Short Guys are HOT

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You may have guessed from the title that I have a short boyfriend. He doesn’t like to be called “short,” but it can’t be denied—at 5’8”, he’s exactly the same height I am, and if I wear heels with even a little bit of height, he suddenly becomes a dwarf.

And yes, that’s OK with me. So I’m kind of perplexed as to why so many of you answered the CC poll question a few weeks back by saying that you’d never date a guy shorter than you are.

That seems awfully judgmental to me. Yeah, it’s fine to have preferences about the people you date—I do prefer taller guys, to be completely honest—but shutting a whole class of guys out of your dating pool is only doing you a disservice. Who knows? Maybe that gorgeous, funny, classy, considerate guy you’ve been secretly dreaming about all these years is actually that short guy standing over there in the corner at the bar. Maybe not… but you’ll never know unless you chat him up and find out.

Here’s my theory: short guys have had to put up with a lot of crap throughout their lives. Unless you’re a short guy living in China or somewhere else where a majority of the population is relatively diminutive, you’ve had to withstand a barrage of teasing about your size throughout your formative years. That builds a thick skin and also helps develop a healthy sense of humor. It’s unfair to a short guy when you name his size as a reason why you won’t date him—I mean, that’s just cruel.

And please don’t give me any crap about how you’d “have to lean down in order to kiss him, and that would be sooooo awkward,” because how do you think tall guys kiss short girls? Yeah. If they can lean forward a little bit, so can you.

[What do you think? Give short guys a chance?]

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80 Comments on "Short Guys are HOT"

  1. ela says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 200810:43 am 

    my bf before my fiancee was my height…that was way back in highschool. my fiancee is about 5 inches taller than me and i have to admit that it’s nice now to be able to wear heels and not slump over or hear jokes about it- bc lets face it- none of them are funny.

  2. anon says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 200811:02 am 

    Okay, the Chinese comment isn’t necessary. Let’s not stereotype a whole people as being “diminutive.”

  3. Bri says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 200811:20 am 

    I tried it, it didnt work, he had the napoleon thing going on, attitude included, no thanks.

  4. sue says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 200811:31 am 

    5 foot 8 isn’t really short though is it? I mean, given that the average woman is 5 ‘3 or 5′4, 5 8 seems pretty normal to me.

  5. Kaley says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 200812:05 pm 

    Yeah, I am way tall and in high school, I dated a shorter guy. It was sorta awkward, but people thought we made a cute couple, and I’m glad I put prejudice aside to date him because he was/is a really good guy and I learned a lot through our relationship.

  6. Carly says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 200812:27 pm 

    Anon, sorry you thought that. I spent six months living in China and I love the people there, so it wasn’t my intention to stereotype. It’s a fact that the majority of Chinese people ARE short, so I don’t feel it was a derogatory statement, but I apologize if it offended you or anyone else.

  7. Rebecca says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 200812:54 pm 

    I would, but I’m 5′10”, and I already feel freakishly tall at times when I’m around my friends, and I like feeling ’short’ compared to a guy. That said, all the 5′4” girls seem to go for and take all the 6′+ guys (why?! Can’t you deal with the 5′7”-5′11” crowd and leave us tall girls some tall guys?). I’m ok to go out with someone my own height, but I start to feel a little insecure if he’s smaller than me.

  8. michael says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20081:05 pm 

    as a 6′4″ guy, i have always wondered what it would be like to date a girl taller than me. I really want to try it once maybe…

    (i know the article is about small dudes, but i figured tall ladies are about the same :P )

  9. Coco - University of Alabama says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20082:11 pm 

    I’ve dated a few short guys in my time (either my height-5′8″ or an inch shorter) and it just didn’t feel right. I like being engulfed in hugs instead of the other way around. I like having to stand on my tippy toes to kiss my 6 foot boyfriend. I wear heels ALL the time so short guys just don’t do it for me. I know a lot of hot, short, funny, and charismatic guys but it’s never worked out. Plus a lot of them made fun of me for being taller. It works both ways.

  10. Kaycee says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20082:53 pm 

    Wow. I feel like this may be sign. I’ve been talking to this really awesome kid. Personality wise, he’s the one in my dreams. tough working my way down to my natural slender). He is 5′7″ and like… a twig! I feel like he’s a 5th grader compared to me. Which isn’t fair… and I am trying to work through this little dilemma… but its hard!

  11. Kay- says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20083:58 pm 

    Honestly my b/f is 5′9″ and he’s just average to me. I did date a guy who was shorter than me…and it was weird…why? because I’m 5′3″ and yeah that means he was just really awkward…any guy 5′4″ and taller would do just fine…mainly just because under 5′3″ for a guy really does put him as a “little person”

  12. jes says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20084:05 pm 

    Yeah, I’m definitely 5′9 (and a 1/2!), and my boyfriend is 5′10.

    He weighs more than me and is pretty cut, but is still relatively skinny. (I’m 125-130, he’s 160ish)

    So needless to say, anytime I wear heels to go out I feel like a giant next to him, which sucks, because I love my heels :(

    I have enough confidence that I dont let it bother me, but oh I yearn for the day that he mysteriously grows 2 inches (he’s 24, so fat chance) and puts on 10 lbs. LOL

  13. Engineer says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20084:17 pm 

    even Tom Cruise cant handle the height issue, if you look at his recent wedding photo.

    So whats so wrong in having a shorter boyfriend? You get called names or something else weird?

  14. Steph says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20084:58 pm 

    5′8″ is short?!?! My last bf was 5 even.

  15. Jill says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20088:49 pm 

    I’m super short myself, so a short boyfriend would not be out of the question.

    Of course, most guys I’m attracted to happen to be a bit on the tall side…

  16. George Bush says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 20089:46 pm 

    Why do girls WANT to wear heels? If I were a girl, I’d want to date a short guy so I’d have an excuse not to wear those things!

