Pig in a Blanket: An Acquired Taste?

June 12, 2008     Posted in Relationships, Sex

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By CC Staff

My first boyfriend was uncircumcised. At the young, inexperienced age of fourteen, I realized this only because one day while chilling on the futon in the den having a post BJ-sesh chat, he informed me that some of the girls he had been with (because as a sixteen-year-old senior, he was far more sexually experienced than my freshman self) were initially freaked out by the au natural state of his Scottish-born ween. Huh, I remember thinking. He’s not circumcised. So THAT’s what that looks like.

It’s not like I was totally ignorant. I had been reading Seventeen and YM since I was nine. I knew all about hymens and G-spots and that you couldn’t get pregnant from a boy shooting his load into the open waters of a hot tub, so I certainly knew that some gents had foreskins and some did not; I just wasn’t really sure what that meant, anatomically.

I didn’t actually fully experience the difference between the two until about ten months later when my boyfriend and I were “on a break” and I hooked up with another boy, birthed in the good old U.S. of A. and fully shorn to prove it. As we sweatily made out on the couch, I jammed my hand in to his shorts, confidently grabbed a hold of his manparts, and…proceeded to give him the rawest handjob in the history of the earth.

For those of you who are lost, allow me to explain. On an uncircumcised boy, one can give some kind of an HJ without any sort of lube at all. Granted, as I have aged I have learned that some lube is certainly preferable to none in any case, but a fluid up and down motion causing some pleasurable sensations is achievable. But on the circumcised penis? Without the pliable sheath of the foreskin acting as a kind of…sleeve or whatever*, all that an unlubed HJ will achieve is some serious chafing and sad faces all around. Aww.

Since these initial awkward adolescent escapades, I have gained a world of experience in both the skinned and not skinned camps; in fact, I’d say of all the boys I’ve been with, about 40% are uncircumcised. Which is why it surprises me that many ladies I meet are not only ignorant to the ways of the shrouded wang but downright disturbed by it. Just last summer, a friend of mine was recounting her hookup from the night before and informed me that the kid was the first uncircumcised experience she had ever had and it was, “Really weird. I don’t think I liked it.”

“Really?” I asked, surprised. “What do you mean?”

“I just kind of…creeped me out,” was her response.

Maybe I just meet penilely conservative girls, but I hear something to this effect pretty often. While I kicked off my sexual career with a UK wang where approximately 20% of males are circumcised, most ladies in the U.S. are hooking up with dudes from the U.S., where three out of four males are unsheathed. While the practice of circumcising boys has been on the decline in recent years, the pervasive notion in America is still that penises should not resemble the worms from Tremors.

So what of these turtlenecked organs? Are, they, in fact, inferior to naked ones? For years it was touted that being circumcised was more hygienic, made for a lower risk of STD contraction, and allows for greater sensation during sex. However, in 1999, the American Medical Association issued a statement saying that removal of an infant’s foreskin for any reason other than medical issues or ritualistic tradition is not necessary and not advised, and since then, the number of circumcisions performed annually has dropped by about 35%. Recent scientific studies have indicated that keeping the old skinjacket does not have any notable adverse effects on most guys, though there is some debate as to whether or not circumcision can help curb the spread of HIV in high-risk regions. However, here in Western civilization it seems that our notion that skin free is the way to be is merely a social construct.

And as for me? Well, I can’t say I’ve noticed much of a difference either way. Aside from the aforementioned HJ discrepancy, a penis is a penis is a penis as far as I’m concerned. Some are short, some long, some thick, some thin, some sheathed, some not. At the end of the day, I don’t think it matters much what it looks like; what matters is the dude attached to it and how he uses it.

*God, I hope my mother isn’t reading this.

52 Comments on "Pig in a Blanket: An Acquired Taste?"

  1. yvette says:
    Thu, 12th Jun 20084:54 pm 

    Why is everyone a ho on this site? Isn't fourteen a little young to be fucking? Our generation has become quite sexually depraved and degenerated. It's kind of sad.

  2. Lacey says:
    Thu, 12th Jun 20088:02 pm 

    I agree with Yvette on some level. It seems like 95% of the stories on here are about sex, blow jobs (at fourteen? Really?), hand jobs, and celebrities.

