Comments on: Seriously, DO NOT Look Up Your Ex

By: Me

Me — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 09:59:26 +0000

I did this recently when out of the blue my ex came to mind after years of not seeing him. I looked him up and it hurt sooo bad to see he is doing well. When he broke up with me because he was going through rough times. I continued to stalk for a while until I realized that I was only hurting myself. It was hard letting go

By: La

La — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 15:28:08 +0000

This is the best advice, and I wish I had seen it years ago when my "Big Ex" broke my heart. It's true, the more dirt you have about him, the more you compare yourself, worry, and dwell.

By: Carla

Carla — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 18:41:26 +0000

I broke up with my ex just about two months ago. I stopped going to my facebook account coz thats been the only link we have (i think). Ive blocked and deleted him on all my im's, phone and even his email address. Its been 2 months as well since i last been on my facebook but ive been planning on going back to it after this trip im going to to asia. now im having second thoughts tho. i feel like ive moved on (just coz i was oblivious of him) but i feel like if i ever see a new photo of him (or worse, with some one new) memories would come pouring back in and i dont want tht. so, i dont know…

By: Jason

Jason — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 10:31:17 +0000

My girlfriend of almost four years broke up with me a week and a half ago. We had lived together for about two years, but for these past few months I moved out for personal reasons. Our relationship was dwindling, and to be honest I was expecting a break up (I was actually expecting me to do it). Instead, she broke up with be over AIM, and she was not willing to give me any answers or any closure. I knew there was someone else motivating her. This angered me greatly; I felt like she betrayed my emotions. But it didn’t end there. Mere minutes after saying she broke up with me, she started changing things on her myspace. She put her mood as “content”, and instantly labeled herself as single. Only a few days later, I clicked on her best friend’s myspace, and there was a new picture of them together as the display picture. This caught me off guard, see, because the problem is that my ex lives in Colorado, and her best friend live in West Texas. At first I thought she may have just went to see her friends, and she wasn’t really as cold as she seemed when she dumped me. And then, to my horror, I see some guy sucking on her face in a bar. I instantly called her, and I asked who it was. I could sort of tell, and I guessed correctly. Turns out he was in the car with her at the time. I asked her if she slept with him. I took her lack of an answer as a yes, and it was verified. Not only that, but I had, for a long time, not liked this person at all. I couldn’t believe that she could do this to me. She’s still parading it around, trying to throw it in my face, and she dumped me.

I can’t express how I feel about this without coming off as morbid. I’m devastated.

By: Bonnie

Bonnie — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 08:11:52 +0000

Thanks for this. It made me feel really awesome as i’ve been going through this the past week. My Big Ex and i are in the same group of friends, it’s been two years since we broke up and i’ve only just gotten over it all. I’ve dealt with it but the other night he was flirting and handsy with a friend at the pub and even though i don’t want to be with him at all, seeing that is still hard. I;m glad i’m not the only one.

By: L

Tue, 14 Oct 2008 22:58:29 +0000

Too late.

My ex dumped me for someone else, changed his relationship status on Facebook the next day (before I had even been able to tell my sister it was over), and while we were still talking (even if mostly arguing) and gathering things back, he posted pictures of him with the other girl (so, basically pictures of him cheating). 3 months later he's engaged and somehow still convinced me to talk to him, to "make up" for everything he has done to me. The worst of it was thrown at me all at once, and now it doesn't seem worth it to just cut him off. I've seen everything, we've been okay the few times we have hung out since the breakup, and by next week he won't live around here anymore anyway. So he can be gone and I don't have to make that decision. We'll see how it turns out, but at this point it doesn't feel like it could go back to being any worse than he had already made it.

By: B

Tue, 14 Oct 2008 20:02:27 +0000

Elizabeth.. holy crap. That is the most heartbreaking thing I have heard today. What an asshole/bitch (to the both of them). My advice- delete, block, remove any and all ways to hear about them. That is so cruel of them, and it will just continue to be hard if you are exposed to it. I know it will be hard when you are dying of curiosity and wanting to see them go down in flames, but don't hold your breath. You deserve so much better in your life than the wierd place you will go in your head when you think about them.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 16:24:22 +0000

Eight months ago, I was engaged to a very sweet guy. But one day I was sitting in my living room floor with my wedding planner when it dawned on me…we were getting married in three months and he still hadn't told his partents. Needless to say things got rough there and we broke up. It was a huge deal, I moved to a different state even. Now after a week or so we were still talking and were even thinking of getting back together, when I started to recieve emailed from a woman claiming to be a "new friend" and she wanted to know about him. I happily told her and the next day she changed her myspace statis to: In a relationship, as did he. I questioned them both (knowing that I should have let well enough alone) and then a week later her statis changed to: Engaged, as did his. I freaked out. When I looked at both of there pages it was heartbreaking. He was using all of his pet names and had posted poems origanlly written for me and changed the name for her. Everything was hearts and love on his page. I felt like crying…and I did, for hours. Then I looked at her page and it was pretty much the same. She had taken meaningful, personal pictures off of my page, cropped them and splashed them on her page. For weeks I would check and check hoping that something different would appear. That he would break up with her and come back to me, but he never did. Pretty soon he blocked me, but she didn't. It was like she was proud or something. Then one day her picture changed. It was of MY engagement ring. The one that HE had given ME. Ever since then I have to stay away from their myspace. Even though I have a boyfriend now, it STILL kills me to see them happy together…oh how I wish that I would have seen this sooner.

By: sarah

sarah — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 22:26:33 +0000

this is amazing advice. i recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4.5 years and i have to say it is by far the HARDEST thing i have ever done. we live in the same area, have tons of mutual friends, have family connections, etc – so its pretty much impossible to get him out of my life completely. we also didn’t break up hating each other, so i didnt want to ruin that. however, my ex is definitely the flirty type (main reason i broke up with him) and the first month was torture for me, seeing him add all these new girls on facebook, that i didnt know and that i couldnt ask him about. he also removed tags from all his tagged photos and deleted pcitures of me from his profile photos album. facebook is the WORST thing to have during a breakup. i wish i could just deactivate it but its my main source of communication with my other friends so that wouldnt really work out.

anyways, i decided i wasn’t going to click on his profile anymore. EVER. and its been a week, and so far i havent. i can still see the thumbnail of his picture when it shows up sometimes in recent updates, etc. but i haven’t clicked on it. dreading the day that its a picture of him with another girl but i’m sure its only a matter of time. ignorance is bliss. believe me.. what you don’t know can’t hurt you.

By: gregory dykes

gregory dykes — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 22:25:28 +0000

i want to meet you