Comments on: He Said/She Said: The Three-Day Rule http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/16/he-saidshe-said-the-three-day-rule/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Mon, 23 Nov 2009 14:36:16 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Chelsea Marie http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/16/he-saidshe-said-the-three-day-rule/#comment-3963 Chelsea Marie Thu, 13 Nov 2008 03:31:18 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10507#comment-3963 ugh. really? call when ya want...whatever ugh. really? call when ya want…whatever

]]> By: Anne http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/16/he-saidshe-said-the-three-day-rule/#comment-3962 Anne Tue, 29 Jul 2008 22:58:47 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10507#comment-3962 I think people should stop worrying about formulaic dating rules like "wait 3 days" because it all comes down to if the date was good then you'll get a second one and if it wasn't you won't. Reguardless of how long you wait, you're chances are 95% based on how you did when they saw you. So when to call? When you said you would call- if a guy says he'll call me tomorrow I want a call the next day- if he blows it off that doesn't send a message that says "I have a big important life and if you're really good you can be a part of it one day" it says "I say things but don't do them, either because I don't think you're important or because somebody told me this would work- either way, you should dump me. Now." If you're into the three day thing, say "I'll call you in a 3 days" or "I'll give you a call later this week." Or "Call me in a few days." Just do what you said you'd do in the first place. I think people should stop worrying about formulaic dating rules like “wait 3 days” because it all comes down to if the date was good then you’ll get a second one and if it wasn’t you won’t. Reguardless of how long you wait, you’re chances are 95% based on how you did when they saw you.

So when to call? When you said you would call- if a guy says he’ll call me tomorrow I want a call the next day- if he blows it off that doesn’t send a message that says “I have a big important life and if you’re really good you can be a part of it one day” it says “I say things but don’t do them, either because I don’t think you’re important or because somebody told me this would work- either way, you should dump me. Now.” If you’re into the three day thing, say “I’ll call you in a 3 days” or “I’ll give you a call later this week.” Or “Call me in a few days.”

Just do what you said you’d do in the first place.

]]> By: Sues - Univ. of New Hampshire http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/16/he-saidshe-said-the-three-day-rule/#comment-3961 Sues - Univ. of New Hampshire Thu, 17 Jul 2008 17:04:22 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10507#comment-3961 I just hate rules. I agree things shouldn't move too fast and you should show each other you have your own lives. And you shouldn't be hanging out every day in the beginning (I don't think at least), but there's nothing wrong with a nice "I had fun" call or text the next day. In this day and age, if I go out with a guy and don't hear from him in any form for 3 days, I'll probably assume he doesn't like me. There are just WAY too many ways to contact a person these days. I just hate rules. I agree things shouldn’t move too fast and you should show each other you have your own lives. And you shouldn’t be hanging out every day in the beginning (I don’t think at least), but there’s nothing wrong with a nice “I had fun” call or text the next day. In this day and age, if I go out with a guy and don’t hear from him in any form for 3 days, I’ll probably assume he doesn’t like me. There are just WAY too many ways to contact a person these days.

]]> By: T http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/16/he-saidshe-said-the-three-day-rule/#comment-3960 T Thu, 17 Jul 2008 09:51:07 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10507#comment-3960 Hahahaha I had forgotten how many days the rule lasted. I usually wait about a week because I'm pretty busy, but then I use my *irresistible charm* to convince them that it's not because I'm an inconsiderate jerk. Also... actually making people wait makes them feel insecure. They wonder why they thought you would call and then you didn't? Is there something wrong with them??? It's really only the nutjobs who have to worry, right? If you're confident that you're normal, you can call whenever you feel like it. If you can see them the DAY after your date and you want to, how about you say so on the date! Don't call the next day... That implies you've been thinking about them ever since you saw them last night. That seems more obsessive than getting into the moment on the date and saying, let's do this again tomorrow! Or whenever you're free, sound good? I think being in the moment justifies it. The person is observing you in real-time and has the best chance of judging your crazy-factor then and there, too. Hahahaha I had forgotten how many days the rule lasted. I usually wait about a week because I’m pretty busy, but then I use my *irresistible charm* to convince them that it’s not because I’m an inconsiderate jerk. Also… actually making people wait makes them feel insecure. They wonder why they thought you would call and then you didn’t? Is there something wrong with them???

It’s really only the nutjobs who have to worry, right? If you’re confident that you’re normal, you can call whenever you feel like it. If you can see them the DAY after your date and you want to, how about you say so on the date! Don’t call the next day… That implies you’ve been thinking about them ever since you saw them last night. That seems more obsessive than getting into the moment on the date and saying, let’s do this again tomorrow! Or whenever you’re free, sound good? I think being in the moment justifies it. The person is observing you in real-time and has the best chance of judging your crazy-factor then and there, too.

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