    I’m a strong woman! But I want to wear manmade things that destroy my mobility (symbolizing independence) and my feet. I also want a big strong tall guy to protect and provide for me. I want to be a sex columnist instead of an “ugly” job.

    Pff, some women holds their sisters back.

  17. Natasha says:
    Tue, 5th Aug 200811:36 pm 

    Well, I’m about 5 foot even, with shoes on…so it would be hard to find a guy my age who is shorter than me. It’s just not probable, in my case.

  18. Nick says:
    Thu, 7th Aug 200811:49 am 

    I am 5′8 man and I can conquer any 6′ or taller women in this world. Thanks god, I proud of my height.

  19. Carina says:
    Thu, 7th Aug 20083:14 pm 

    all my life i dated guys atleast 6 feet tall, but my recent boyfriend (we have been together almost 3 years) is only 5 foot 6! I stand at 5 foot 3 so he is taller but just barely so I cant ever wear heels!

    but if not being able to wear heels is a problem then wear heels when you go out with your girls and get it out of your system!

  20. Nick says:
    Thu, 7th Aug 20084:02 pm 

    I am 5′8 man and I don’t care whether women wear heels. I like to see tall women and stand by them. All men should see the mighty inside their-self.

  21. jayphilly says:
    Thu, 7th Aug 20084:56 pm 

    I’m a 5′10″ guy and I love my 5′ cuties.

  22. steve says:
    Wed, 20th Aug 20083:52 pm 

    i just dunno. i have a very good looking face. i work out daily and have bulging muscles and washboard abs. i am very iltelligent and have enough artistic talent to assure a successful future for myself. but i am 5′7″ and feel as though all my good qualties are over-shadowed by my height. i was on a singles dating site and get all these emails from girls saying im “so hot” yet all of em just stop talking to me once they discover my height. life is depressing…..

  23. Ken says:
    Thu, 21st Aug 20082:07 pm 

    I am a guy only 5 feet 3 inches….. weight only 120 lbs….. and i am doctor and 36years old now…. and i never have a girlfriend in my life… thats sad… i am accepting this fact that i will be alone the rest of my life!

  24. Alex says:
    Tue, 2nd Sep 20086:20 pm 

    Thank god! Someone finally sees that short guys are people too. I’m 5′9″ so I’m not short per se, but it is SO annoying when I see how some women have a complex about dating short guys. I’ve heard things like “I’m 6′2″ so I absolutely need to date someone taller than me”. Why? I know everyone has preferences, but it seems that this preference derives from not wanting to be stared at or something

  25. Morgan says:
    Thu, 4th Sep 20088:51 pm 

    Honestly, I’d have to agree…I’m dating a guy who’s only one inch taller then me, and I don’t see a problem with it. So long as he has a nice personality and traits that I find appealing, height shouldn’t make a difference.

  26. Jason Monge says:
    Thu, 4th Sep 20089:35 pm 

    Face it people, as short men, we almost have NO LUCK with women. If we turn a woman down, their ego is smashed. (“How the hell can HE turn me down, he’s a short nothing anyway).

    I’m 27, have two B.A.s, an MBA and JD. I own two houses am in tip-top shape . . . but am 5′7″.

    No matter what I do in life, the thugs, average tall guys will ALWAYS win over the woman, no matter how much I accomplish.

  27. TBONE says:
    Wed, 10th Sep 200812:09 am 

    Jason,

    You’re doing something wrong…don’t worry about your height…i’m 5′6″…..bit I stand 12′ tall and I do just fine…..

    -Anthony

  28. Achilles says:
    Wed, 10th Sep 20087:56 pm 

    The urge to date a tall man comes from a womans natural desire to be physically dominated. it’s not about stares or jokes people make, that’s an excuse, its about natural feelings women have that they want to be subordinate to a man. This is very politically incorrect but hey it is the truth.

    My advice to shorter guys: Take care of your body, set goals in your life, maybe even join the military. For a good portion of us, meeting and settling down for a woman is not attainable and not really even desirable, men are born adventerous, women are just a temporary distraction. Let the tall guys have all the girls they want , they are wasting their time and life.

    Use all your stored sexual energy (and frustration) and implement it towards something positive that will bring your glory. Women can overlook sometimes height if can demonstrate you are a dominant and alpha man in other ways. At the end of the day, women are nothing but property.

  29. Celia says:
    Thu, 11th Sep 20083:13 am 

    I dated a boy once who was right at my height, and I’m 5′4. However, now I have the exact opposite problem–my boyfriend’s actually a little TOO tall for me! He’s just over 7 ft., and I think we get as many stares as the girls dating shorter boys…

  30. Kevin says:
    Wed, 17th Sep 200812:47 am 

    I’m 26, 5′6″ and 135lbs. I’ve never liked my height, but I’m coming to accept that it can’t be changed, no matter how much wishful thinking I do. I’ve never had a girlfriend or dated. I got my first kiss from a drunk co-worker about a month ago–I told her my dating situation and she decided to kiss me. I also lack confidence, which is probably the main problem, not height. Most women go for height and that’s a fact–it’s a preference. We all have our preferences. The key is to work with what you have and learn to be confident. Plenty of tall guys are dumped or ignored because they have no confidence. Look up David DeAngelo’s dating advice on youtube for tips on meeting women.

  31. Chris H says:
    Fri, 19th Sep 20082:22 pm 

    Obviously, Carly is mature and secure enough to not worry about society’s rules about dating.

    I am 5′4″ and my first experience was with a girl of 5′11″. Beautiful long legs. Howvere, it is difficult with the ladies.

    I have known a guy since second grade who stands around 6′4″. This guy has an MBA, yet he can’t hold down a job. He relies on his mother for financial support but he is married with two kids. Yet, some of these shorter guys who are successful can’t land a date. Come on ladies, shed your prejudices and you will find a good man.

  32. Liisa says:
    Sat, 20th Sep 200812:18 pm 

    5.8 isnt short thats like the avarage height..

