I love Being Single – Am I Alone? (No Pun Intended…)

June 17, 2008 Posted in Reality, Sex

All around me, my friends are dropping like flies into the pool of relationships. I suppose when you’re perpetually single, it seems like this is always the case, but trust me; it’s even more the case now. Maybe it’s because we’re all getting older and the time for settling down is dawning on many a resigned party goer in my social circle. Maybe it’s because biological clocks are ticking (I keep hearing from guys that we women have these clocks – I don’t buy it – but maybe some women do?). But whatever it is that is happening to everyone around me…I’m immune to it.

I’m so good at being single that it actually scares me a little bit. I had steady boyfriends until I was 20 and then – suddenly – I just wasn’t interested in it anymore. I didn’t wanna be vulnerable anymore, I didn’t want to be the center of anyone’s life. I didn’t want to have to report back to anyone about what time I’ll be getting in. I didn’t want to have to share my bed anymore. I didn’t care if anyone loved me; I knew my friends and family loved me. I just didn’t…care. Everyone said it would pass, but it didn’t. I’m 24 now and the only boyfriend I’ve had in the last 4 years was a very short-lived long distance relationship, which I think I could only handle because of the distance.

I genuinely like being single. I like living for me. I like not mixing up my goals and plans with someone else’s. I like waking up alone. I like getting up and traveling to whatever city I want, at any time, without even thinking to discuss it with someone else. I love single life. Doesn’t anyone else?

(photo from: morningside8.com)

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Jake says:
Tue, 17th Jun 20087:47 am

I'm a really independent person so I love being single for exactly the reasons you list – I can do whatever I want, whenever I want without worrying too much about how it will affect anyone else.

It's nice being in a relationship if your partner is really really worth it, but otherwise I love the freedom that being single brings.

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Chase says:
Tue, 17th Jun 200810:12 am

I have to agree. And I am a guy. All of my other friends are in and out of relationships (men and women) and I just laugh at the problems that arise when someone doesn't "report in" to the other one.

The first day of spring break I decided to use the money I saved to go to Europe, bought a ticket, and went. Alone. It was some of the best times I ever had. Being single lets you do what you want to do. No fuss. No mess.

Lauren, University o says:
Tue, 17th Jun 200810:51 am

I also completely agree. Even though I watched The Notebook the other night and sobbed into a bowl of thai food….I still love being single. I make every choice for me and there is nothing more exhilerating!

Bill Clinton says:
Wed, 18th Jun 20087:19 am

Hey, Devon! Do you have a big, juicy rear rend! I like ‘em thick and chunky, cuz’ i’m one horny sex monkey!

Ross says:
Sat, 13th Sep 20088:42 pm

Amen! I'm a guy in the same situation–had a few relationships including one for three years. I enjoyed them all, I have no regrets. Now I really just don't care. Single, wake up alone, go to bed alone. I have my friends, I have my family, I have dates, but who needs something regular?

Justine says:
Fri, 3rd Apr 200912:09 pm

I'm 19 and for the first time since i started dating i've not got a boyfriend and the sad thing is i don't know how to be with myself!! But i know i want a break from that whole scene-so i will be trying!

Adam says:
Mon, 22nd Jun 200911:00 am

I love being single! I've been in 4 year relationship, I don't regret it (good experience), but I swear – not anyomore. Nothing better than being single. I luv it!!!!!!!!!!!

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