Comments on: Birds of the Feather Flock Together http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/25/birds-of-the-feather-flock-together/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 09:13:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Serene http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/25/birds-of-the-feather-flock-together/#comment-10186 Thu, 07 Aug 2008 09:01:15 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/10411#comment-10186 I don't quite agree with judging someone by the company they keep. I just graduated from highschool about 7 months ago. I have a group of friends from highschool and all they seem to do is gossip, bitch and judge other people and even their friends (i just wonder what they have said about me). It really gets to me sometimes and I often wonder why still bother to be friends with them. However, I'd like to think that the new friends that I've made since highschool don't judge me and decide not to be friends with me just because I have a these group of friends because I myself do not bitch, gossip and judge (only sometimes to a minimal extent =P).

On another note, it could be just that I'm not quite ready to totally cut off my friends that I have been friends with most of highschool..

]]> By: Cookie http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/25/birds-of-the-feather-flock-together/#comment-10185 Fri, 25 Jul 2008 22:11:55 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/10411#comment-10185 Too true, but it's not just friends who influence the way you behave. A once close friend of mine moved back in with her family, and she has two much younger siblings. Now I can't stand being around her because she seems to have adopted their immaturity.

]]> By: LucyInTheSky http://collegecandy.com/2008/07/25/birds-of-the-feather-flock-together/#comment-10184 Fri, 25 Jul 2008 10:46:23 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/reality/10411#comment-10184 Yeah, I've had this conversation a lot recently with my friends: At what point does someone's personality justify their bad behavior, and at what point do you get to say something? We've all known each other for years, and love one another in spite of our flaws. But when Karen drinks too much and flirts with your boyfriend, does it make it easier to accept because "that's Karen"? If you know that Melissa can be a huge bitch when she's stressed, are you permitted to tell her how unpleasant she is, or do you shrug it off because you saw it coming?

I think it's a case-by-case basis. No one's perfect, least of all me, and I don't want my friends to stop hanging out with me because I sometimes go too far with teasing. But I've decided to stop making excuses for people, including best friends, when they do something that offends or upsets me, because the honesty you can get from a friend is perfect wisdom. It's not overbearing or condescending like the worst boyfriend you ever had, and it's not cracking and peeling under 20 years of issues like your mom's offhand comments- it comes from love.

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