    “The medium height for

    men in the United States is 5′ 8″

    im 21 years old and 5.8f gal… i dont consider myself as tall for a gal..even though the avarage height for a gal is 5,4 F..

    alot of my guyfriends are shorter or the same height as i..I do have tall friends too..hehe but i do absolutely agree with the ..”short” guys are hot.. i prefer “short” guys to guyd that are my height or taller..i find them way more attractive.. my boyfriend of 2 years is 5,4f..but ive never seen him or guys as “short” maybe its cos ive always been taller than guys till my seniorhighschool years..dunt know..alot of my galfriends disaagree on this..and so does my mum..saying how can he protect u.. i feel very safe with my boyfriend and im proud to be with him.. i love wearing very higheel and that doesnt bother my boyfriend..i look hot in them for him..hehe..and he loves my long legs..

  33. Chad says:
    Mon, 22nd Sep 200811:17 pm 

    I’m an attractive 5′ 5″ guy and I have found it to be quite frustrating. Most girls I meet I just end up becoming good friends with and not the type of person that would want to date me. And in some cases, they even end up hooking up with my friends! I don’t know if it’s because I’m really nice or because I’m short. Maybe a combination of both! I’ve been made fun of my whole life for my height so it really gets to me sometimes!

  34. Krista says:
    Tue, 21st Oct 20087:27 pm 

    I’m a girl thats only 5′2″ and I got to say, to me, a guy that’s 5′7″ is tall. Actually, that, or a bit shorter, is my ideal. Sorry tall guys, but I’ve dated some of you and it is very awkward for a 5′2″ girl to kiss a 6′3″ guy without getting a step stool. I love tall guys, but for me, I’m happy if you’re 5′4″.

  35. anonymoose says:
    Thu, 6th Nov 20084:24 pm 

    Carly, It is appreciated that you recognize that short men are humans and have it pretty tough. I’m 5′4″, and I don’t reek of confidence or have the looks of a model. I’m just a normal guy. I don’t think of myself as short, and I don’t think there really is anything wrong with me. Still, the discrimination is obvious and majorly life impacting.

    Relationships are very hard to come by. A lot of women won’t give short guys a chance, often for very superficial reasons and mostly for reasons of their own lack of confidence. Also, you have the girls that say “I tried it once and it didn’t work.” Short guys are just as diverse as every other group. Some of them are pretty bad and messed up, but many of them have learned to live with the hand they were dealt and are stronger better people for it.

    I hope that those women out there that refuse to consider a short guys will realize that all of the reasons and insecurities are just in your head. Yeah, you are allowed to have a preference. There is nothing wrong with that. At the same time though you should realize you are writing off guys that are so used to be written off and may deserve more of a chance then they usually get. Many of us short men are really great guys, and maybe some women who are wondering where the great guys are should realize they are all around you, but you have been systematically ignoring them.

    It is refreshing to see that someone out there realizes that short men are decent people. Your 5′8″ boyfriend is actually average height, at least in America, but still the things you said are very true and it is great to see someone come to those conclusion and share it with others. I am hopeful that in the future more people will realize that there deeply programmed prejudices are flaws in themselves, and not with the people they apply them to. Thanks.

  36. Iris says:
    Mon, 10th Nov 20084:36 pm 

    I’m about 5′5 and 27 and have always preferred guys who were at minimum 6′0. Just recently, I met and began casually dating a younger (2 years my junior) and shorter (5′7) guy. I have never dated younger or shorter–but this guy has more masculinity in him than any tall guy I’ve ever dated. I believe the reason is that he’s had to develop a personality and prove himself through out life.

  37. Charli says:
    Fri, 21st Nov 20089:37 am 

    well, right now, ive just started a relationship with one of my close friends after he confessed he had feelings for me. I agree with the Carly- you gotta give em a chance too.

    And I have. Even though I like to be engulfed in big hugs, lean up to kiss etc. But now I’m wondering, how should I kiss him? I’ve always been on the slightly bigger built side, and I am extremely insecure by it. Thus if I’m leaning down to kiss him, it would feel really awkward, and if I feel that, he’s bound to know that something’s wrong and it would be unfair to make him feel bad about it cause he’s actually such a sweetie.

    So, can anyone please help me with this? I just need advice on how to kiss.

    Thankyou!

  38. NARS says:
    Sun, 23rd Nov 20088:45 pm 

    Wow, 5′8″ is short? As a guy, that makes be feel real insignificant standing at 5′4″. ;_; But I’m Filipino and 5′4″ is supposed to be average for males. Most of my (Filipino) friends are still taller than me lol.

    So yeah short guys are definitely at a disadvantage when it comes to the ladies. I’ve been put in the ‘friend’ plenty of times because of my height. And the excuses are just as ridiculous “Oh, you’re an awesome guy, cute and all, but I like to wear tall heels and want someone that can stand up to me.” Superficial stuff like that.

    I suppose we have to put forth more effort into relationships. Of course, everybody has their preferences but I believe a woman’s desire for tall men stems from the need to feel safe, secure, dominated etc and they can only get that from tall men. So, as a short guy, I need to try that much harder to ensure that those needs are satisfied. How? I’m still working on that lol.

  39. Jessey says:
    Tue, 25th Nov 20081:42 am 

    I hate when people tease me of hight. Like during the 7th grade I was 4′7″. And these 2 retards teased me about it like oh your going to need a ladder to kiss a girl. I am a smart, sensitive, athletic and have a bunch of other good chracteristics. Some girls saw me for that but the others just saw/ teased me because of my hight. And proabably got atleased 50 insults a week because of my hight. So don’t worry about hight, and if people tease you about than their stupid and immature.

  40. Jesse says:
    Fri, 28th Nov 200812:03 am 

    Height is a very important factor for the vast vast majority of people in choosing a mate. There is not one single piece of evidence proving otherwise. Sure, if you take a large enough sample size you will find girls who claim to not care about height. Just look at how the average height has steadily increased over the decades. This is in part due to short guys not reproducing at the same rate as their taller bretheren.

