KB says:
Tue, 22nd Jul 200811:45 am 

Good luck! I know how it is finding a nice Jewish boy who's more than 5'5". You'd think that as "the chosen people" we'd get some men with good genes!

K-NYU says:
Tue, 22nd Jul 200812:25 pm 

LOVE this post! I too love the Jewish boys, and am 5'11 and a half. And sometimes they are intrigued by the tall… but it's a rare occasion when the one in question is over 5'10". For some reason the tall guys are always taken, almost always by some 4'11" bitty girls, making for quite the awkward couples (in my opinion). I've just kind of accepted it, I always end up dating guys right around my height, usually an inch or two shorter. Sometimes you do just want to feel little and cute, you just have to be with the right person to make you so comfortable you stop worrying about it.

Margie says:
Tue, 22nd Jul 200812:27 pm 

You are definitely not alone. I'm 5'11" and I have serious issues dating guys who are shorter/smaller than me. It's gotten to the point where my friends meet large, unappealing, hulking troll-men, and automatically think that he's probably my type. Height/weight seems to trump all other characteristics, and that's something I've really got to work on fixing.

Bri says:
Tue, 22nd Jul 20082:23 pm 

I'm 5'10

I totally understand the "wanting to feel like a petite lady"

and everything else in this post.

Casey says:
Tue, 22nd Jul 20084:00 pm 

I'm 5'3 so I'm glad I don't have to worry about this issue. But you guys aren't alone, even short girl have no interest in short guys, there's just something unattractive about a guy not much taller than myself. And I think guys all want little girls (although I'm not quite sure why) I think it's got a lot to do with being "protectors" it's just a males natural instinct to protect their mate and if they feel like their mate could out protect them then they loose a lot of confidence. But just realize it's not you it's nature and yeah it sucks, but then again so does being an adult and unable to reach the top shelf I always get the "do you need some help little miss?" from the older gents at the grocery store. UGH!

Brittney says:
Tue, 22nd Jul 20085:10 pm 

I like tall guys so I can still be able to wear heels and not look down at them. I've 5'10" also, but over the years of being awkwardly taller than everyone my age, I've finally become to enjoy my height.

Troy says:
Tue, 22nd Jul 20085:55 pm 

I don't think there's anything wrong with a girl that wants a guy to at least as tall as she is. After all, guys generally expect girls to be thin, though the analogy doesn't competely work because you can exercise to become thin but you can't work towards being taller.

That being said, I think it's inane when short girls have a height requirement, like a minimum of 6 feet. As long as the dude is taller, especially when you wear heels, what's the difference? I don't buy that "genetic instinct" crap, because you're not going to have his babies, are you? Having concerns about the physical health of a potential child when only in the college dating scene is pretty crazy. Only 10% of the male population is over six feet, and most Hollywood male celebrities exaggerate their height (then again, most normal guys do too). Some girls are so unaware of reality that they think that anybody who doesn't tower over them is only 5 feet tall.

dili says:
Wed, 23rd Jul 20081:00 am 

Oh my god, this is my Favorite post so far. I'm 5.10 and I have dated short men all my life. I've never had the change to look up to him or giving him a hug without smelling his hair, or ever wearing heels. I know what your going through. I have never dated a man taller then myself and I always wished for one. I think short men are attracted to taller women and tall men are attracted to short women. Thats what I see around me mostly. It's like you want what you don't have. I'm the type who always says, I don't care about looks, its personality that matters. But being with a tall man is what I always wanted and never got. Hope to get him someday and good luck to you all amazonian women.

michael says:
Wed, 23rd Jul 20082:06 am 

this may sound odd, but as a 6'4" guy, i have always been curious to date a girl as tall, or taller than me. Just to see how we would fit lol

J - NYU says:
Wed, 23rd Jul 20083:55 am 

If I dated a dude shorter than me, I think he'd be a certified Little Person…

Don says:
Wed, 23rd Jul 20084:47 am 

Why are you all prejudiced against short people? How are they supposed to get laid when none of you ever want them?

Kel says:
Wed, 23rd Jul 20088:12 am 

I dated a guy for three years who was almost 4 inches shorter than me. It was a little weird at first but the awkwardness worse off quickly and it was really a non issue.

Dwight says:
Wed, 23rd Jul 200810:29 am 

Nothing against Jewish guys from me, but if height is the most important thing on your list maybe drop the Jewish requirement for say someone who believes in God. He's got religion. And enough with the beer already, its all empty calories.

Kelly - UMass says:
Wed, 23rd Jul 200810:48 am 

I'm a tall chick too…and my boyfriend is tall, but skinny, skinny, skinnnnnnnny! When we first got together, I kept telling my friends I was going to break him (and I'm an average size), but eventually, I got over the fact and learned to like the skinnyness and now, it's a total turn on! I'm convinced, if he's the right guy, you can like him for his lack-of-height.

Lucy says:
Wed, 23rd Jul 200812:11 pm 

I wouldn't date a guy shorter or smaller than me and that's that. I'm 5'7" so it's not a big deal, but I couldn't handle the awkward-ness.

Cara says:
Thu, 24th Jul 200812:10 am 

I'm 5'11 and my fiance is 5'8…its not so bad. We get stares sometimes from mostly people under 25. Most people don't even care.

I really love my height. And trust me, I'm not the thinnest girl in the world. So I do know how you feel trying to find a date. But by not limiting your choices, you'd have a lot easier time.

