Comments on: Stripper Do or Stripper Don’t: The Girlfriend Dilemma http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:23:11 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: John http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-60724 John Sun, 22 Nov 2009 18:05:31 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-60724 Strippers are not honest. Their entire lives are devoted to conning money out anyone. My gf was a stripper, is a stripper, totally diff than what I ever expected. Her definition of unfaithful is that all is okay as long as she is paid for it. I mean all. After meeting her I found many images of her online in porn, doing every imaginable sex act with other men. She gets emails from other men where they describe in detail every thing they ever did including to micromeasurements of his penis, sending images of them together and one even showing her with ejaculate on her tummy and her face contorted in some "state of ecstasy". Strippers are not from this world, their logic is backwards. There is not one thing wrong with playing with another mans manhood. Showing her all, just for one dollar, I have unfortunately seen it during my one visit to her "work". This one has no problem whatsoever with lying, putting her nipples in a mans mouth, putting her butt in a mans face, sliding her g-string over and spreading her butt cheeks while on stage dance, right in front of me and then denying it and then justifying it as ok because he paid for it. No telling what goes on in VIP and I am not there, never will be again. Never going back. Why is she my girlfriend still?? She is not, friendly but that relationship was rough and hard to end due to her insistence she does nothing wrong and truly believing I could not do without her. Anyone!!!! Please comment!!!!!!!!!! not just on my stupidy but in general. Strippers are not honest. Their entire lives are devoted to conning money out anyone. My gf was a stripper, is a stripper, totally diff than what I ever expected. Her definition of unfaithful is that all is okay as long as she is paid for it. I mean all. After meeting her I found many images of her online in porn, doing every imaginable sex act with other men. She gets emails from other men where they describe in detail every thing they ever did including to micromeasurements of his penis, sending images of them together and one even showing her with ejaculate on her tummy and her face contorted in some “state of ecstasy”. Strippers are not from this world, their logic is backwards. There is not one thing wrong with playing with another mans manhood. Showing her all, just for one dollar, I have unfortunately seen it during my one visit to her “work”. This one has no problem whatsoever with lying, putting her nipples in a mans mouth, putting her butt in a mans face, sliding her g-string over and spreading her butt cheeks while on stage dance, right in front of me and then denying it and then justifying it as ok because he paid for it.
No telling what goes on in VIP and I am not there, never will be again. Never going back. Why is she my girlfriend still?? She is not, friendly but that relationship was rough and hard to end due to her insistence she does nothing wrong and truly believing I could not do without her.

Anyone!!!! Please comment!!!!!!!!!! not just on my stupidy but in general.

]]> By: Richard http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-59483 Richard Tue, 10 Nov 2009 05:24:48 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-59483 I've been to a few even took my girlfriend to a few. I can't say every guy is looking for the fantasy. Nor can I say every striper will place their crotch in close up view to a mans face. Ladies if you go with your man talk to the striper that is petitioning him for a dance or the one that he likes. Do so in front of him so he also knows what you'll permit of him and what you'll permit of her. I know alot will even allow you to occompany your man into the vip. Remember one they're just doing a job, not trying to steel your man. Two most are already in a commited relationship and want nothing to do with the guys who are there. Three when all is said and done at the stripe club your man is going home with you, not the striper. Finally if your man should allow you to go to a male stripe show behave the same as you would have him behave at a gentlemans club. I’ve been to a few even took my girlfriend to a few. I can’t say every guy is looking for the fantasy. Nor can I say every striper will place their crotch in close up view to a mans face. Ladies if you go with your man talk to the striper that is petitioning him for a dance or the one that he likes. Do so in front of him so he also knows what you’ll permit of him and what you’ll permit of her. I know alot will even allow you to occompany your man into the vip. Remember one they’re just doing a job, not trying to steel your man. Two most are already in a commited relationship and want nothing to do with the guys who are there. Three when all is said and done at the stripe club your man is going home with you, not the striper. Finally if your man should allow you to go to a male stripe show behave the same as you would have him behave at a gentlemans club.

]]> By: kelly http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-53072 kelly Tue, 15 Sep 2009 01:23:22 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-53072 I hate the idea of my boyfriend going to strip clubs, even if it's only for a bachelor party. i don't like the fact that he's staring at hot girls' bodies and is enjoying it.. it really hurts my feelings and i get extremely jealous. at the same time, i feel guilty saying i don't want him to go, because then he'd miss a good friend's or family member's bachelor party. i think what makes me so jealous is that i know he enjoys how the strippers look and they way they move, and although he loves my body, i know i could never show it off the way a stripper can. I hate the idea of my boyfriend going to strip clubs, even if it’s only for a bachelor party. i don’t like the fact that he’s staring at hot girls’ bodies and is enjoying it.. it really hurts my feelings and i get extremely jealous. at the same time, i feel guilty saying i don’t want him to go, because then he’d miss a good friend’s or family member’s bachelor party. i think what makes me so jealous is that i know he enjoys how the strippers look and they way they move, and although he loves my body, i know i could never show it off the way a stripper can.

