ExSex: Decisions, Decisions…(Part II)

May 4, 2008     Posted in Relationships, Sex

The Exsex was something that had been on my mind all week this week. To have great sex so easily and without any emotional cost or expectation on behalf of either person…it sounded like such a glamorous and hot way to bypass all of the bullsh*t I hate that normally has to take place on the path toward getting laid.


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I eventually had to weigh the pros and cons.

PROS

The sex with Brian would be wonderful.

Brian is incredibly well-endowed (adding to the wonderfulness of it).

It would be easy. He would be leaving town the next morning.

CONS

He would be 45 miles away.

The weather got crappy.

The two of us having real privacy would be a gambling game.

And still, the biggest question lingered in my mind:

Would it really be sex without strings attached? This was the guy who proposed to me, who offered to buy me a house in any city I wanted…I was the first girl he had said “I love you” to in his adult life. And then I broke up with him during that drunk text message.

Would it really be as easy as I thought it would be?

Considering the doubt in my mind, on top of the distance and crappy weather…I ultimately decided against it.

I would have loved to have had sex last night, but I think I made the right choice.

11 Comments on "ExSex: Decisions, Decisions…(Part II)"

  1. yvette says:
    Sun, 4th May 20083:34 pm 

    You do know that it doesn't matter if a man has a large penis? Women have the most feeling/sensation in the first two to three inches of their vagina. Any further down and they are not able to feel any "nice" sensations. I'm just giving you something to think about.

  2. Diana - NYU says:
    Sun, 4th May 20085:25 pm 

    Good decision! It took me, oh, two years to stop having sex with my ex. And Yvette, I see your point–and I'm no size queen–but it DOES matter to a point. True, women have the most sensation in the first two or so inches of their vagina, but when was the last time a two-inch penis threw you over the edge into orgasmic bliss?

  3. yvette says:
    Sun, 4th May 20085:58 pm 

    Maybe width matters but not length. Longer doesn't equal better. It depends on the man not just the penis.

  4. yvette says:
    Sun, 4th May 20086:06 pm 

    Oh yeah . . . by the way, Devon, good decision!!

  5. Lidia says:
    Sun, 4th May 20088:11 pm 

    at first we had awesome emotional ex sex, but then the less we interacted the more our sexual connection diminished.

    my grandmother passed down to me some Romanian advice…

    "Reheated soup does not have the same taste"

  6. katy says:
    Fri, 9th May 20083:49 pm 

    thats bs..every vagina is different..i don't feel anything good unless its at least 5 inches in..you can't try to tell someone that statistically their vagina is wrong.

  7. yvette says:
    Sat, 10th May 20088:07 am 

    You must be uber loose. No offense.

  8. yvette says:
    Sat, 10th May 20088:08 am 

    Also, I never said anything about statistics. I'm talking about facts. That the MOST sensitive spots in the vagina are the ones two to three inches in the front.

  9. Sarah says:
    Tue, 13th May 200812:25 pm 

    well….sounds like yvette is unfortunate enough to be stuck in a relationship w/ a guy who has a small wee-wee and is trying to make herself feel better about it.

  10. Haha says:
    Tue, 13th May 20088:15 pm 

    Actually, Sarah, I'm a virgin. So, no. I was just commenting on the FACT that the most sensitive spots of the vagina happen to be in the front. Also, if I ever do get into a relationship with a man I will not be shallow enough just to be with him for his penis size.

  11. Jake says:
    Sun, 15th Jun 20081:02 pm 

    Yvette – scientifically what you're saying is correct, but some girls enjoy the fuller feeling or even pressure against their cervix in some cases – smaller penises can't provide that. I imagine there is also a psychological element where the size is impressive, and how it feels in your hands/mouth might also be a factor.

    I am a sucker for ex sex, it's happened quite a few times and has always been great, although there is sometimes some emotional fallout, but nothing that cannot be discussed and dealt with!

    http://factsandfriction.blogspot.com/

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