  41. kerrie says:
    Sun, 7th Dec 20087:29 am 

    Its all about confidence and the sweetness of a guy.though i have a prefrence for tall guys

  42. JC says:
    Fri, 26th Dec 20087:05 am 

    Seems to me like the short guys complaining here suffer from lack of confidence, not lack of height.

    Yes, most women would *prefer* their guy be taller, *all things being equal*… but that’s never been a problem for me at 5′5″.

    Here’s what I recommend: Just be charming, awesome, good at what you do, fun to be around, have some style and good in bed. All this can be learned. Just like a woman’s physique, it’s all pretty much within your control. Hey, works for me! (Doesn’t hurt if you’re devastatingly handsome either… Sorry if you don’t have that one goin’ for ya ;)

    C’mon. Prince does just fine with the ladies, and he’s 5′2″! Look at Frank Sinatra (5′7″), Al Pacino (5′6″), Jon Stewart (5′6″), Dudley Moore (5′2″), Dustin Hoffman (5′5″), Tom Cruise (5′7″), Michael J. Fox (5′4″), Bono (5′6″), and Beck (5′7″). None of these guys were hurtin’ for a date. Plenty of women consider each one of them to be dead sexy.

    I’ve been with a number of women who thought they’d NEVER date a shorter man. Trust me, you can surprise them… but first you have to surprise yourself. Good luck!

    A final word: Anyone who has strict physical requirements for a partner isn’t worth dating to begin with! So if you run into someone who’d completely and irrevocably rule you out based on one superficial characteristic, there’ only one thing to do: Rule THEM out for being a damn fool; Such people have it all backwards. THEY aren’t in YOUR league.

    Just remember to be as awesome as you can be. It’s a tall order, but short guys are great at it.

  43. Annie says:
    Fri, 9th Jan 200910:05 pm 

    I do prefer for my men to be taller, but at 4′11, it isn’t difficult for me.

    Also, since when is 5′8 short? Isn’t that more like average?

  44. Danny says:
    Fri, 30th Jan 20098:18 pm 

    I thought the comments here were interesting! I like tall and short guys, I’m short and it’s relaly hard for me to find someone shorter than me hot, but I do remember one guy, he was so hot! I was suprise cause I never seen anyone shorter than me as hot as me! but all my bfs i’ve been with were tall, I have nothing against short men, just that I love men with long legs =) but I would date a short in relative to someone who is 6 feet who had a good personality, awesome face and body, and a good job to support himself, and intelligence and confidence turn me on so it doesn’t matter if he’s tall or short, but most guys who try to get at me is tall.

    as for that girl who is 5′3, anyone shorter than 5′3 is not a little person that is retarded!

  45. Danny says:
    Fri, 30th Jan 20098:20 pm 

    this is a message for Jesse.. lol first of all the reason why people are tlal these days is cause in America the food has chemicals in them, if you dont know that you’re lost. lol there are short parents who produce tall children, hellooooo? anybody upstairs? lol

  46. A Guy says:
    Mon, 16th Feb 200912:05 am 

    A girl’s affinity for a taller guy stems waaaaaay back to prehistoric times because girls wanted a guy who could physically protect the girl’s offspring. That basic instinct is never gonna change.

    Short guys tend to overcompensate for their shortness either by looking extra strong, smart, or rich. Sometimes it’s fine, other times the guy turns into an obnoxious, tough-talking, tattooed, 5-foot tall meathead. A girl would ONLY consider mating with a short guy if she perceived him as wealthy and educated, because in this day and age money can also provide security to the woman’s offspring.

    All I can say is thank dna that I’m 6 ft…

  47. kurt says:
    Tue, 31st Mar 200910:19 am 

    im 5′5 and nothing special to look at. hell if anything im downright ugly. ok thats maybe going a little bit too far but the point is i get ass all the time. maybe not as much as id like but i have high expectations. for as far back as i can remember ive either been in a relationship or just doin the random hookup thing, which is way better cause man girls just get on ur nerves sometimes. anyways, they think im hot, cause i know im hot. some of you guys are saying that your “sensitive” or good guys. what the fuck does that even mean first of all? sensitive is not a quality to be bragging about if ur a man. heres an idea, grow a pair of balls and use them. girls want a confidant MAN who can take care of them. height is a factor that gives taller men an advantage simply because the girl immediately gets that sense of security from his larger body. but it sounds like alot of you are just pussys in general. honestly, why dont you go cry yourself to sleep because noone likes you because your short? obviously thats the reason noone likes or respects you. not because of the fact that you have no self-esteem and act like a whiny little girl on her period. even if you hate how you look and wish you were completely different, never let them see you bleed. do whatever it takes to boost your self esteem and get out there and just be confidant with what you do have. try working out or learning to box. respect yourself and others will respect you. think that you are sexy and others will think that you are sexy. and if someone does disrespect you…for the love of god dont let them get away with it unscathed.

  48. marley says:
    Sat, 9th May 200911:25 pm 

    I stand at 5′10” and my boyfriend is barely 5′8”; but we balance it out, i am tall and thin and he is a very athletic 5′8” so i feel like we balance each other out, and i’ll be honest, every once and a while i do feel the height difference but 99% of the time i don’t think about it and i don’t care because our love is more important to me than anything as superficial as a stigma about height. My bf, however happens to be self conscious about his height like every other shorter male, but i do my best to show him i love him exactly how he is.

  49. Zakk says:
    Mon, 11th May 20091:25 pm 

    I am fifteen years old, and very insecure about my height.
    I am barely 5′7′.
    But somehow, I seem to be able to get any girl I want.. so many girls are into me I can’t even count them all. If I wanted to, I could have sex with a new girl every day. I practically have to peel them off of me after school every. My girlfriend is 5′8. and it doesn’t bother her at all.
    but I am worried that once I get older, and girls mature to women, they’re going to want a stronger.. taller ‘protective’ figure.