    I think you ladies need to get some real insight and start writing about things actually prevalent to college-aged ladies, like the job markets after college and relationships that actually worked out, not just the sex part.

    I read College Candy daily, yes, but I am getting fed up with this crap, as are all my friends.

    I'm sorry, but I would rather hear about something other than sex and celebrities all day.

    P.S. Do you think they could make an option on the polls about when it comes to sex that includes something like, "I'm a virgin" so those of us that are have a choice? I just think you should recognize every demographic. Oh, and I am not a prude as I do fool around with guys, just so you don't think I am attacking your article for that sheer fact.

    P.P.S. Please don't take this personally, it's just that I chose your article to post on. You actually had some great things to say, I just didn't feel the need to comment more.

  3. J - NYU says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20082:55 am 

    Being sexually active doesn't make you a ho. End of story.

    And we do try to have stories that are more than dating and sex. If we're rubbing you the wrong way (ahem), give us examples of the type of stories you'd like to see!

  4. Dana says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20083:30 am 

    "So what of these turtlenecked organs?"

    HAHAHAHA! You made my morning.

  5. Lauren, University o says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20083:44 am 

    This was her boyfriend. Having intimate experiences with your significant other does not make you a ho. And, if you read a little further, you may see that she presented extremely useful information regarding the question of circumcision.

  6. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20085:48 am 

    What idiot doesn't know about circumcision? Some men are and some aren't. It's still a penis! How can someone be stupid enough to think that circumcision makes a difference?!

  7. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20086:21 am 

    J– She just gave you examples of things that are actually more important than sex. Careers, jobs, internships, actual meaningful relationships. I think she made it quite clear what she wanted to see written.

  8. Colette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20087:10 am 

    Down girls! Should i bring the hose and cool u down? Yvette, u have strong viewpoints, but to call a girl a whore is just wrong. I mean, come-on! I agree with u that she was way 2 young for sex, but it doesnt give u permission to insult her. 2 wrongs do NOT make a right. And in the end, what do u want to fight here? The issue or the person??

  9. Suzie - George Washi says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20087:18 am 

    Yvette and Lacey– Have either of you checked out the news portion of our site? You'll find a ton of articles that have nothing whatsoever to do with sex and celebrities. Stories such as: http://www.collegecandy.com/news/9414

    or http://www.collegecandy.com/other-stories/9608

  10. Lauren, University o says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20087:25 am 

    Yvette, you are entitled to your opinion, but just because you do not choose to do certain things does not make them wrong. I think we all tend to throw judgment around when we do not know something – I do it all the time – but you cannot live other people's lives for them. I dont think 14 year old girls should be having sex, but if that is a choice they make, what right do I have to tell them not to?

  11. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20087:30 am 

    Lauren– Hmmm… I wonder what parents are for then? They should be the ones to prevent these things from happening. They, the parents, DO have the right to tell them what to do, unless, they're financially independent. Then no.

  12. J - NYU says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20087:35 am 

    The best parents in the world can't FORCE their children not to have sex.

    Kids have been sneaking around for ages. All we can do is teach them to the best of our abilities, try to instill good morals, and make sure our daughters know we're always there for them. NO JUDGMENTS.

  13. Lauren, University o says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20087:46 am 

    I think that telling kids not to have sex is not going to prevent them. I think educating your kids on the dangers of sex and being open and honest – which this blog is doing – is the best way to keep them safe. My parents never gave me the "no sex talk" and I am a perfectly safe, smart, responsible and all around awesome person. I just wish we could get back to the topic at hand, which is whether or not there is a big difference between boys who have been cut and those who have not. Frankly, I am still sorta creeped out by the uncircumcised….

  14. Colette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20088:02 am 

    Wow! Stop the bus please! What is going on here? Are we all on the same page? Cause it doesnt look that way to me. Freaking out about whether a guy is circumcised or not and talking bout teenie-sex (my own term for sex THAT young) are 2 WAY different subjects. And Puhleeze,as long as he is wearing a condom, does it really matter? I know that the chances of u getting cervical cancer decreases by something like 80percent if ur sexual partner is circumcised, but its purely a hygiene issue.

  15. Colette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20088:09 am 

    So if ur significant other wants to rumble in ur jungle and he isnt circumcised, make sure that he is nicely washed down there first. The rest of it is purely cosmetic.