]]> By: lee http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-49075 lee Tue, 11 Aug 2009 15:04:05 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-49075 i would never allow my man to go if for some reason that occured and some stripper touch my man i would beat her up i break her face n if my man was letting her do it .his lil friend gonna be in pain n after that i get revenge n go to the guy strip club n do the same thing with the guy sripper i would make sure my man was there then i break up with him after i cheAT on him with his gguy friend then tell him i hate him he can go have his stripper n go get aids ne ways thats what id do but my man aint eva goin if i find out i get revenge then leave him tghats my solution i would never allow my man to go if for some reason that occured and some stripper touch my man i would beat her up i break her face n if my man was letting her do it .his lil friend gonna be in pain n after that i get revenge n go to the guy strip club n do the same thing with the guy sripper
i would make sure my man was there then i break up with him after i cheAT on him with his gguy friend then tell him i hate him he can go have his stripper n go get aids ne ways thats what id do but my man aint eva goin if i find out i get revenge then leave him tghats my solution

]]> By: jessica http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-31786 jessica Sat, 09 May 2009 08:09:56 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-31786 Ok, as much as it is upsetting and a real shock to the heart to see your partner with a strippers breasts all over his body and in his face. You have to ask yourself from the start, why did you ask your bf to go there with you in the first place. Like candance and gee girl, I don't understand why you would ask your partners to do such things with strippers when you know you are going to get hurt. Even if you are unsure on weather or not your going to get hurt why would you want to take the risk. What do you think a stripper is going to do when asked by your partner "are your breasts real?" of course she is going to do something provocative. As if she would respond with just a verbal answer! Hello, she is a stripper! And she may have noticed your partner sitting with you and the idea that your bf is asking her such questions may somewhat make her feel more empowerment and she may enjoy having you watch and seeing your jeolousy. I don't think that being curious with taking your partner to a strip club is and a bad thing, but I just think that to be on the safe side, don't ask your partner to do such things with strippers where you could possibly get hurt. Ok, as much as it is upsetting and a real shock to the heart to see your partner with a strippers breasts all over his body and in his face. You have to ask yourself from the start, why did you ask your bf to go there with you in the first place. Like candance and gee girl, I don’t understand why you would ask your partners to do such things with strippers when you know you are going to get hurt. Even if you are unsure on weather or not your going to get hurt why would you want to take the risk. What do you think a stripper is going to do when asked by your partner “are your breasts real?” of course she is going to do something provocative. As if she would respond with just a verbal answer! Hello, she is a stripper! And she may have noticed your partner sitting with you and the idea that your bf is asking her such questions may somewhat make her feel more empowerment and she may enjoy having you watch and seeing your jeolousy. I don’t think that being curious with taking your partner to a strip club is and a bad thing, but I just think that to be on the safe side, don’t ask your partner to do such things with strippers where you could possibly get hurt.

]]> By: Jess http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-15021 Jess Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:40:13 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-15021 Umm... I don't have problems with single men or my single guy friends going to strip clubs. I understand that guys, just like girls, have certain needs. However, once u are in a relationship, then you chose for your needs to be met by your significant other... And no one else. If the person you are with just doesn't "do it for you", then show some respect to that person and don't be with them. I have told my boyfriend that from the beginning of our relationship and we haven't had any issues with strip clubs since then. He knows how I feel, so he's respectful of my wishes, feelings, and our relationship so he hasn't gone to any nudie clubs since we started dated. Umm… I don’t have problems with single men or my single guy friends going to strip clubs. I understand that guys, just like girls, have certain needs. However, once u are in a relationship, then you chose for your needs to be met by your significant other… And no one else. If the person you are with just doesn’t “do it for you”, then show some respect to that person and don’t be with them. I have told my boyfriend that from the beginning of our relationship and we haven’t had any issues with strip clubs since then. He knows how I feel, so he’s respectful of my wishes, feelings, and our relationship so he hasn’t gone to any nudie clubs since we started dated.

]]> By: Geegirl http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-15019 Geegirl Mon, 17 Nov 2008 20:04:40 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-15019 Candace says : September 16, 2008 at 6:12 pm Ok, For my boyfriend’s birthday, I took him to a strip club. We had this agreement that if he ever decided to go to a strip club, I would go with him. Before we went I had no problem with guys going to strip clubs, especially since it could be something we could do together to have a good time. We were there for over an hour and at first it was fine until this stripper took his hands and was rubbing her boobs in his face. (this club was different in the sense that it was full contact). Anyways, I just lost it for some reason, I had to leave because my eyes started to fill with tears. I didnt think that I would be affected like that and even though people say they are just strippers doing their job and what not, it can still hurt to see or hear that your man touched or watched a woman do something that a couple does in private. I dont think I would have reacted like I did if there was no contact, but i guess I just felt betrayed or disrespected for that second in time because he knew I was there and he still did it in front of me. So I can relate to both sides of the spectrum. As of now, seeing that this situation only happened two days ago, I am still feeling hurt and I dont accept my boyfriend going to strip clubs any time soon. In response to Candace.... I had a similar experience. I went to the strip club with my friend (female) and my fiance. We were wondering if one of the strippers boobs were fake or real. Me and my friend told my fiance to go find out and ask her. He went up to her and had her rub her titties all up on his face. Seeing that really hurt me. I have never done that to him. I don't have men rubbing their naked bodies on me, that would be cheating. Now, I can't kiss him or think of sleeping with him because I just picture the strippers boobs in his face. I felt really disrespected. Candace says :