  50. Erebus says:
    Wed, 27th May 20096:10 am 

    I’m 35, I’m 5′7′ and my fiancee from 7 years (will get married this year probably) is 6′ 1″, indeed a very tall women. I’ve never had a problem with my height in my life, except whit boys, because at school boys thinked I was short and so I was easy “target”, so I had to learn a bit of self confidence trough martial arts and gym, but then never had to fight really, because tall guy are like noisy dogs: when u do more noise right in their face, they go away showing muscle and saying “I’m sparing you THIS time” just not to loose face, so I just had to react and show my personality all life and I was good. I never ever thinked to have a problem at dating taller womens, actually I always (almost always) had gf taller than me, and usually pretty tall and gorgeous womens. So just be confident of yourself as a man, and if you find a women who can’t date you because of your height, don’t loose time on her even if u think she is cool, because she has a stupid prejudice and is an insecure woman, and U KNOW u WANT a secure, intelligent, funny woman, like you and like my Love :)

  51. Stewart leverington-cummings says:
    Fri, 12th Jun 20098:17 am 

    I wish alot of guys wouldnt have too many hangups about their height.Alot say they havent had many girlfriends.I think you just lack abit of self esteem.Take me i am 19 and my height is 5′2 i have a girlfriend from school who is very caring and understands me.Now she is 20 and her height is 5′4,she even likes to wear high heels as alot of women like to do.On occasions she is about 5′7 or 5′8 when we go out.It doesnt bother me as soon has we get home she kicks her shoes off and we are similar in height.I have asked her if she is bothered with me being shorter than her but she just says no.At school i always have had girls wanting me to take them to the cinemas.The same at clubs when i am not with my girlfriend i go with mates and i am forever having woman come up to me.My mates get abit frustrated as they look on and wonder.It depends on how you carry yourself.Good luck.

  52. Michelle Jackson says:
    Fri, 12th Jun 20098:40 am 

    Being short for my age as never been a problem for me.Coming from short parents i didnt expect anything else.My dad is only 5′1 and my mum is only 4′9.I have an younger sister who is 21 and she is 5′3 followed by my brother who is 19 and he is 4′10.I come in at 24 and my height is 4′7.While growing up my mum told me about her experiences in being short and how she met our dad. I had read about an exclusive club that had opened up about 5 miles from home.It was for people with restricted growth both male and female could turn up.Now where i live the only short people were us so i thought i would give it a go.My mum said to try it has it was a good idea.My dad dropped me off and said he would return to pick me up later.I couldnt believe it when i walked through the doors it seemed like a whole new world to me.There i was being able to look into the faces of people when i spoke to them.There were about 30 of us the guys were between 4′6 and 5′0 and the women were something like 4′5 and 4′10.The leader of the group said that this was the first time he had met people as short has himself.We spent about 2 hrs talking to eachother and decided to go to the local pub for a drink.Now as soon as we walked in most of us had to show i.d for our age.Some were okay has they used this pub alot so it was just newcomers.Dave decided to sort out a round of drinks for us and being the tallest we picked him to go.When we sat down a guy called Bryan sat next to me.He seemed very happy and we carried on chatting most of the group were glad they gave it a try.Bryan told me how he is the only one in his family that is this way.He as a younger sister who is 5′7 and an older brother who is 5′10.While being at the club Bryan was pretty quiet till we got to the pub.It was like non stop talking.Bryan lived in the same town as me and i never ever saw him and same for him.At the end of the night we decided to meet up again.Has i phoned my dad to pick me up Bryan asked if he could take me back seeing as we were going the same way.I said okay and off we went to get his car.I wasnt surprised that he had the seat pulled up and a cushion and extension pedals put on.Has we walked ti his car he said quietly that he really thought this was going to be hopeless and that he is glad he gave the club a try.I said to Bryan how tall he actually was and he said to be frank with you i think i am shorter than you.I laughed and said no way has he was a couple of inches taller than me.I said naw you must be about 4′10 he laughed and when we got to his car he kicked his shoes off and said come to me now.I stood next to him and he was now a couple of inches shorter.He said that he likes to wear shoes with the biggest heels possible.He was right he stood about 4′5 and he realised that he was the shortest one there when he turned up and was glad he had these shoes on.So far everything is working well at the club and i have mad quite a few friends from there and Bryan is one of them.I know he wants to take things further i just said i didnt want to rush things.We will see..

  53. Katarina says:
    Mon, 6th Jul 200910:48 pm 

    #

    steve says:
    Wed, 20th Aug 20083:52 pm

    ‘i am very iltelligent’

    Nice grammar, I couldn’t help laughing out loud when you wrote that!

  54. John says:
    Thu, 9th Jul 20092:32 am 

    I’m 26, 5′3″, bulky, stout frame, not lean to say the least, and I never really had a problem with girls. And I am not rich either (if that is what you are thinking). Two of my previous GFs were my height and one was ard 5′5″. Current gf/fiancee is around my height.

    IMO:
    1. The way what I see it, when you are lying down, everyone’s the same height anyway.
    2. Presence/confidence matters more than height.
    3. Not all girls are shallow, some are, but there plenty out there who aren’t.

    I have friends who are way taller than me, tone, lean, but never had a GF before. Those friends typically do not have a clue about girls at all.

  55. Abby says:
    Sat, 18th Jul 20099:28 am 

    Short guys are HOT? Ummm….no they aren’t. Short guys aren’t masculine at all. Dating one would be like dating a little boy…..yuck!

  56. jennifer says:
    Sun, 26th Jul 200910:25 am 

    short men below 5 5″ , should all be rounded up and hanged. All are waste of time.

  57. greg says:
    Thu, 6th Aug 20095:48 pm 

    I am a short guy. While that does instantly take like 60% of all the available ladies out of the dating arena, the 40% that are left over is still a very large number. I think it helps that I am stocky and fit. I was standing next to a guy that was the same height as me but skinny. I just felt about a foot taller. And I notice that some short guys don’t look short, while other do.