  16. michael says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20088:45 am 

    im sorry to add to the inferno, but…

    I read CC because of the sex articles!

    There are litterally countless other sites devoted to "news", this is one of the ones that has interesting meaningful conversations about sex. Not to mention sex from a womens point of view! If you would like to learn more about current events or how the stock market is doing or what you can do with your degree after college, and its not here, look somwhere else!

    thank you CC staff for opening up and sharing your personal sexual experiences. I appreciate them, and look forward to them.

  17. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20088:57 am 

    There's nothing meaningful about the shit in this site. No offense.

  18. Casey says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20089:06 am 

    Yvette, I was raped when I was 14, repeatedly. I had planned my entire life to wait until marriage, but after that experience I decided why would it matter if i continued to have sex, My virginity was stolen from me. So when i was 16 i started sleeping with a guy who i ended up dating for 2 1/2 years. My next experience was a guy I had dated years before and had always had strong feelings for (I was 18 by this time) And honestly sex with this guy that I thought I loved was no different then anyone else. Now I'm with a guy that I love to death and guess what I have sex with him to. I started having sexual experiences when I was 14, not by choice, so I just continued to do so. Does that make me a whore? Because rape does traumatic things to people, are they whores now too? Some people have sex at young ages because they don't get love at home (maybe that's where her parents were) I have a freind who slept around 8th grade (age 14) on because she had 2 seperate famileies. her parents were both remarried with children from their new husbands and she was stuck in the middle not really belonging anywhere. She was passed off to the other parent and ignored every week. So she slept around to feel loved. Is she a whore? I thought so at once. But I thought about it and no she's not, she was hurt and confused with noone to turn to.

    So how about you don't judge people you don't know. Because you have NO IDEA where their actions come from, or what hurt they have gone through. And YOU sound like the ignorant one with your closed minded uninformed opinion of people you know absolutely nothing about. (and just because you read their blog does not mean you know them)

  19. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 200810:56 am 

    I think that ages 10-16 should be used for something other than sex. And yes I do think anyone who has had sex during those ages is a whore. Sorry, but I do. Where were your parents during all of your experiences? Didn’t they give a fuck? Would you want your fourteen year old daughter blowing a guy? I sure wouldn’t. Yes, I would inform her about sex and contraceptives but I would tell her to wait until she is of legal age (18) to start having sex when she is more mature and has a better understanding about sex.

    And, yes, I agree that having sexual intimate experiences does not make you a slut/whore/skank but that only applies when you’re an adult (18 and over).

  20. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 200810:11 am 

    People can control their actions. There is no need to blame it on rape. That's like a murderer saying that he killed people because he was abused. It's an excuse. Enough said. You can't blame everything on one act.

    I wish I could have been lucky enough to be ignored by my parents. I would have actually done something productive instead of whore around.

  21. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 200810:20 am 

    like your friend did.

  22. Belle says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 200810:30 am 

    Haha, I love that Yvette is reserving the word "whore" for teens not yet 18. Glad to see that while you don't think they are old enough to make informed decisions about sex, they are old enough to be called groundless and hurtful names. 18 is an arbitrary age set as "adult" for legal reasons and simply attaining the number does not suddenly make you prepared for sex, or any other "adult" decision. People mature at different rates – maybe at 14 she was able to understand the complexities and consequences of (woah!) handjobs.

    And Lacey, sex is a very RELEVANT (read: not prevalent, or actually…;) issue for college-aged women. This is an entertainment site so of course there will be some articles about more surface issues amongst those with more hard-news content. It's called candy for a reason…

  23. Suzie - George Washington says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 200812:20 pm 

    Yvette and Lacey– Have either of you checked out the news portion of our site? You’ll find a ton of articles that have nothing whatsoever to do with sex and celebrities.

  24. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 200812:38 pm 

    Lauren– I would tell a teenager not to have sex. Then you can prevent them from committing stupid mistakes that might not be reparable or reversible (AIDS, other STI’s, pregnancy). Who wouldn’t advice a teenager of the dangers of sex? Most of them don’t even think in long term but in short term. That gives me the right to tell them what I think about them having sex. Why do you think there are so many unwed single mothers, people with AIDS, neglected children, and so on? Prevention is key.

