Comments on: Tips For Long-Termers http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/ Advice on student style, collegiate dating discussion guides, relationship advice and women's studies. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:18:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Beth http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12329 Fri, 15 Aug 2008 20:34:15 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12329 I love this! It's true, many of the articles out there are focused on singles, dating or how to fix relationship problems. It's great that there's someone out there encouraging we long-termers.

]]> By: Katarina http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12328 Thu, 07 Aug 2008 01:20:22 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12328 Oh it's great to read something that is not just pure sexual or like "fuck em and leave em"

cuz i'm more of a serious relationship types and i'm in a year and a half relationship right now, and I love it!(oh 19 years old btw – dont be fooled by that)

of course we have our ups and downs, who doesn't? but its great to know you have that one special person to who you can tell EVERYTHING and trust him with all of your heart.

I'm actually a creepy, jealous type of girl, but with him even that is a little better, cuz with time I found that I have to believe in him and trust him if we want this to work…It's all in talking and trusting each other…Compromise is a big part of it, too.

Good luck everyone :)

]]> By: Audrey http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12327 Tue, 05 Aug 2008 19:16:38 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12327 Good article! I'm married to the guy I fell in love with at 17 (I'm 24 now). I agree, number 5 is definitely the most important.

]]> By: Talia http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12326 Tue, 05 Aug 2008 15:57:19 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12326 Also with my guy for 4+ years and sometimes, I admit, we forget to be excellent to each other. Thanks for the reminder!

]]> By: Jo - University of M http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12325 Tue, 05 Aug 2008 13:32:33 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12325 I'm in a long-term relationship, and we are seen as practically married by our friends. I definitely agree with all of your points and attribute a lot of the success and happiness to them, and #5 is SO important… I see him as my best friend and someone that I can trust to give me advice that will genuinely be for my best interest. Congratulations :)

]]> By: Heather http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12324 Sun, 03 Aug 2008 23:36:39 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12324 yeah, eventually, i told him i was like you have to tell her to back off a little. because to put it blatently… the phone was always ringing… the texts were always going off… and it was like whenever we were together. my boyfriend is an extremely nice guy, i mean if a guy were doing that to me id probably answer and be like goddamn, stop calling me so late! i told him he could just tell her the truth, that its pissing me off. for some reason she listened, but this was after a year of her harassment heh. im just glad were finally getting quiet nights.

]]> By: Anna http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12323 Sun, 03 Aug 2008 21:49:37 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12323 It's nice to hear someone else writing about a long term relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years… since we were 15. People make it into a big deal (he was even my first kiss) that he's been only the second boyfriend I've had. But your rules are good. I find that the most important thing to remember is to keep a good sense of humor. Because if you can't, you'll get sick of each other after a while ;)

Remember to laugh!

]]> By: Casey http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12322 Sun, 03 Aug 2008 21:12:45 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12322 I agree with everyone else (wow I never would have guessed there are so many readers that are in committed relationships) My boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship. But I'm not really sure what you mean about the "over talking your relationship" bit. My boyfriend and I talk about our relationship all the time, just remembering all the things we've done together and been through and all the good times we've had, how we met, and what our thoughts we're about certain situations at the time that we didn't share with each other then. It makes us closer I guess.

But Heather, I know exactly where you're coming from, there are MANY girls that pull crap like that with my boyfriend, including the girl he dated for 3 1/2 years who was his first everything. She wanted him to propose as soon as he graduated highschool and when he didn't (cause he obviously wasn't ready) she cheated on him and two weeks later got engaged. She sends him texts, and calls him, and for awhile I was jealous of all these girls, but then I realized he was with me, and I trust him 100%, girls suck, I don't know why they feel the need to try and take something that clearly belongs to someone else, but rest assured your boyfriend loves you and would never give into these girls. And if he ever does then let her have him, because their scummy selves belong together.

]]> By: A http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12321 Sun, 03 Aug 2008 16:31:01 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12321 I love this, it gives me hope.

]]> By: Heather http://collegecandy.com/2008/08/02/tips-for-long-termers/#comment-12319 Sun, 03 Aug 2008 14:41:53 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/10268#comment-12319 yeah, ive been in a committed relationship, and ive been following most of these rules. the only one i havent been following is the jealousy one, but within reason. theres a girl who does like my boyfriend, and she baked him cookies once and one time when he was with me, she called him at like midnight asking to come over, when only she was there (and it was 12 at night, and she lives two hours away, so you do the math). so i think this would make any girl angry. its bad to be jealous without reason, but its perfectly reasonable if there is a person who is trying to cause a problem in your relationship. while i trust my boyfriend, and know this girl isnt a real danger, she is an extreme annoyance, and i dont want her calling and pulling her crap when we are together… trust me there is no other mood killer like this girl.

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