    And it depends on what you want in life. If you want to be player, well you’re going to have to get a job that creates a ton of cash flow. If you want to find a nice, pretty girl to marry and build a life with. Well there is nothing wrong with being a nice sincere guy, with a good job that knows how to treat a lady.

    Oh, but don’t ever get a women that seeks to control you.

  58. Dee says:
    Mon, 10th Aug 20093:21 am 

    short at 5′ 8″!!!!!!!!!!!
    u got to be kidding me!!!!!!!!!!!!
    im 5′ 2″ and my boyfriend of 3+ yrs is 4′ 10″!!!!!!!!!!!
    lyk i luv him lyk crazy cuz hes lyk da most amazin person ever but u noe damn 5′ 8″ short. do u have any idea how much my bf WISHES he was 5′2″ or even 5′ for me!!!!!!!!!!!! he never cared bout his height ever b4 but we started goin out a long time ago he would here every1 tellin me “but hes so short” n it reely reely bothered us cuz lyk wtf! but u noe wat w/e cuz we been 2gether da longest out of anyone we know n he is amazin in every way hes great 2 his parents great 2 me crazy spontaneous personality great hair great eyes n friggin amazin in bed 2 n we can still even now talk for hrs n hrs n hrs n hrs i luv him n im glad i dont care wat ppl say cuz damn if 5′8″ is short wats 4′10″???

  59. Jesse Generic says:
    Mon, 10th Aug 20095:29 am 

    First off, Abby and Jennifer… You’re both stupid and naive. I’m kind of short. I am a five foot four United States Marine. I like to think I’m pretty masculine… I mean, it kind of goes with the job. Haha. I have no idea what all these other short guys are complaining about. It’s not hard for me to attract women. Even before I joined the Marine Corps… I use to be a short punk rocker, with a mohawk and a leather jacket. I had no problem with the ladies… My ex-girlfriend is five foot eleven, and ot wasn’t awkward at all… She still tells me that she’s in love with me every time I talk to her… She was a little obsessive. Lol.
    Oh, and all you mentally-disabled losers who claim to be short at five-seven, and five eight…. WTF? You guys are doushe bags! Hahaha.

  60. Henry says:
    Mon, 10th Aug 200911:29 pm 

    Im a 5′6″ guy and have never had a problem with my height. I do have a massive dong though to which has always helped me with confidence.

  61. Jdub says:
    Wed, 12th Aug 20095:36 pm 

    I’m 5′ 5″ and my girlfriend is 5′ 8″. We’re freakin cute. I’ve also been called hot by all of her friends. Guys, if you’re short, don’t be a wus about it. It’s not always about how tall you are but how much presence you have. But i must say, it never really feels “right” being shorter but it works out. I’m also jacked so people don’t give me too much crap.

  62. SMan says:
    Tue, 18th Aug 20096:45 pm 

    I’m a guy standing 5′7. I had gfs and sex partners in my life, It’s not generally about height. How many women SAY they want a nice guy? and how many women SAY they want a tall guy. Most of them do, but it’s something that goes out the window. I always joke about my height, I show them that my lack of height don’t affect my lack of confidence.

    If a woman turn you down solely based on your height she doesn’t love you or is extremely superficial. It’s not the quality woman we would want to date.

    A short woman who are below her other female friends is having insecurities. She doesn’t like her height, so she think that a man tall can cover her insecurities. I think the height issue is more located in our own heads than the women’s head.

    The chihuahua type of men is not a turn on, or the guy with a napoleons complex. The thing is that its no need to bulk up, gain muscles, look like a short plug or try to compensate in all other ways. We are who we are, and it’s extremely important for us to stay calm, collected and laidback. We don’t want to be that chihuahua or that stereotype of a short jerky guy. Once we manage to show confidence things will improve.

    Why should we lower our standards or just “go for what we can have?” just because we are short. We gotta find ways to kill those prejudices and project alpha masculinity in the right traits.

    I have a 5′4 gf and none of the reasons in the past why my exes left me was because of my height. There were other reasons. I know many guys being 5′7-5′9 who gets ass every weekend.

    We must accept that we can’t grow taller.

    Women don’t know what they want. Women SAY sometimes what they want because it seems logical, but what they respond to is a totally different thing.

    Be honest, stay firm, stay confident, don’t take crap form no one, be nice with your women. But only when they deserve it, if they treat you bad you gotta be able to walk out that door anytime soon.

    When you can safely guide your girl through the streets, drive safely, stay collected and rational when everyone else can’t and safely get her out of your unpleasant situations then you are a protector.

    It’s no need to have a big buff gorilla walking around who says KILL constantly… What are the odds that some crazy thug gang is gonna come beating up our women.

    I’d say that showing the right traits and projecting masculinity, being outgoing, fun and confident is the ultimate key to success with women.

  63. T says:
    Tue, 25th Aug 20096:43 am 

    I’ve always be in the shorter range of height, but I’ve always had more luck with girls since grade school than my taller friends. To me being short is almost like my weapon of destruction, but actually I’m not even that short anymore I’m just used to being the shortest one in my group. Anyway for women its not like its ONLY height, because you also gotta be good looking. If you are tall but not that good looking a good looking shorter guy maybe have the edge on you, but if u are tall and good looking then you will have greater access to the taller women. But really when couples get together and pair up they mostly will find a partner that matches their own attractiveness so there is really nothing to worry about.

  64. Sam says:
    Tue, 25th Aug 20095:56 pm 

    I just started seeing a guy that’s about 5′4 or 5′5. I’m 5′3 and always dated guys over 6′0, so it was weird at first, but I really like it. It’s easier to hug him and look in his eyes and all that. It’s a nice change.