Sarah says:
Thu, 24th Jul 20088:59 am 

I'm only 5'5", but I know what you mean. My boyfriend is only a couple inches taller than me, and because of your same complex of wanting to feel petite, I can never wear heels when I'm around him because I then dwarf him in comparison. And I love heels! Also, he's overweight, and I selfishly don't want him to ever lose it because then we'd be exactly the same size! A girl has a right to want to feel petite with her man, but it is ,unfortunately, because society pressures us into believing that small size is what is most desirable.

I fight it, but I don't…I may be of average height, but I still weigh 145 pounds. Every girl, no matter what height/weight combination, has size issues. Everyone feels too big sometimes.

Jon says:
Sun, 27th Jul 20086:01 pm 

You must be looking in the wrong places. Most of my jewish friends are all 5'8-6'2.

and Dwight, Jews believe in the same god as Christians

Tiffany says:
Tue, 29th Jul 20088:03 pm 

I'm 5'11 and have always dated guys my height or taller. I find so many cute shorter guys but my friends always tell me it's an insult to bend over when hugging them. I don't want to offend them but really, I don't want our face in my boobs either. Im sticking with the tall guys!

Lauren, University of Michigan says:
Fri, 1st Aug 20082:43 pm 

Jon, I need to meet your friends.

Ski says:
Sun, 3rd Aug 20087:51 pm 

I totally agree. since this past February I grew another .75 inches (and I'm almost 25) and now stand at a nice 5'10.25" and am in no way a little girl-I completely understand. I'm constantly berated by my friends on why I have to wear heels-1. all my friends are 5'5" or shorter-2. I'm already tall enough. I want to feel like a petite woman-instead of some freak Amazon that everyone points me out to be.

Tina says:
Sat, 4th Oct 20084:55 pm 

I am really tall and have dated tall guys and short guys through the years and this is what I have discovered. Who cares who is taller? Relationships are hard enough without worrying about things like that. Some of the nicest guys I ever dated were a lot shorter than me. What difference does it make unless you are into gender stereotypes. My attitude always was if they were as tall or taller great, and if they were shorter that is fine too.

Mr. Obvious says:
Tue, 14th Apr 20097:56 am 

There is nothing wrong with wanting a taller man, if then, you can also appreciate that there are men that want bigger breasts then perhaps you or others have to offer. I am aware we all need to rethink our values sometimes, but remember, we can't crave say height in a relationship, but complain the other is shallow in some form or another.

J says:
Sun, 9th Aug 20097:15 pm 

I'm jewish, 6'4" tall. I am skinny, but athletic. I workout everyday. I have never dated a girl over 5'6". Girls looking for tall jewish guys, they are out there. A friend of mine is taller than me…6'6" and jewish.

M says:
Thu, 22nd Oct 20098:50 pm 

I'm 5'10". Been a size 10 more or less since high school – sometimes 12, sometimes 8. For a long time I felt big and I thought it was my height. Then I lost weight and dropped to a 6. It was an AMAZING transformation. I still had plenty of curves and lean muscle. Just got rid of the aforementioned beer weight. And suddenly I didn't need a beefy guy anymore. Since I prefer leaner men anyway this works great. And instead of looking and feeling BIG I look and feel LONG. So. If you feel big, you probably are. Stop drinking alcohol and eating bread and dairy for a while (at least 2 months). Stick to veggies and lean protein. You'll eliminate waste your body has been holding on to for years, discover the body underneath that layer of cheeseburger fat, and start attracting and being attracted to a whole new range of men.

Karen-UOregon says:
Wed, 9th Dec 20092:09 pm 

I'm just under 6 feet and I have dated guys from 5'8" to 6'8". Although, the truth is, it's the chemistry with the guy and his personality that matters, I have my "type". I searched and searched for taller guys, because I enforced it in my head that it was only natural and looks right. While I dated this one guy for 3 years, I started the relationship with a lot of insecurities regarding my height. I would never stand up straight an when we were in high school I refused to go to dances with him because I was scared that people would stare at me when I towered over him in heels. It wasn't until he told me that there is nothing sexier than a girl who wears her height with confidence, that I got over my silly insecurity. And I think that's true, no matter how tall or short you are, as long as you are comfortable in your skin and poised, you can feel feminine (sometimes wearing more feminine clothes helps, too). When I started to appreciate my height, it seemed like more people focused on what a cute couple we were, and not my towering heights. Not all guys prefer shorter girls, and not all guys prefer taller girls. Every guy has their own taste.

Wear your height with grace and pride, despite your size-it's definitely sexier!

Apollo says:
Thu, 16th Sep 201012:33 pm 

Wow! Lots of responses from typical shallow, heightist women on this forum. Ladies, I can understand the fascination with feeling petite and girly but why is it that so many of you need a tall man to make you feel this way? What happened to the modern, independent, self-confident woman? Can you not feel pretty and girly without scrutinizing your own looks based on the height of the man in your life? Y'all say that you don't want to strain your neck bending down to kiss or hug a shorter guy? That's just silly because a tall guy has to bend down to kiss and hug a shorter girl the same way. I also don't understand the notion of feeling safe and secure with a taller man as opposed to a shorter man, especially in todays world. I've taken down men twice my size and those same taller guys who had the guts to test me learned the hard way. FYI, speed kills and is even deadlier coming from a 5'5 little guy that has power too. I normally don't like demonstrating this, but some idiots taller than me chose to get in my face only to get their a$$ whipped. Some tall guys can look and act tough, but they are as weak as water when push comes to shove! Are there any women here taller and shorter who don't need a tall guy to boost or sustain your ego or are you all just plain shallow and insecure?