Comments on: The Problem (?!) of Singleness http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/04/the-problem-of-singleness/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 01:20:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: A.L. Hart - Universi http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/04/the-problem-of-singleness/#comment-12803 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 13:56:05 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/9410#comment-12803 I can emphatise with your friend because I'm like one myself. I think I will always be the single girl, although I currently have the chance to be in a relationship but I feel reluctant because I don't trust myself to be truly be good girlfriend. I mean I am only 20 so I feel i want to just play the field but i think i will be single all my life. I like my independence too much. I make plans just for me and I find it difficult to let anyone in. It may change eventually but at the moment it's how I feel.

]]> By: Claire http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/04/the-problem-of-singleness/#comment-12805 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 12:50:55 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/9410#comment-12805 I think western culture makes marriage seem like a right-of-passage into adulthood. The thirty-something bachelors are never really seen as "responsible" as married men of the same age. As for women, it's what we're "supposed" to want…and if we don't have it, it means there must be something wrong with us.

Total crap.

It's also sometimes hard for single women (of any age) to secure loans and such without a husband or father on the paperwork. Ugh.

]]> By: Chih http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/04/the-problem-of-singleness/#comment-12804 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 12:40:53 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/9410#comment-12804 I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to be single for the rest of your life. However, I do think that being single is not a choice, but rather something that requires a prerequisite. Personally speaking, it's almost the opposite for the majority of my adult life. I've always had long term relationships. Some of those were healthy and others not so much. This past year is the first time I've been single since high school. I'm learning and enjoying being by myself. It's not to say that I don't desire to be with someone. The biggest difference now is that I want to be with someone that I am compatible with and not just someone because I miss having a warm body next to me at night. In my opinion, relationships are about self sacrifice. When you are in a relationship, you can't think about yourself anymore. It's no longer about what you want to have for dinner or what you want to do. You often have to take the other person into consideration. I think the majority of us have a hard time with that therefore they remain single. When you do find that special someone, you want to sacrifice everything for them because you just love them that much. That's when you know you are ready to be in a relationship.

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