  65. Brian says:
    Fri, 11th Sep 20092:11 pm 

    Ok you guys that are 5′8″ + and you think your short? I’m 5′4″ and lemme tell ya I get called hot all the damn time but i’m undateable. I think i’d rather be ugly instead of short. Being short is the only thing women are united about not liking in men. And even if we find a woman who does like shorter guys, the 6′8″ guys are more interested…So i gave up females my hand does the job and w/out all the headache.

  66. Dave Stewart says:
    Fri, 11th Sep 20095:40 pm 

    I have always been short and had alot of trouble finding a partner.Being a guy and only 4′10 tall is alot to comprehend for a female.I mean whereas alot of my friends and family all know what i am like.Take quite a while back now i was at a club with my friends and i found a bar stool to sit on which was much more comfortable for me has my friends are between 5′9 and 6′4.Now trying to talk to people is a pain having to always look upright.On nights out with these guys it was worse still being that bit taller.Has i was seated on the bar stool i woman squeezed past my friends to get some drinks has she was getting served i thought that she seemed average height for a woman.I decided to help her with her drinks has her friends were talking.I got off the stool and forgetting how tall i am when i stood up to help her she was a good 6 ins taller than me.I took her drinks over and chatted with her and her friends.I was backwards and forwards with her and my friends.By the end of the night i asked if she wanted to go out another time with me and was politely told that it possibly cant work out because she only like tall guys.I then remembered back to the other knock backs with my height.I am now married to a decent woman who is 5′4 and to me that is the perfect height.I dont think that anyone much taller than that would have worked for me.Maria is quite sensitive and when we go out she wears heels when she likes and it never bothers me.They may be only a couple of inches but it isnt always.It is quite funny when she wants me to give her a cuddle and when we lay on the sofa watching t.v she is much more comfortable and my feet are a few inches away.She forgets and says oh can you rub my feet with your toes and then she realises that i cant reach them.I like it best when she lets me stand up and we kiss and cuddle has my head is just leans on her shoulder.Growing up my nickname was always called dinky dave and as soon has i am indoors it stops and i am plain Dave.

  67. Warren Mitchell says:
    Fri, 11th Sep 20096:05 pm 

    Growing up i always knew i was gonna be short, when i used to have my mum pick me up from school i was always the last has my teachers couldnt see my mum with all the tall mums.I was always saying to my mum why cant you stand near the front but she always said that she didnt like pushing in.At parents evening when i was 9 it dawned on me that my mum was quite short compared to the rest of the parents.I decided to ask my mum how tall she actually was.Not that it meant that much to me when she said 4′8.I then clicked that even though she was taller than me i had to go through the height measurement at school with the rest of my year.At first we did boys oldest to youngest i was one of the youngest and the shortest out of all the boys.We had to endure the tallest to youngest in the boy group there i was again at the end of the line.The nurse had come up to the school and measured us so it was done proper she had a proper height machine and we had to stand on it.The nurse shouted out our heights and we had to stand in the shortest to tallest order.The tallest boy if i remember correctly was 4′11 and the shortest boy was me at 4′3.The next shortest was 4′6 and he was laughing at me because i was shorter than him.I didnt take much notice of the girls until we had to stand in line with them and i wasnt even taller than any of the girls which i thought so.Over the years i grew steadily and i hoped everyday that i would grow taller than my mum.I already had to watch my younger brother and sister outgrow me and i was getting frustrated.My mum was always saying that she hoped i would grow taller than her has it wouldnt be fair on me if i ended up way short.I was always getting my mum to check my height on my birthdays to see if i was getting taller or not.I thought surly i can grow to 4′8 like mum i couldnt handle it if i was going to be shorter than her.In secondary school i had my brother and sisters friends asking was i really older than them.My brother Mark was already 6 ins taller than me and Chrissy was a good 5 inches taller.I think i was about 16 and i said to my mum lets check how tall i am has i thought i had just gone through a growth spurt.Has i looked at my mum has she marked the chart she said i think it is 4′7.I was abit unhappy has my mum was still slightly taller than me and even more noticeable when we all went out has she wore high heels and i stood out more.I am now 22 years old and just had to have a physical for my new job at the doctors.They did a weight and height measurement for me.The nurse was already taller than me anyway i was asked to kick my shoes off to get an accurate measurement.Has i looked up at the height machine has per usual she pulls down the indicator onto my head.I am then told i am 4′9 so somewhere along the line i grew a couple of inches from age 16.The job i do is suited for a short guy and i come in handy for the taller ones.So all round we are happy even more so because i did get to grow an inch taller than mum.

  68. Caspian says:
    Sat, 12th Sep 20099:24 pm 

    A lot of people have said that for women, height is just a preference, for a lot of cases this isn’t true. I was at a college party and was talking to a very pretty 5′5 girl. I’m not trying to appear big headed, i’m just being accurate. she said i was “a very uniquely good looking guy and that that she admired my respect for women” and then we hooked up, the next day she sobered up and realised that me being 5′8 (3 inches taller than her) was not tall enough and went back to her cheating boyfriend.

    As i said, I’m 5′8. I am lucky enough to get girls. I however, have never had a girlfriend which is crippilingly lonely and saddening; not having some one other than a family member to love and care for you, and for you to do the same for them. But don’t be disheartened. If your short, exploit your strengths, whether you’re funny, clever, handsome or athletic. Girls dig confidence, the catch 22 is that a lot of people see confident short guys as having a ‘Napoleonic Complex’ where as other guys are just cool and confident.

  69. Caspian says:
    Sat, 12th Sep 20099:37 pm 

    PS: Abbey and Jenifer dont be silly little girls now, you know bloody well that you wouldnt say NO to Zack efron 5′8 or Emile Hirsch 5′6.

  70. freena says:
    Tue, 15th Sep 200911:14 am 

    dis is just for jess….wen i read ur post i ws like man same s happening wid me …the height diffrnce thng and the yearning for his mysterious transformation !
    i really wish it happened…

  71. Christian says:
    Fri, 18th Sep 20098:57 pm 

    Actually I’m Chinese too, 5′5 and I agree with the comment above and don’t take offence. Yes there are a lot of tall Asians and a lot of short whites and blacks but on a whole we are a smaller race.

