Friends. No Benefits
Last night, as I sat in a bowling alley surrounded by twelve guys, I realized that I donâ€™t have many girl friends anymore (at least ones that arenâ€™t 3,000 miles away). Yet, even though I spend a majority of my free-time with the male species, I am still a very single lady. It is not like I donâ€™t like my guy friends â€“ they are good looking, funny, smart, successful, sorta perfect â€“ but I just donâ€™t like them like that.
People are always asking me why I havenâ€™t dated any of these guys yet, or even made out with any of them. I had never really thought about it before and once I did I realized it is weird. I mean, how many times have you made out with a close guy friend? And how many of your friends in relationships started out as â€śjust friendsâ€ť until they got drunk, made out in a dark corner and realized they loved each other? It seems like a natural progression: if a guy and a girl like each other enough to be best friends then, in theory, they should like each other enough to be more. I am just not sure I really believe that.
There is so much more to taking a friendship to another level than mere feelings. And it is those things that have kept me a friend-to-all-men. Maybe itâ€™s an insecurity thing (â€śThey would have made a move if they were interestedâ€ť), maybe itâ€™s a fear of ruining a really quality friendship (â€śItâ€™s hard to find guys you feel comfortable discussing vibrators with!â€ť) or maybe itâ€™s just really f*&king weird to think about making out with any of these guys (â€śEW!â€ť). They are like brothers to me; the thought of making it anything more is actually creating nauseating waves in my stomach.
Anybody got some Ginger-Ale? My boss tells me that one day I am going to wake up and realize that I am in love with my best friend and the only reason I donâ€™t know it yet is because I am not giving it a chance. That may hold true, like Ross and Rachel or that new movie with McDreamy, but for now that is not even close to being on the radar. And should I really have to force myself to be sexually attracted to someone? Doesnâ€™t that break some rules? These guys are my guys. End of story.
I know Harry (as in, the one who met Sally) said it is impossible for guys and girls to be friends. I disagree. And I have about 12 examples to prove it.