Comments on: Oversharing, Feminism, and the New American Twenty-Something

By: anon

anon — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 16:05:06 +0000

I don't identify myself as a feminist. The movement is poorly defined. For instance, the movement is pro-choice yet also campaigns for longer maternity leave, daycares in the workplace, etc. Yes, I know essentially it's saying that women should have the right to choose when to have a child and not sacrifice a career. But it's also advocates women as caregivers. Most feminists (including many professors of mine) believe women should have children, not overtly, but their lives and attitude speak for themselves(e.g., expressions like: "when you have a child…" even though I never indicated I planned to have a child or personal, irrelevant anecdotes about their two-year-olds in the midst of a lecture). When women's rights are brought up, someone usually brings up children. There is nothing wrong with children but face it: many so-called feminists, as with many women, aspire to marry and have children without it they feel incomplete and they see others who choose not to as incomplete. No matter how financially or politically successful, a woman without marriage or children is seen in the eyes of many as a failure.

In addition, veiled euphemisms such as pro-choice, a woman's right to choice, etc are just silly, as is the word empowerment. First of all, empowerment is passive word that implies: 1. You weren't empowered until someone or something empowered you. 2. The root word "power" is frowned upon when a woman claims to have it so someone "feminized" the word. Many regressive books on dating ( usually written by men with daughters in their teens or twenties), use the word empowerment. "You must wait three months, before having sex with your partner. If you do not, your decision is not an empowered one and he (because such authors assume we only date males) will not respect you."

I'm not saying all feminists are afraid to say, "They advocate legal abortions," or "A woman is a legitimate person whether or not she will ever have children." I've been around the movement long enough and have seen far too many hypocrisies to call myself a "feminist." In the end, it's just another example that labels don't work. I'm not straight, gay, bisexual, asexual, etc, and I'm not a feminist.

By: Are You A Social Media Oversharer? : College Candy

Are You A Social Media Oversharer? : College Candy — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 16:01:48 +0000

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By: Brenda

Brenda — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 18:11:03 +0000

Wemon that continuly deny their sexuality anoy the hell out of me. it is not necessary for a woman to go around telling everyone that she has just had sex with a man, but at the same time it can be said that wemon do have as strong a libido as any man, and it should be her right to satisfy that libido with whoever she sees fit, with out the judgment of the rest of her gender or the other for that matter. to not recognize sex as a pleasureble thing is to deprive our selves of one of gods greatest gifts and to shame our selves.

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Daytime Romance? Not In College : College Candy — Fri, 05 Nov 2010 20:01:14 +0000

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By: Doodlio Jones

Doodlio Jones — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 03:55:25 +0000

The problem is that people are generally fools, uneducated, and chronically unengaged. For instance, "Casey" and "Ginny" have opinions about things that they haven't engaged themselves in. They haven't spent very much time considering this subject. The world needs ditch diggers! If everyone in the world is a sophisticated college educated, well traveled, financially stable person then who the hell is going to wait on me at a restaurant or cut my hair? Do I digress? No. Both women and men have certain stereotypes because the majority of men and women represent the masses of stupid people who make a state operate.

Do you think that the whore on the street cares about sociology or criminal justice? Does the guy who picks your tomatoes or strawberries care about what you think defines his male role in society? The point is that you can't do anything to help redefine men or women, its is completely automatic.

Hillary Clinton is famous because Bill Clinton decided to settle down with her. Angelina Jolie is famous because Brad Pitt decided to settle down with her- and guys like to wack off to her and fantasize about her.

"Mass Society" is led by our desires, not our intellectual backwash, our intellectual reactions to reality. Whether or not you have whored around ladies, matters the most to you and how your upbringing, your needs, your situation, react to your behavior. If whoring around made you famous like Tila Tequila, you could rationalize that as a positive. Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton owe their fame to whoring about on video. Because guys liked it.

Guys let women control them because they think its cute. We like it when you try to fill our shoes. Human nature dictates, however, that when given power or wealth you most often buy shoes and take on a princess persona, while men with wealth and power rule the world.

By: Sexy Time: Sharing Too Much? : College Candy

Sexy Time: Sharing Too Much? : College Candy — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 13:02:09 +0000

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By: gregory dykes

gregory dykes — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 13:01:24 +0000

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By: Belle

Belle — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 01:06:47 +0000

Just to clarify, I was never saying that I thought it was a good idea for women to have sex with a cavalier attitude. I just don't think that expressing one's sexuality should be considered a bad or shallow thing.

By: Lauren, University o

Lauren, University o — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 16:00:21 +0000

I don't have a problem with sharing the details of our lives online, but more with the fact that you can find out EVERYTHING about a person without actually meeting them. Where is the mystery? And is this really the best way to get to know/judge someone? I really miss discovering things about a person as I get to know them. Now, I just log on to the computer and know all there is to know (and so much more than I really needed).

By: Heather

Heather — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 16:21:19 +0000

I dont think paris and lindsay are examples of how feminism has taken a step backwards. i think it can be seen in all women who name-call using the word slut, women who dont even see themselves as feminists despite the fact that all it really means is equality, and the fact that women arent as eager to stand up for their rights today (some, not all). the whole point of sex positive feminism is that sexuality is something to be embraced, and proud of. instead, the media uses these sexual images for the pleasure of men, or for aspirational aspects to try and get us to purchase products. the way we are represented, and the way we actually are, are two different things. we just need to remember, and keep in touch with how far weve really come in the past few decades, and understand that how we are portrayed in the media is a social obstacle to overcome, and has nothing to do with our own sexuality.