Bitches Is Crazy: How To Deal

August 7, 2008 11:30 am     Posted in Reality  Tuffy Luv g+ page

catfight.jpgYeah, you heard right: Bitches is crazy.


By Tuffy Luv

Every girl has a story about some other girl who stabbed her in the back and then made her feel like crap about it. I mean, unfortunately, it’s a fact of life. Women are mean to each other.

Now, obviously, this is messed up. Aren’t men mean enough? Why do we have to make each other miserable too? But the fact is, we do.

So how to deal with such underhandedness? Cry? Scream? Pee in her soup?

Nope! Take the high road and follow these easy tips for counteracting cattiness. Because, seriously? She’s SO not worth it.

Don’t Cry

This is usually the first instinct. In that stinging moment when you discover her betrayal, tears almost always seem inevitable.

But fight those motherf*ckers!! Tears make her happy and make you look upset. And that’s what you don’t want. Think about something really funny and bite the inside of your cheek. Do NOT let her see you cry.

Talk To Your Mother

Or your aunt or your grandma or your older sister or your cousin, or anyone who automatically has your back and won’t tell anyone. This is the place where you can cry. Get it all out here, because this is your last chance.

(And buy whoever this is dinner, because they deserve it for listening.)

Make a List

Write down the things that upset you about the situation. Then cross out all the things on your list that will actually hurt you in the long run. Chances are, you’ll find there aren’t any. And if there is one, think about how you can run damage control before it gets any worse.

Cut Contact

Don’t get revenge. It’ll only bite you in the butt in the long run.

Instead, think about ways you can avoid her. Of course, you should always be polite when you see her–but only polite, not friendly. She is obviously not worth the negative energy.

If she’s a close friend or someone who you have to work with or anything like that, you will need to talk to her. Explain to her why she hurt your feelings and see how she reacts. If she goes on the defensive or tries to act like a martyr, just say you understand and resolve to remain polite but distant. If, however, she is truly sorry, then perhaps you can live to friend another day.

Get Over It

Yeah, it seems impossible. But you gotta do it.

Let it go and feel the relief of knowing you took the high road. You are making the best decision for you by avoiding drama and handling her bitchiness as an adult. Let her next victim seek revenge (and end up regretting it)–you don’t need her validation to be who you are.

Congratulations. You’ve just conquered cattiness. And you didn’t even break a sweat.

[Image courtesy of http://www.stephenrahn.com. Doesn't it make fighting look oh-so-cute?]

15 Comments on "Bitches Is Crazy: How To Deal"

  1. hanabira says:
    Thu, 7th Aug 20088:01 am 

    whenever someone you haven't wronged is a bitch to you take it as a compliment- if something about you makes a person that jealous then you must be doing something right.

  2. Claire says:
    Thu, 7th Aug 20086:57 pm 

    I've always found that if the other girl has confronted you and is screaming and yelling at you for whatever, it's best to say in a very quiet and calm voice, "I can see that you're upset. Why don't you take some time to cool down. I don't want to make this situation anyworse."

    At first it really frustrates them and they blow up but once you walk away from them and exhibit how calm you are the other person tends to see how crazy they're acting. You take the high road and let things fizzle a little bit before any discussion begins. High stress really just gets elevated in these situations.

  3. Sarah says:
    Fri, 8th Aug 20086:12 am 

    I don't think I've let it go:

    In high school I had a crush on my good friend, Lee. When I decided that I wanted to ask him out, I found out a friend of mine had been interested in him much earlier(although at that time she was dating someone else). Out of utmost respect, I pulled her aside one day and made sure I wouldn't be stepping on her toes by asking him out. Her response was, "Oh no, I don't like him that way anymore. You should go for it!" with a big, shit-eating grin on her face.

    You can guess that the NEXT DAY, her and Lee were walking around hand-in-hand, with plans to call the current BF and break up with him so she could start anew with the man I obviously wanted for myself. Well, I didn't let her see me cry, but I did (I'm pretty sure I've never cried so hard in my life…this guy was perfect for me and I knew it!). The day after, I resolved to do my best to forget about it and carry on as usual, because Lee meant too much to me as a friend to jeopardize losing him over all that drama. Plus, I figured, they were so different, their relationship shouldn't last THAT long.

    WRONG. They went out for over THREE YEARS–enough time for me to get in and out of the most debilitating relationship of my life.

    In the end, however, I bided my time and captured his heart. We love each other so much, but the thought of that bitch still unearths the same emotions: anger and jealousy that she got him first through her back-stabbing ways.

    So what do you think, CC, am I over it?

  4. Steph says:
    Sat, 9th Aug 20083:37 am 

    My supervisor is the biggest bitch I've ever met. She went apeshit yesterday and cussed out all the employees, damaged some stuff in the office, and left.

  5. GiGi says:
    Sun, 10th Aug 20086:21 pm 

    Woa, Sarah. I would have lost it on that bitch. Stomped her neck in or something. Ugghhh i feel angry for you!