  25. yvette says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 200812:40 pm 

    Answer the question:

    Would you want your fourteen year old daughter blowing a guy?

  26. Casey says:
    Fri, 13th Jun 20086:29 pm 

    Yes, people can control their actions. I didn't say I couldn't control my actions, I said I didn't have a choice in the fact of loosing my virginity, and I CHOSE to continue to have sex. What happened to me made me mature a lot faster then I should have (so mentally I was ready for sex) And I don't blame it on rape that I had sex at a young age. The rape matured me and made me a strong and responsible enough person to have sex at a younger age.

    and obviously you know absolutely nothing about psychology. Traumatic experiences like rape and abuse have serious effects on peoples minds and yes can cause them to do things that they may not have done if they had not experienced the trauma. a persons personality has so much to do with how they were raised and what they experienced when they were younger. Most murderers did experience some sort of trauma in their youth (do you think it's just a coincidence that those are the people that grow up to be murderers?) Trauma isn't an excuse, it's a cause and has an effect. Take a basic psychology course and maybe you wont sound like such a dumbass.

    Oh and yeah I wish you could have been ignored by your parents to, then maybe you wont have such ignorant views on matters such as these, which I am sure are direct results of your parents keeping you under a rock your entire life. How about you do some research, talk to people that have gone through things, and learn for yourself that experiences in peoples lives cause them to live a different life from someone obviously as sheltered as yourself. I GUARANTEE if you had been unfortunate enough to experience the traumas of rape and a loveless family you would see things completely differently, and you can't argue that because you have no idea, you've never been there. (Had I not been raped I would think the same way you do. I was raised, and still am a Catholic)

  27. Colette says:
    Sat, 14th Jun 200812:13 am 

    First at Casey, congrats at coming through this strong and levelheaded. Then, Yvette. Hun, u are ignorant and judgemental and the fact that u dont care about anyone but urself is showing. The world isnt black and white my dear. U will experience that with a shock. I pity you

  28. Sarah says:
    Sat, 14th Jun 200812:10 pm 

    Totally agree with Michael's comment; I always look forward to the sex articles posted here as they are always informative as well as extremely entertaining (ie: turtle necked organs, lol!).

    I'm so sick of all these people criticizing articles like this and calling people 'whores'. Not only is it completely unnecessary and disrespectful, but it's so immature that it's amazing to me. If the sex articles bother you that much then don't read them, it's not complicated.

  29. k-michigan says:
    Sun, 15th Jun 200812:29 am 

    I loved this article. My friends and I frequently talk about uncircumsized penises, hoping to be prepared for the day when we finally see them in real life!

  30. Borat says:
    Sun, 15th Jun 20086:09 am 

    My foreskin bizarre becuz me muslim but also very useful for supplying manmilk to ladyhole. in Kazakhstan we pull foreskin back and forth for enjoying of happy machine for orgasmic goodie-goodness!

  31. stacy says:
    Sun, 15th Jun 200810:15 am 

    Although I do not agree with everything that yvette said I think it's funny that no one answered the question:

    Would you want your fourteen year old daughter blowing a guy?

    I'll be honest and say no I would not and I would certainly advise my daughter against any sex before she reaches the legal age of consent. Adolescents that have sex at an early age have higher risks of using alcohol, drugs, and getting pregnant. That is why it's smart to wait until you're out of your parents house, so, at least you are legally responsible for yourself.

  32. Jake says:
    Sun, 15th Jun 200812:49 pm 

    2 comments up is the worst Borat impression ever!

    As for the above one, what does the legal age of consent really have to do with such an individual and emotional issue as sex? The age of consent is useful for preventing sexual abuse, but I'd never use it to set an 'acceptable' age for sex to happen at, at the individuals involved and the context makes such a difference.

    I don't think having sex earlier makes you more likely to indulge in drugs or any alcohol earlier, that's not how it worked out for me.

    http://factsandfriction.blogspot.com/

  33. yvette says:
    Sun, 15th Jun 20084:05 pm 

    Ready any psychology book, Jake, and it will state statistics and facts about teenage sex and issues related to it. Higher drug use, substance abuse, alcoholism, and many other things are listed as issues involved with sex at an early age.

  34. Wow says:
    Sun, 15th Jun 20084:17 pm 

    Hey Yvette.

