the woman wants to just get married without the “sexist” traditions, there is going to be trouble. Sad to say.

]]> By: Devon http://collegecandy.com/2008/04/04/why-bother-with-a-wedding/#comment-13533 Devon Thu, 10 Apr 2008 05:54:35 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/8047#comment-13533 Like you, I am "sort of" engaged... we've been talking about it for a year now, last week he purchased the ring, and he's planning on filling in our parents this weekend before he "officially" proposes. Also like you, the thought of a traditional wedding makes me feel queasy. I hate the culture of entitlement and self-indulgence that surrounds the whole concept, and my ideal wedding would involve just the boyfriend and I signing papers in town hall and having some champagne afterward. Unfortunately for me, the boyfriend is staunchly traditional, and while I've talked him out of the whole reception/200 people/live music idea, the minimum I can bargain him down to is a cocktail reception at my house with close family and friends... he's not willing to cut them out completely. Any suggestions? I know marriage is all about compromise so I'm prepared to bite the bullet and meet in the middle, but a donut shop sounds great to me! Like you, I am “sort of” engaged… we’ve been talking about it for a year now, last week he purchased the ring, and he’s planning on filling in our parents this weekend before he “officially” proposes.

Also like you, the thought of a traditional wedding makes me feel queasy. I hate the culture of entitlement and self-indulgence that surrounds the whole concept, and my ideal wedding would involve just the boyfriend and I signing papers in town hall and having some champagne afterward.

Unfortunately for me, the boyfriend is staunchly traditional, and while I’ve talked him out of the whole reception/200 people/live music idea, the minimum I can bargain him down to is a cocktail reception at my house with close family and friends… he’s not willing to cut them out completely.

Any suggestions? I know marriage is all about compromise so I’m prepared to bite the bullet and meet in the middle, but a donut shop sounds great to me!

]]> By: Juliette http://collegecandy.com/2008/04/04/why-bother-with-a-wedding/#comment-13532 Juliette Wed, 09 Apr 2008 00:03:19 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/8047#comment-13532 My parents married on a beach in SoCal in jeans in the 1970s. And let's just say that my mother is DETERMINED to live out her fantasies through me. And I look *terrible* in the dress she picked out for me. Like a really attractive, zaftig beluga whale. My parents married on a beach in SoCal in jeans in the 1970s. And let’s just say that my mother is DETERMINED to live out her fantasies through me. And I look *terrible* in the dress she picked out for me. Like a really attractive, zaftig beluga whale.

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