    I remeber in 7th grade i had the biggest crush on this boy, D. We were Brad and Angie in love in my head. It was between me and another chick, we were tied for best looking girl in our class when she stsrted school late in october. She won because she was curvier on top than I. He asked her out on one knee with a flower when i knew it would have been for me. I'd always fussed over him, and everyone knew I'm head over heels.

    It hurt me deep down to my soul when i saw that bitch look me straight in the eyes and then make out with him in my face. I bolted from the room in tears. Vowed never to give this boy the time of day and i kept it.

  6. Sarah says:
    Mon, 11th Aug 20089:24 am 

    GiGi- It's good to know from my peers that my emotions are warranted. Thanks.

    As for your situation, you did the right thing by just ridding yourself of that guy. There was no sense in pining over him if he's going to pick a girl just because of her bust size. Good for you.

  7. J says:
    Wed, 13th Aug 20086:15 am 

    Oh man, I have never had a close relationship with a girl for exactly these reasons! I've always gotten along great with the guys, but girls are always snotty to me for some reason… :( boo.

    It sucks, but I mean ever since middle school (lol) I'd always get to a new school and girls would pretend to be my friend so they'd be in the 'in' crowd, but would always talk shit about me behind my back…

    And even now, in college, (I'm 22) just this year I decided to put my reservations aside, and be-friend a girl who used to be in LOVE with my boyfriend (he never liked her at all though, sad.. lol) although I knew she didnt like me from the beginning.

    Well she said she was over him, and saw how happy he was, etc… so we started talking and hanging out. But I would always sit and listen to her endless complaints about her self-image, or her lack of boyfriends, or whine about life, and I'd try to help her out with tons of advice and boost her confidence all the time.

    Well me and my bf hooked her up with his best friend (her first relationship, and it only lasted 3 months, tops) and he came back and told us all the crap she had been talking about me (and us) the entire time~

    I ended up telling her off in a nice way… how pathetic her jealousy made her look to everyone, and how crappy of a friend she was when I was only ever nice to her and tried to help her out…

    She still tries to talk to us all the time, but I dont think I should even bother investing any more in this girl.. What do you guys think? lol

    I've basically given up on girl friendships!

  8. Jen says:
    Tue, 11th Aug 20093:40 pm 

    Oh, J. I feel so sorry for you, love. There are bitches everywhere (both male and female) and they are insecure people who are jealous of you because there is something you have got that they havn't. But there are also wonderful girls out there who arn't bitchy or jealous in the slightest (myself being one, I rarely get jealous and I'd only say something nasty about a person if they did something to me first, and even then, thats not often too) Don't give p on freindships with lasses, you just need to find a girlfriend that fits your personality, lass! You can e-mail me if you ever need someone to talk too, girl

    Don't let them get to you, lass.

  9. beotch says:
    Sun, 16th May 20107:38 pm 

    ok well sarah and gigi…put me in the place of that bitch that took your guy, i backstabbed my best friend for this incrediably hot guy that she liked and it was awful, reading your post just melts my heart and hurts so bad i feel liek the biggest bitch born, ive tried apologizing for the past 3 months idk wut to do anymore, what would you have guys wanted ur freind that backstabbed you to do??

  10. N.... says:
    Sun, 15th May 20113:35 pm 

    I think you are spending time with the wrong type of girls. From the beginning, this girl was a red flag (she used to be in luv wit ur boyfriend). There are a lot of nice, sweet, confident and secure women out there, just be on the lookout for them, and know which ones to avoid.

  11. kiey says:
    Tue, 10th Apr 20122:33 pm 

    Uh I really needed this, thanks……..I just came to this new school were everyone or at least almost everyone is extremely rich and well I'm not and there's this extremely bitch girl who is so rich she's rolling in it and she's also super pretty and hot too. I'm a singer or at least an aspiring one. She treats me like dirt and you know the annoying part…I've never been mean to her I honestly dont know why she hates me. I try avoiding her but its just impossible seeing thtat we have to work together. You see I'm just 15 and we're on this field trip, today in the bus I was siting not up to five rows away from her and she was openongly talking about me. When she asked me what I wanted to be when grew up and I replied I was looking into theater arts. She laughed so loundly telling me I wont succed and crap like that. She said worst things too. I cried but I did not let her see me. I honestly dont kow what to do and I'm dreading tomorrow. Pls I need HELP

  12. Jewels says:
    Tue, 19th Jun 20125:40 am 

    ok, this is going to be a little rough, but you need to get yourself together. Bitches love hurting other people, especially weak low self-esteemed ones, they feedback from it , they don't need a reason to do it, they just like it and you need to start liking to defend back, don't think you can't. The sooner you realize this, the better it will be, you need to get angry and let the tension flow not stress you and push you down. Take a deep breath the next time she goes there again with her shenanigans and ask her Straight to her face: why? why are you always trying to say bad things about me that are not true? because you're rich and im not and you think that makes you better than anyone else? thats just pathetic, plain rubbish . Don't let the fear take you, you gotta be angry but stay rational; and be ready cause after you face her on, things will get a lot heavier.

  13. a8307761 says:
    Thu, 13th Dec 20123:11 pm 

    I’ve said that least 8307761 times. SKC was here…

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