    Shutup.

    You're trying to act all intelligent.Intelligent people don't attack others for their beliefs.

    Intelligent people also learn more about the story before they make judgements.Maybe instead of judging and acting like something you're not, you should stop writing on here and take the time to actually get know the people around you and work on becoming a nicer person.(and as a virgin until 19 and social work major, I must admit I take offense to most of your statements.

    So goodbye and goodluck.

  35. Borat says:
    Sun, 15th Jun 200811:50 pm 

    Hello my American puppies! I back for more and challenging Jake

    i am indeed real Borat and i come and cum sloppy for college candygirls for like to put tongue in peepeefountain and poopyhole.

    By the way, Jake in Kazakshtan age of consent whenever the crops sprout on field of dreams ifknowwhatimean. I like taste of ladies’ multijuices but my watersports not of rkelly proportions but more like that of amateur pornoplayer who i see in the latest nudiepicture i see in movie projection setting of theatrestation!

  36. Jake says:
    Mon, 16th Jun 20089:19 am 

    Yeah Yvette, I have read about studies that link underage sex with alcohol and drugs, but correlation doesn't equal causation. It's more likely that those things are linked because people who try one at a younger age have an experimental personality and so are more likely to try another.

    It's not as if someone who has never had drunk or smoked so much as a cigarette can have sex at 14 then suddenly crave a bottle of vodka and some crack. I had sex at a young age, haven't ever regretted it, and have somehow managed to avoid ending up selling my body to buy money for drugs and alcohol. I've never smoked anything (not even nicotine) or taken any other drugs and I drink socially.

    I think people are too quick to stigmatise teenage sex before considering the complexities of such an individual and emotional subject.

    Obligatory blog plug: http://factsandfriction.blogspot.com/

  37. Casey says:
    Mon, 16th Jun 20089:30 am 

    I love how I said she knew nothing about psychology and she then told Jake to read a psychology book. I'm sorry but she's looking more and more pathetic with every post.

  38. Borat says:
    Mon, 16th Jun 20088:01 pm 

    Borat give up but penis is fun topic for talking sex pussy cum dumpsters!

  39. anonymous says:
    Sun, 13th Jul 200811:20 pm 

    i first had sex when i was 16. i dont have any parents to guide me at all. i made a mistake, and i learned from it. yvette, you have no right to judge someone. you aren't any better than she is, you need to get your head out of your ass. sure i think 14 is a bit young to have sex, even 16 and 17 is young, but if someone does it that doesn't make them a whore. a whore is another name for a prostitue who, in fact, has sex for money. stop being such a dumbass.

  40. name says:
    Tue, 15th Jul 200810:41 pm 

    yvette is everything wrong with america

  41. Grace says:
    Sat, 26th Jul 20083:26 am 

    Just my two cents about circumcision:

    If condoms are used during every sexual encounter, there’s really no difference in the possibility of contracting or transmitting an STI (a.k.a. STD) with a circumcised or uncircumcised penis. But, if condoms are not used EVERY time, then the fact of the matter is the foreskin provides an additional mucous membrane through which infections can occur.

  42. Audrey says:
    Tue, 29th Jul 20089:14 pm 

    Sex is good if you’re emotionally mature enough to experience it and care about the person you’re doing it with…I don’t really have much to say about circumcision.

    I think what Yvette is trying to tell us all is that she isn’t getting laid and she’s pretty upset about it. Sorry Yvette :( *hugs*

  43. Martin Freiherr says:
    Mon, 22nd Sep 20089:54 am 

    If this Borat were on the old To Tell the Truth show his comment about being a Muslim and having a foreskin would have given him away, as Muslims practice penis shearing.

    And the old received wisdom about circumcision lowering incidence of cervical cancer was based on a flawed study and has been proven wrong for years. The highest risk factors are low age of first sexual activity, multiple partners, and smoking.

  44. Theo says:
    Mon, 24th Nov 200812:39 am 

    Madison–

    Not to blow smoke up your ass, but your writing makes for a compelling, refreshing read …colorful and honest enough to brighten the early morning for this sometime insomniac. Are you still at it?

    I glanced at the comments but lost all interest aside from "so what of these turtlenecked organs?", which, yes, was cute; the rest seemed achingly dull from inhibited but no-less prurient souls whose two cents Must be heard. So, with my own unwillingness to read the posts held in mind, I clearly don't expect a reply to my comment, which is: good stuff, keep it coming.

