Comments on: Did I Get Played? Help Me http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Sat, 26 May 2012 16:48:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: tissue http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13970 Mon, 07 Jul 2008 04:31:27 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13970 Hey devon,

Maybe a closure?

Or maybe this might be something in the works? Otherwise, good luck!!

I hope everything works out, and if it didn't, he just sucks then. :)

]]> By: Devon http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13969 Sun, 06 Jul 2008 21:53:47 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13969 Alright guys,

I just had to come on here and tell you how this story ended…er….at least where it is right now. I came back from my trip with a long email from him. He talked about how much he enjoyed hanging out with me and how much he hated the fact that he didn't get to see me again. He said he got called into work on a project and dropped his phone, losing my number. This was followed by him saying that he was going to come visit ME sooner than later. Could it all be bullshit? Well, yes, of course. But why bullshit me? We live on separate coasts for crying out loud….

Any thoughts?

]]> By: spanxchix http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13939 Fri, 04 Jul 2008 17:50:12 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13939 YOU GUYS MIGHT BE INTERPRETING THIS WRONG! Guys have feelings too, and can be complicated sometimes, just like girls. Maybe he was so heartbroken about your leaving that he just couldn't talk about it, but neither could he avoid talking about it. Maybe his feelings frightened him. That has definitely happened to me. Maybe I am completely wrong, but why would you jump directly to the most negative possible conclusion when the truth is, you don't know what he was feeling. You girls do the hot-and-cold thing to us guys every day. Thank God we usually don't assume it is some diabolical plot to take advantage.

]]> By: Sebs http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13968 Thu, 03 Jul 2008 19:33:33 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13968 data that is so true. how often are you out with a guy and he is telling you how this girl was totally hitting on him and you are thinking: no she wasn't.

i guess it's human nature to read things to mean what we want them to mean. that's probably some of what is going on in this post too!

]]> By: Data http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13967 Thu, 03 Jul 2008 17:29:49 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13967 SEBS — DAVID — you guys seem pretty cool! I'm real, I know exactly what your saying. I do the same things (from what I've heard, and for what I've been stalked for). But guys are just as crazy and emotional as girls. Guys read way too much into talking just like girls do. Even more actually!!! Damn, it's like you can't even be a nice person to a male without him thinking that you want to hit it or marry it. Usually when I'm 100% honest with guys, they think I'm lying, but when I am lying (alot) they never think I am.

]]> By: Data http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13966 Thu, 03 Jul 2008 17:09:51 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13966 I do this sometimes, I'm a girl, and I do this without really meaning too much from it. It's just that your with a cool person, and your cool yourself, and the whole environment at that time is cool, so why not just be open and talk about whatever, like the way you feel about things, what you want in your future, what makes you happy, blah, blah, blah. It doesn't mean you want a future with that person, it just means you feel like thier a cool person and your cool with talking to them. Guys read way, WAY too much into stuff like that also. Maybe he was a dick, maybe he had other shit going on and figured that your just there on vacation so he blew you off because he didn't want to get attached to you.

]]> By: Sebs http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13965 Thu, 03 Jul 2008 11:15:08 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13965 bekah, i would agree with you that if a guy gave the impression that he "was in it for the long haul" when in fact he was not, that is a dick move. i have never done that and the guy in this post did not either. there is no such thing as giving the "impression that he’s in it for the long haul" in a one night stand, is there?? i hope not.

my point was that he was being romantic in order to make her happy. he probably didn't call her because he got busy, or lost her number and then was embarrassed to call, or had a girlfriend himself, or whatever. romance makes sex better. what is so bad with that?? i really don't get it.

]]> By: Bekah http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13964 Wed, 02 Jul 2008 18:48:54 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13964 oh sebs, david… just because you guys are the kind that think that just because you have a dick, it gives you a right to act like one, doesn't mean that all guys are like that. oh you smooth playas, you. want to talk about being a slave to a physical urge? think about copulatory imperative.

and david, you know what, if i'm going to sleep with a guy, it's not because i want to feel empowered and liberated! it's because i want to sleep with a guy, whether it be because i care about him or because i want to get laid.

and as for you sebs, giving a girl romance because you think she wants it is a bad idea. for fucks sake, it doesn't take that much to be up front with your intentions. if i want to sleep with you, it doesn't matter whether you want to date me or not. like seriously, i like you, i want you. if you don't want a long-term thing, i'll deal with it. but when a guy just gives the impression that he's in it for the long haul and then jumps ship without warning, that's low.

you think you're such a smart guy, but who do you think i'm calling when i want a great night? the guy who was upfront and we agreed that amazing sex is good enough, or the guy who was a total dick and never called?

okay. ranting done.. guys can really piss me off. i believe in the whole best-intentions thing, but honestly. some people need to stop thinking with their cock.

]]> By: Don http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13963 Wed, 02 Jul 2008 11:12:05 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13963 Why do you keep going for guys like this? Why do you keep falling for the smooth, pretty-boys? Why do you think you have to do this all your college years and leave the guys that won’t do these things to you all alone? And why can’t you ever have sex with anyone you don’t think is a total jerk?

]]> By: Sebs http://collegecandy.com/2008/06/30/did-i-get-played-help-me/#comment-13962 Tue, 01 Jul 2008 18:28:06 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/9947#comment-13962 Ok I can't resist. I will clue you girls in on why men do this. I've done the exact same thing a couple of dozen times. I don't think i'm a player and i have no problem with women or their power or freedom or any of that. And he sure as hell did not play you because he wanted to get laid. He had ALREADY gotten laid, and could have gotten laid a half more dozen times just by being moderately nice to you.

So, why play the romance card? Because you wanted it. He was just following your cues and giving you what you wanted. Some women need lovey talk and candles to get off. Nothing wrong with that in his mind so he played along. You enjoyed it, right? So why be mad?

Next time, project the vibe that you are an independent type that wants NOTHING with romance or commitments. A sensitive, intelligent guy who knows his way around women will pick up on that and give you your space. Or project the vibe that you feel guilty so he will know you are in fact cheating on your boyfriend. A smart guy will know not to even ask your name. It really is that simple most of the time with us men. We are simple creatures.

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