Internet Relationships: Making Us Cowards?

April 28, 2008     Posted in Reality, Wired

st_insurance0611.jpgWe have a problem. I have fallen again for someone…by Internet.


By CC Staff

No, no, not Match.com or anything like that. I didn’t surf eHarmony and develop some delusional love affair with someone’s profile picture. It’s a little more complicated than that.

I’ve always hated dating. The whole process stresses me out. The questions that make you feel like you’re at a job interview, (which technically you are, ‘pick me, hire me!‘) the awkward hand holding, the TIME. All of it, to me, is just a means to an end. An end where you’re finally comfortable and can stop wearing make-up around them, stay in for the night to watch bad reality television, or cuddle under your Disney blanket, knowing they don’t care — they just want to be with you. I love love, but I don’t love the process of getting there. I just want it to happen and what better way to get there, than by the Internet?

Usually when I have a crush, instead of actually being bold enough to ask him out, or ask for his number….I Myspace stalk him and add him. Facebook? Hell yeah. WHY? Because, the Internet has completely enabled me to be a coward. If he sends me a message, I technically trick him into showing his interest in me first and then the ball is in my court. We can exchange emails and fly through the whole “getting to know you” process relatively quickly.

So yes, I have a new crush. And we have exchanged enough chit-chatting through emails so that when we DO see each other in person again, (NOTE: yes, I already know him) we’ll be able to get to “the good stuff” (no, not sexually…though that wouldn’t be all that bad.)

The question is, is this a good thing? Are the conveniences of the Internet making our relationships stronger or weaker? Will the relationships last, or happen too fast? And lastly, is going through Facebook/Myspace the best way to let a guy know you’re interested?!

AM I TOTALLY ALONE HERE?

5 Comments on "Internet Relationships: Making Us Cowards?"

  1. Christine says:
    Mon, 28th Apr 20087:47 am 

    I met my second boyfriend over the net. I was introduced to him by another friend and since he was half a country away, we talked online. And I developed a huge crush on him because of our online chatting which developed into a relationship. Which lasted almost a year and a half. I think whether or not a relationship is strong is based on how much you're willing to work at it while not on the internet. If you really are interested in someone, then put forth the effort in the real world and not the virtual world.

    So no, you are not alone.

  2. A.L. Hart - Universi says:
    Mon, 28th Apr 20089:00 am 

    Oh this has happened to me before. My friend asked this guy i like for his msn, without me knowing. It was so immature but i couldn't complain i was excited, and he added. We chatted but the problem was i was such a chicken when i saw him around i never said hey to him. So our relationship remain virtual and nothing ever flourished cuz i was a chicken. But i got over him and realised after our online conversation he was just a pretty face. He is great but personalities were incompatible.

  3. B says:
    Mon, 28th Apr 20081:29 pm 

    I know exactly what you're talking(writing) about. I've been talking with this guy for a while that I've never really looked at "in that way" until we started talking almost everyday. Good luck with you're thing!

  4. Kevin says:
    Fri, 16th May 20085:42 am 

    I feel that internet relationships are the new way of doing things. it takes the "looks" out of the equation. You can get to know some one for who they really are down to there core. You dont have to worry about making the first impression. You dont have to worry about what to ware when you talk to that person. All you have to do is to truly be your self. The internet really makes that easier, I met my last girlfriend online, and we had a short long distance relationship that only ended because she didnt like the idea of homosexuality and a lot of my male and female friends, and even some of my family are homosexuals. I could not continue the relasionship knowing that. My current girlfriend i also met online and we have been talking for almost a year now, in fact i proposed to her. We are going to get married! trust me interent works!

  5. The Flirting Shack says:
    Thu, 11th Sep 20082:35 pm 

    I was always shy and the internet has definately helped me to find friends. I've gotten burned a few times but overall, I have made some of the best friends that a person could ask for. I even started my own "online flirting" forum. If anyone is interested, we're looking for friendly members. It's free and even ad free. Come take a look. theflirtingshack.com

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