September 16, 2008 at 6:12 pm

Ok, For my boyfriend’s birthday, I took him to a strip club. We had this agreement that if he ever decided to go to a strip club, I would go with him. Before we went I had no problem with guys going to strip clubs, especially since it could be something we could do together to have a good time. We were there for over an hour and at first it was fine until this stripper took his hands and was rubbing her boobs in his face. (this club was different in the sense that it was full contact). Anyways, I just lost it for some reason, I had to leave because my eyes started to fill with tears. I didnt think that I would be affected like that and even though people say they are just strippers doing their job and what not, it can still hurt to see or hear that your man touched or watched a woman do something that a couple does in private. I dont think I would have reacted like I did if there was no contact, but i guess I just felt betrayed or disrespected for that second in time because he knew I was there and he still did it in front of me.

So I can relate to both sides of the spectrum. As of now, seeing that this situation only happened two days ago, I am still feeling hurt and I dont accept my boyfriend going to strip clubs any time soon.

In response to Candace….

I had a similar experience. I went to the strip club with my friend (female) and my fiance. We were wondering if one of the strippers boobs were fake or real. Me and my friend told my fiance to go find out and ask her. He went up to her and had her rub her titties all up on his face. Seeing that really hurt me. I have never done that to him. I don’t have men rubbing their naked bodies on me, that would be cheating. Now, I can’t kiss him or think of sleeping with him because I just picture the strippers boobs in his face. I felt really disrespected.

]]> By: L http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-15018 L Wed, 15 Oct 2008 02:25:09 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-15018 I have been to a strip club twice, with friends and exes, I've gotten a lap dance, and I don't think I would be bothered by a boyfriend getting one. The only problem I have with strip clubs is if the guy spends too much time or money there. The main concern for me is moderation. It can be a fun night out, but it can also be a waste of money if it happens too often. And as long as they are okay with at least the idea of me seeing male strippers, then I won't stop the guy. :) I have been to a strip club twice, with friends and exes, I’ve gotten a lap dance, and I don’t think I would be bothered by a boyfriend getting one. The only problem I have with strip clubs is if the guy spends too much time or money there. The main concern for me is moderation. It can be a fun night out, but it can also be a waste of money if it happens too often. And as long as they are okay with at least the idea of me seeing male strippers, then I won’t stop the guy. :)

]]> By: Candace http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-15016 Candace Tue, 16 Sep 2008 21:22:16 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-15016 Ok, For my boyfriend's birthday, I took him to a strip club. We had this agreement that if he ever decided to go to a strip club, I would go with him. Before we went I had no problem with guys going to strip clubs, especially since it could be something we could do together to have a good time. We were there for over an hour and at first it was fine until this stripper took his hands and was rubbing her boobs in his face. (this club was different in the sense that it was full contact). Anyways, I just lost it for some reason, I had to leave because my eyes started to fill with tears. I didnt think that I would be affected like that and even though people say they are just strippers doing their job and what not, it can still hurt to see or hear that your man touched or watched a woman do something that a couple does in private. I dont think I would have reacted like I did if there was no contact, but i guess I just felt betrayed or disrespected for that second in time because he knew I was there and he still did it in front of me. So I can relate to both sides of the spectrum. As of now, seeing that this situation only happened two days ago, I am still feeling hurt and I dont accept my boyfriend going to strip clubs any time soon. Ok, For my boyfriend’s birthday, I took him to a strip club. We had this agreement that if he ever decided to go to a strip club, I would go with him. Before we went I had no problem with guys going to strip clubs, especially since it could be something we could do together to have a good time. We were there for over an hour and at first it was fine until this stripper took his hands and was rubbing her boobs in his face. (this club was different in the sense that it was full contact). Anyways, I just lost it for some reason, I had to leave because my eyes started to fill with tears. I didnt think that I would be affected like that and even though people say they are just strippers doing their job and what not, it can still hurt to see or hear that your man touched or watched a woman do something that a couple does in private. I dont think I would have reacted like I did if there was no contact, but i guess I just felt betrayed or disrespected for that second in time because he knew I was there and he still did it in front of me.

So I can relate to both sides of the spectrum. As of now, seeing that this situation only happened two days ago, I am still feeling hurt and I dont accept my boyfriend going to strip clubs any time soon.

]]> By: Dee http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/10/stripper-do-or-stripper-don%e2%80%99t-the-girlfriend-dilemma/#comment-15014 Dee Wed, 23 Jul 2008 16:24:34 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10323#comment-15014 Brian, I like what you had to say. To jeremy and amy-come on now, not everyone is a media brainwashed, morally void pig. Its ok to have a different opinion once in a while-dont be so narrow minded. Brian, I like what you had to say. To jeremy and amy-come on now, not everyone is a media brainwashed, morally void pig. Its ok to have a different opinion once in a while-dont be so narrow minded.

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