  45. Jeff says:
    Wed, 24th Dec 20086:25 pm 

    I’ve been uncircumcised my whole life ;)

    My mom considered it unnecessary and vaguely barbaric. She said where else is surgery routinely performed to preclude a potential hygiene issue, one which is easily prevented by proper cleaning. And she did teach me to wash it thoroughly.

    She said if health is an issue, why don’t females, with “all their folds and crevices, along with menstruation and other discharges,” get similar preventive surgery to facilitate hygiene. She was not one to mince words, even in front of her 13-year-old son. I must say her frankness regarding sex gave me a more mature attitude toward it, and indeed, I chose to not have sex until I was ready for a serious relationship, at age 21.

    The “creepiness” aspect shows the power of acculturation, as it is the natural state. In my case at least, the foreskin is fully retracted at erection and is indistinguishable from a circumcised penis. If the labia minora were routinely excised, there would be greater visual uniformity among females, and protruding “flaps” would be considered creepy by both sexes. Case in point, it seems to be the vogue these days for females to heavily trim or shave their pubic hair, and many young males consider a full bush “gross”.

    Myself, I like women just as they are, and would never demand they shave any part of their pubes. Hell, I hate shaving my FACE!

  46. Bebe says:
    Mon, 16th Feb 200912:18 pm 

    FOR REAL! i agree with "name" that yvette is EVERYTHING wrong with america. First of all…if you dont like the topic of conversation of this site…GO THE FUCK SOMEWHERE ELSE!!! no one forced you to read this article. Obviously you're too pathetic to have anything better to do with your life than to put down other people and their actions. Instead of calling everyone whores…why not try a little understanding and compassion for people. Little girls, and big alike, make mistakes for all reasons and that doesnt make them a whore. Are you a virgin? Are you waiting for marriage for sex? If not…then to some YOU would be considered a whore. And for anyone to say that doesnt make it any more right than you calling someone else one. If everyone would preach a little tolerance for others and just accept them for who they are, and HELP them instead of putting them down when the make bad decisions…the world would be a much better place. But because of people like yvette, we will never reach that point because of their disgusting ignorance.

  47. Bebe says:
    Mon, 16th Feb 20095:22 pm 

    in addition…the fact that you *yvette* have changed the topic of this discussion to something other than was it’s purpose is completely unnecessary! I personally am curious about uncircumsized men and have never seen one in person…and it would have been nice to see comments about THAT instead of your filthy words to this 14 year old girl.GROW UP and GET A LIFE!!!

  48. Bebe says:
    Mon, 16th Feb 20095:27 pm 

    Oh and one more thing…Yvette. you seem to raise a lot of stigma about these girl’s parents and where they were through all of this. I would like to know where Your parents were when you became such a BITCH. Did they teach you that? because i CERTAINLY wouldnt want my daughter to speak about people as you do

  49. LaraCroft says:
    Mon, 16th Feb 20098:36 pm 

    J – NYU says :

    June 13, 2008 at 7:55 am

    Being sexually active doesn’t make you a ho. End of story.

    Yes it does. Women shouldn't have sex until their married. And by the way, all teen girls stop watching Gossip Girl and going on MySpace and study Calculus and AP History so you can get into a good college and get a good job so you don't need a man to support you.

  50. holly says:
    Sun, 29th Mar 200910:05 pm 

    @ Lara Croft

    That didn't seem to work out too well for you, did it? Considering the proper form is they're, not their in that sentence.

    Some people don't want to get married. Ever. Sex and marriage is not the same thing. For some people, like you, it goes together, for some people even love isn't part of the equation. And all that really matters for me or you is how we and the people we have sex with view it. Everyone else who doesn't come to us directly, asking for help with sexual topics? Not our problem.

    The people having sex outside of marriage? Don't give a damn what you think.

    So what should you do? Keep your values. To yourself. To your children. To your significant other, and in picking a significant other. Don't compromise what you believe in this realm for other people. But no judgment on everyone else, either.

    Just go play tomb raider or whatever it is you like to do and enjoy yourself.

    And thanks to the gal who wrote this article, I enjoyed reading it.

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