Comments on: Purity Balls: Teaching Girls That Men Control It All

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 18:12:02 +0000

Oh and i was raised in a christian household to that's another reason it doesnt' seem strange to me. And i think that even though purity is a good thing so is sex ed so when the time comes everyone knows what to do!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 18:07:46 +0000

I actually met Dean he's my fiance's boss. He's a really cool guy. And i see nothing wrong with this. I promised my dad and God that i would stay pure till marriage. and i waited till i found the man i was going to marry, but its not promising not to date, just to save that. There should be something exciting waiting on the other side of the wedding. plus then you have no "accidents". I say go Kylie all the more power to you and Dean good job for encouraging your daughter to do it. I'm glad i waited it saved me a lot of heart ache!

By: Aloise

Aloise — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:13:17 +0000

Before you start bashing this momentous occasion. Really learn what it is all about. MIKE…I commend you.

This ceremony is not saying that these girls' fathers own them. He is a representation of the leadership of the family. Just like a father walking his daughter down the isle in a wedding ceremony. Our society has placed so much negativity on order and authority. We have forgotten how to RESPECT the authority/position of the people in our very own lives.

I am 27 years old and I have made the choice to rededicate myself to abstinence. I am having my own purity commitment ceremony, and both of my parents will be present.

We are doing a disservice to the youth of this nation by selling them this idea of "safe sex", have it your way, don't be accountable to anyone, be free…etc. It is not now nor will it ever work. Condoms and/or any other form of contraceptives were never meant to protect against STDs. That is why this country has reported a staggering 20 million new cases of STDs each year, and half of those cases are in the 15-24 yr old category.

I applaud these young ladies for making a declaration of sexual purity until marriage, and their fathers for standing by that DECISION.

Blessings,

Abstinence Educator

By: Julie

Julie — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 15:31:36 +0000

I remember dating Dean back in the 80's. He always treated me well and was a gentleman. I am also a christian and I am happy to hear that he is raising his girls in a christian manner.

Dean, wherever you are, God Bless you and your family!

Julie Adams

(from Rosie's Cantina)

By: anonymous

anonymous — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 13:49:27 +0000

Oh my God guys it's not that serious this is their decision and you have no right to judge just mind your own business

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 17:59:17 +0000

Well, just from a Christian POV I don't find it odd at all.

In a Christian household the man is responsible for his household. So if his daughter is going to make a pledge then it should be to her father (who is responsible for her as part of the family) before God.

She is making a pledge to God to remain pure. But the representative of God in the household is the father. It is the father's responsibility to look after his daughter (including protecting her purity) and he will be judged for it, so why shouldn't he help her in every way possible? She is doing it for God. It pleases God for her to be obedient to her parents, particularly to her father, the head of the household.

She is also doing it for herself. God loves an obedient soul. The blessings to her will be 10 fold.

Why not pledge to her mother? It is not necessary. Could she? Sure. But her mother is not held responsible for her the way her father is.

Should boys do this as well? Sure. I think it would be great, but our society frowns on men wearing lockets with hearts on them. It also frowns on teenage boys going to "balls" unless they are dragged kicking and screaming by their dates. But churches offer many ways for men to interact with their sons and teach them to be proper men.

I find this very touching and a wonderful symbol of a daughters love and respect for her family, her father, God and her future husband.

So why say you aren't going to judge when you do? Either don't judge or don't make a pretense that you aren't going to. Just say that you don't understand it and move on.

Always

Mike

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 23:41:25 +0000

OMG, I read that very quote in a recent Time or Newsweek mag (I forget which) & practically barfed. And of course, once again, all responsibility for maintaining "sexual decency" is thrust upon girls, not guys. UGH!!!

By: Star

Star — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 21:10:47 +0000

I find it really creepy that the father "owns" his daughters virginity. That sounds a bit perverted to me. I wouldn't want my dad taking any vows about my sexual life!

By: Caroline

Caroline — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 12:15:41 +0000

I disagree with Lucy in that sex IS sacred. I didn't wait for marriage, but I did wait untill I had been in love and in a stable relationship for a while first.

I think that if anyone (female or male) feels the need to make a 'virginity pledge' to their parents, then they aren't doing it for the right reasons. Your should do it for yourself and/or for God.

By: Lucy

Lucy — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 18:28:29 +0000

That is ridiculous. I can't believe that these daughters wouldn't stand up for themselves. This isn't the 1600s Puritan nation! Yeah, girls have sex but wait..oh my god…boys do too! Yet, there's no consequences for them. I'm so tired of all the virgin bullshit. Sex isn't that sacred.