Comments on: Is It Possible to Have Too Many Friends?

By: Swing

Swing — Thu, 16 Jun 2011 07:45:23 +0000

Maybe turn your phone off at night when it's time to sleep? Maybe tell your "friends" to have some decency and avoid calling you at all hours of the night? Maybe tell your "ex" that he is exactly that – your ex? Lol. and if its so hard to be responsible then maybe it's not your "friends" who are to blame, but you? Lol. They aren't twisting your arm.

By: Laura Gurney

Laura Gurney — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 15:06:11 +0000

Take command of a little time out with a pen and pad (or the computer)and make three quick-thought lists. List #1 answers the question "Why do I need friendships?"; #2 answers the question "What is a good friend like?", and #3 answers the question "What do I want from my friendships?" Don't censor yourself. Don't try to be political correct. Write as little or as much as comes to mind. Be honest, idealistic, even silly, to spill out your ideas. Then review your lists and ask, "Are my friendships living up to these expectations?" Choose: Yes; Some are, some aren't; No; OR You've got to be kidding! Now hunker in to consider 5 to 10 most important qualities of a friend and, of course, consider why those qualities are important. Do the people in your life meet them? Do you meet them? I'd suggest you keep going with the list idea until you can hone in on a few people that display the character qualities you want in a relationship and give your effort to enhance and improve those few. I strongly recommend reading a few good books like "Celebrating Friendship" by Women of Faith, where you'll see the above method offered.

By: ela

ela — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:33:40 +0000

i call them ‘going out friends’. we only call eachother to go out…rarely do anything else together. usually once you tell them you can go out 3 times in a row they stop calling.