    I get rejected a lot and I think it is my height to be honest. Which I think is sad for the women involved because like you said they cut-out a lot of guys just because they are shorter than them, even if it’s an inch shorter.

    I know it’s natural to have your own attractions and inbuilt attractions towards taller guys for most women but there’s no disguising the fact that it is the same as discriminating against something they cannot control. And when that thing they can’t control is their height?? That sounds crazy because it makes no sense.

    I can understand if someone doesn’t look after themselves, ie is disheveled or is overweight. Yes you can clean up, workout, diet and look great. But that’s something someone can have influence over and do something about. I can’t change my height, anymore than I can change my race.

    And when so many women won’t consider a guy who is even a little bit shorter than them or the same height. Well…

    I’d be interested to know from the opposite end. Tall women have you ever liked a guy who was a bit shorter than you or the same height and found they didn’t want to go out with you because of your height?

  72. Christian says:
    Fri, 18th Sep 20098:57 pm 

    Actually I’m Chinese too, 5′5 and I agree with the comment above and don’t take offence. Yes there are a lot of tall Asians and a lot of short whites and blacks but on a whole we are a smaller race.

    I get rejected a lot and I think it is my height to be honest. Which I think is sad for the women involved because like you said they cut-out a lot of guys just because they are shorter than them, even if it’s an inch shorter.

    I know it’s natural to have your own attractions and inbuilt attractions towards taller guys for most women but there’s no disguising the fact that it is the same as discriminating against something they cannot control. And when that thing they can’t control is their height?? That sounds crazy because it makes no sense.

    I can understand if someone doesn’t look after themselves, ie is disheveled or is overweight. Yes you can clean up, workout, diet and look great. But that’s something someone can have influence over and do something about. I can’t change my height, anymore than I can change my race.

    And when so many women won’t consider a guy who is even a little bit shorter than them or the same height. Well…

  73. tony says:
    Tue, 22nd Sep 20099:43 pm 

    im only 5′6 and i never really had a problem with girls, these guys complaining that they are short virgins has a lot to do with how comfortable they are with themselves. if you’re embarrased about your height, then you will definently have a problem.

    any girl who will only date guys of a certain height, are not the kind of girls i would ever want to be with, so it’s actually an advantage for me because i don’t have to waste my time with them. although i would never date a women who is like 6 inches tall, there’s a limit…if a girl is 5′4 and will not date a guy who is less then 5′8, there’s something wrong with her, i wouldn’t even be friends with someone like that.

  74. Sarah says:
    Tue, 6th Oct 20092:47 am 

    Ahh these discussions never end. People buy into the crap the world feeds them and mostly aren’t bothered to question it. I don’t think any of the excuses are valid reasons for not dating a shorter man (unless he has issues with it). Ultimately you’re just letting society’s rules control you. I’m not saying it’s easy to dismiss the stereotypes and offer yourself up to funny looks, judgements from others and feeling weird (it’s natural due to how we’re brought up). But so long as you realize that, fine. It’s up to you how far you want to ‘conform’ and how far you want to push the normal boundaries. Just don’t think it’s your independent true opinion not influenced by outside society. Cause that’s bullshit.

    I met a guy 6″ shorter than me and had an instant crush on him. I was very attracted to him physically and personality wise. But I didn’t consider it an option because of the height difference. We became friends and he eventually asked me out. I said I ‘didn’t know’ and went home and had a panic attack. I freaked out cause I couldn’t believe I would say no to someone I liked so much based on such a stupid issue like height and yet there I was considering doing just that. I eventually talked to him about it and decided I couldn’t rule it out unless I gave it a proper try. We’ve been seeing each other for a while now and he’s the most promising guy I’ve ever met. The uncomfortable feelings I had about the height issues went away pretty fast (unexpectedly) and I’d now even say I like being taller. Does this make me less shallow than other women? No. It makes me more open minded and willing to challenge pointless stereotypes. The only reason I’d not date a guy shorter than me would be if he had issues with it. This guy doesn’t. He’s simply who he is. I feel ridiculously lucky.

  75. Darwin - New York University says:
    Tue, 6th Oct 20097:28 pm 

    Being 5′6 (though my girlfriend keeps telling me that I’m only 5′5), I think there definitely can be confidence issues over it, but you live with what you have and who cares about the girls that judge harshly on height anyway.

  76. Justin says:
    Wed, 21st Oct 200910:03 pm 

    Jen and Abby .. whoever you bitches are..
    can go fuck yourselves :)

  77. Vincent says:
    Wed, 28th Oct 20093:53 pm 

    I’m short, and GQ baby girls. Every woman I have dated has been taller and between 7 1/1-10. Its one thing to be short and puny, and its another to be short and muscular, well read and educated. Girls will screw around with all sorts of jokers and clowns until they want to settle down. I’m 5′3 1/2 and the lady whose one day going to be my wife is like 6 feet with out heels.

    More power to me!
    The chiwahwah that bites

  78. David says:
    Tue, 3rd Nov 200912:47 pm 

    This is why it is easier for short guys to just have sex with children.

  79. Michelle says:
    Wed, 11th Nov 20091:39 pm 

    I’m six foot two and the best relationship I ever had was with a guy who was five foot ten. Especially if you’re tall for a girl, choosing not to date guys because they’re short (or shorter) is close minded. I’ll admit that it can be awkward at times, but there are a lot of great guys in the world who are maybe a bit shorter than you may have liked. Plus, you probably wouldn’t like it very much if a guy didn’t want to date you because you were “too tall”.

  80. caapolio says:
    Fri, 13th Nov 20095:19 am 

    i was in love with a girl and she turn me down ,just because am shorter than her,this real bullshit, you should love poeple for who they are because everybody are special in their own way

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